Dare 2 Date

In this week's podcast, I interview Lauren Smith from  New Jersey in America about Mindful Dating. Lauren shares with us:

Lauren is an author, speaker, and host of the Date in Peace Podcast. Lauren combines her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, to empower singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.

You can find Lauren on:

Instagram - @mettadate

Website - https://www.mettadatestudio.com

Combining her own personal success story with her professional mindfulness training, Lauren empowers singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.

Last week I had a radio interview where I was asked a question that came from a reddit feed where a woman said how she tested men on dates to make sure they were suitable. She would meet them at a place where you BBQ'd your dinner and also shucked oysters. She felt that this was a great test to see how they dealt with doing something outside of the square. Also that shucking oysters is challenging and felt that it is a good test of the person's character to see how they respond.

In the radio interview, I was asked if this was a good test or not (find out my answer in this podcast).

This got me thinking about how do you make sure the person you date is right for you? 

Should you look for red, green, or beige flags on your date? Or is there a specific test that will guarantee you don't end up with another person who wastes your valuable time?

Let's face it you don't want another narcissistic, user or unavailable single.

In this week's podcast, I let you know what my answer was to the radio interview as well as answer these questions for you.

In this week's podcast, I am talking about having a broken picker!

What does this mean?

It means you keep dating the wrong type of people for you. You might think that they look different on the outside, and have different personalities but underneath all of that, they have the same behaviour as your ex.

Or you just have a habit of picking and being attracted to people who aren't good for you or want the same thing that you do.

Maybe you keep dating people who:

Maybe you think if only someone could choose for you, you could get the relationship you have always wanted.

I take a closer look at what will work to get you that relationship!

Time for another success story to give you hope that yours is on the way! There really isn't anything better than hearing someone's story who has been where you have been.

In this podcast, I talk to Donna Maree, who has a wonderful love story and is married to her soulmate. 

Before meeting him, Donna told me that she dated every disaster in Perth, Melbourne and overseas (slight exaggeration, but you get the picture, right)!

I ask Donna:

1. How did they meet?

2. How she got over all her dating disasters.

3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted?

4. And so much more. 

In this week's podcast, I am talking about what you can do to move from emotional fatigue in your dating life.

Dating can be full of people who:

You will experience:

Often there are no social ramifications for bad behaviour as there would be in a real-life situation.

I talk about what you can do to go from being a victim of your circumstances to changing the outcome.

So you can translate your matches into real-life dates. 

I’m excited to be having a special guest on the Dare2Date podcast this week. Amanda Lambros. 

Amanda is a Counsellor, Love Coach, Sexologist, Author, Speaker and Academic.  Amanda helps individuals and couples become happier, more connected and begin to finally feel appreciated and heard.   

In the interview, we talk about what it takes to create and maintain a wonderful relationship. 

I also ask Amanda:  

You can find Amanda on:  Instagram -  @AmandaLambros  https://www.amandalambros.com/

There are so many dating horror stories out there that it is easy to feel that it is impossible to meet someone you like let alone are able to fall in love with. I have decided to do a series of real-life love stories to help you see what is possible for you. Because there is nothing like hearing a love story from someone who is in a similar position as you are to see what is possible. The love stories will be sprinkled in with my regular podcast.

You are in for a treat in this week's podcast.

I am interviewing Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about how she found love after divorce. Becca had divorced in her 40s, had two young children and lived in Asia at the time. She couldn't see how it would be possible to date let alone find love.

Today Becca is in a beautiful relationship with a man she adores and who adores her. They have created a wonderful blended family where her children adore her partner and his children love her.

I ask Becca:

1. How did they meet?

2. How she was able to open her heart up after the divorce?

3. What type of ‘work’ did she need to do on herself to get the relationship she had always wanted? 

4. When they introduced their children to each other?

4. How they were able to manage the blended family?

You can find Becca on:

This. is a podcast interview that you don't want to miss!  I am talking to the founders of  Ziinkle, Elisse Alexander and Melanie Leahy. Ziinkle was launched in March 2022 and is a next-gen dating app that gets people meeting in real life by providing real-time information about which venues are buzzing with singles. Elisse and Melanie describe Ziinkle as a dating GPS for singles so you're in the right place at the right time.

it's not every day that you get to talk to the founders of an innovative dating app like Ziinkle.

In this podcast, Elisse and Melanie talk about what Ziinkle is and why they created another dating app.

I then asked them :

In this week's podcast, I discuss gender stereotypes when it comes to dating and relationships. 

Talking about gender stereotypes can be a controversial polarising subject. Why? Because everyone has a different view.

You only have to Google masculine and feminine energy and you will find a lot of information that can easily be misunderstood. 

I touched on this subject in Episode 51 - The Romance Gap. In this podcast, I will dive a little deeper.

I would also love to hear your thoughts on this subject!

Wasting time

As a dating/relationship coach, there are common problems that people contact me about, one is around wasting time

Each week I speak to 1 to 2 women who call me and say:

"Deb, I don't want to waste any more time. I am ready to be in a relationship and know what I want. Can you help me?"

My answer is YES!

For many of these women, the stakes are high. They could be in their 30s and want a family or they are looking for love the 2nd time around and know that who they choose to be with will impact their children.

The problem is that having the mindset that they don't want to waste time often makes them waste even more time.

Have you ever noticed when you are in a hurry for something to happen or to do something? Often when you are in a rush you can make silly mistakes, or even miss out on or not notice opportunities.

In this week's podcast, I let you know why not wasting time is a problem and let you how to change the wasting time mindset so you don't waste your time. 

Instead, you can slow down to save time!

In the podcast, I talk about a process I take my clients through that works.  If you don't want to try coaching, you can find how to work through this process in the How to Find the Best Match for YOU".