Dare 2 Date

Do you want to meet someone and feel something you haven’t felt before? Are you looking for that wonderful spark and to meet your soul mate?

It’s natural to look for that wonderful feeling. However, basing who you chose to be with solely on chemistry can be a recipe for disaster rather than happiness.

Let me explain why.

What can happen is you are attracted to people due to unresolved issues within you then you go on to recreate those very issues in your relationships.

This can happen from one failed relationship or even a series of failed relationships. Or it can come from childhood without you even realising it.

In this week's podcast, I explain what a Wound Mate is, and why it initially feels so good but doesn't stay that way.

I also talk about how you can break this pattern to choose a healthy relationship instead.

Do you think you will just meet someone and just know they are the one because you are pre-destined to meet? That you will click, feel chemistry or that elusive spark?

Do you base your decision on who you will date purely on physical attraction?

Dating apps have made dating more superficial than ever before but it takes so much more to fall in love. 

Did you know that there are four parts/steps to falling into love and physical attraction is only one part of that?

With approximately 50% of first marriages ending in divorce, it helps to know what they are. It is also important to follow the same steps to keep your relationship strong and healthy.

In this week's podcast, you will take a look at what it takes to fall in love and keep your love alive.

You're single and want to meet someone and have an amazing relationship.

But how do you guarantee that it will be a good relationship?

What should you look for and what should you do why you are waiting to meet the right person for you?

In this week's podcast, I tell you what research of 11,196 couples found were the three things to look for that make you much more likely to have a wonderful, healthy relationship.

I came across a meme on Instagram that said:

Stop telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves. Stop planting the idea in people's brains that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggles.

In this week's podcast, I talk about whether you need to love yourself to find love.

I recently saw a meme with a green stagnant swimming pool with the heading, 'The Dating Pool' and the comment missing the sharks!

I regularly see memes like these talking about how bad the dating pool is. However, is it?

In this week's podcast, I give you the answer as well as the top 6 ways of thinking that could be keeping you single.

It doesn't matter where you meet someone you will always need to have a conversation with them.

Did you know that that conversation can either get you a date or guarantee you don't see the person again?

In this week's podcast, I am talking about what works and what doesn't. This is based on over a decade of experience seeing singles meet in action.

It is easy to get obsessed with all the negatives in the dating world. The horror stories, the bad behaviour and you might even find yourself getting caught up in all toxic dating trends like ghosting, haunting, benching, situationships, etc.

It leaves you looking for red flags so you don't end up in a bad relationship.

If you are wondering what red flags are - they are a warning sign that something is wrong!

You could end up spending so much time focusing on red flags that, that is all you see.

Does it work to look for red flags or should you be looking for green flags instead? Green flags are the opposite of red flags. They are the positive behaviours and actions that you want in a partner.

Do you look for red or green or both?

I answer this question as well as what you can do to make sure you create the healthy, wonderful supportive relationship you have always dreamt of.

I also promised I would give you the link to - How to Choose the Best Match for You.

I am sure you have heard of the gender pay gap and gender equality but have you heard of the Romance Gap? It’s like the pay gap but for your love life! The dating app bumble commissioned a survey with interesting results. They found that 86% believed that equality was important in dating and relationships. However, 74% of respondents said there were different expectations and expected behaviour depending on your gender when it comes to relationships.

They found that traditional gender roles and expectations are still very present, and even, accepted in dating. In fact, they found that some of the actions we feel are romantic for men are seen as negative/bad when women do them.

For example, it is seen as passionate when a man says he loves you after a month but needy if a woman does the same. When a guy doesn’t text, he is seen as playing it cool but when a woman doesn’t text back she is playing hard to get.

In this week’s podcast, I discuss what they found and what the solution is.

Everyone I talk to wants to meet someone they like and someone they feel something they have never felt before.  They want to meet someone with who they have that wonderful, mysterious spark of attraction. Hoping when they follow that intense attraction for the other person that they will be lucky enough to find someone who is also compatible, who has a good character and who they can trust.

However, I see too many single people looking for a solid type of love from someone who is simply unable to give it to them.

There is a Buddhist saying - 'If you meet someone and your heart pounds, your hands shake and your knees go weak - that's not the one! When you meet your soulmate you will feel calm, no anxiety, no agitation!

In this week's podcast, I talk about why that initial attraction is no guarantee that your relationship will work out. I also talk about why the initial attraction can die out for one person and how to avoid this. 

Do you hate being single and want to get results.

Singles tell me every day just how frustrated they are. 

Being a Dating/Relationship Coach I always ask them what they are doing about meeting someone!  

They often answer ‘Not much’ and add ‘it doesn’t work so why bother!’

Or for others, they are exhausted from spending a lot of time on apps swiping obsessively. Yet when I look at what they are doing they don’t send messages or arrange any dates.

The reality is that this is the reason why way too many singles are not getting results on dating apps.  They are doing dating apps by not doing them!

Spoiler alert, if you don’t do anything you are going to stay single. Dating, just like anything else in life it takes some type of effort on your part.  Laziness doesn’t get results nor does avoiding it!

Do you Hate Being Single But......

Okay maybe you are a hopeless romantic and you are hanging out for that rare love story where you meet serendipitously (found by some miraculous chance) as it is your destiny. But, I see way too many singles who have waited for a decade and nothing has happened. The reality is that you can’t count on that chance meeting. What you can count on is putting some real effort into getting results on dating apps