Dating in the Bae

After recording 44 episodes and growing an incredible community, our girl Becca will be taking a much-needed season break to broaden her horizons and see what the next steps for the show will be! If you are interested in sponsoring the show and/or are interested in joining the show as a  co-host, hit her up! In the meantime, follow her on Instagram and Twitter to get show updates! Make sure you’re subscribed to Dating in the Bae wherever you listen to your podcasts to automatically receive future announcements!

Fear not! This season finale episode is a fun one! Jenna Langbaum, the author of “Me in Search of You,” joins the show to chat about her new book and the New York City dating scene.  Jenna shares how the book came to be, her favorite anecdotes, plus she reads an excerpt from her book! Jenna is such a lively, positive, and smart woman; you are going to love her!  Tune into this last episode before the show’s season break.

Jump straight into:

(00:26) - Season break announcement and key learnings: Reflecting and remembering Dating In the Bae’s beginnings.

(04:20) - Jenna’s career as a creative going through the swirl of dating. 

(07:53) - Me in Search of You: The book’s witty style and how it reminds us to go back and laugh at ourselves. 

(09:47) - Jenna’s favorite stories from her book: The cab driver psychic and a post-breakup photoshoot for Facebook. 

(11:23) - Reading an excerpt from Me in Search of You, I Replicate It: “It’s such a ritual of costume and performance…”

(13:07) - How writing the book has changed Jenna’s view on modern dating: Reflections, ghosting stories, takeaways, and the golden texting rule. 

(19:08) - Badass. Resilient. Single: Is there an added dimension to single women? 

(22:27) - The hardest part about writing a book: Growing up in the middle of heartbreak and a rollercoaster of emotions. 

(26:15) - How Jenna came up with the book title, what is next for her as a writer and why binge-watching Working Moms is an entire mood.

Episode resources

Me in Search of You by Jenna Langbaum  

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Have you had your red dress moment? Kimmy can help you out with that!

In this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca talks to dating expert, confidence coach, therapist, and stylist Kimmy Seltzer, who is also the host of The Charisma Quotient Podcast. 

Kimmy tells us the story of how she went from having a traditional picket-fence life to divorcing and rediscovering herself. She believes in working on your confidence from the outside in and creating a symbiotic relationship between how you look and how you feel. Tune in and listen to Becca fangirl over the wonderful and super knowledgeable Kimmy!

Jump straight into:

(00:25) - Kimmy’s back story and her red dress moment: A gal from Chicago that turned into a Renaissance woman in LA.

(08:17) - “It’s about you!”: Shift the way you feel about yourself and start being confident and sexy!

(10:45) - Charisma, magnetism, and the attraction factor: Building up the advertisement piece you need.

(13:45) - Why Kimmy loves flirting: How to be present, playful, and have fun without attachments. 

(18:06) - Gratitude attitude makes you more dateable! A few tangible things you can do to be in the right positive state of mind. 

(22:27) - A quick story about changing your mindset: Put a different pair of glasses on and look at the world differently. 

Episode resources:

Follow Kimmy on Instagram

Charisma Quotient | Apple Podcasts

Kim Seltzer | Dating & Image Expert

Ask Kimmy

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Is your subconscious sabotaging your dating life? You need to try shadow work!

In this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca talks to Sarah Cohan, host of the Lit AF podcast, a hilarious podcast about personal growth. Sarah is super fun and fresh, plus she also lives in San Francisco! Join in and listen to Sarah and Becca’s conversation about shadow work, limiting beliefs, and how to overcome those to find a partner and call in money! Plus a super simple technique to start building up trust within yourself. 

Also, don’t forget to join this week’s challenge and check out the Lit AF Podcast! Sarah’s show is linked below in the “resources” section. 

Jump straight into:

(00:24) - An unpaid pet detective? 

(02:07) - Sarah’s experience working on the Burning Man Project: A week of synchronicity and magic. 

(04:24) - Dabbling into personal development and getting started on the podcast medium. 

(08:26) - Really opening up in front of the mic: Sarah’s miscarriage story and how it helped her feel universally connected. 

(13:24) - Building trust within yourself: A super simple technique to create congruency!

(15:27) - Sarah’s shadow work: “Until we make the unconscious conscious, we will call it fate and it will ruin our lives.”

(20:26) - Ruminating thoughts and how to heal the subconscious: Calling in partnership and money through Sarah’s program!

(28:43) - This week’s challenge: Give your phone number to a stranger or set up your single friends! 

Episode resources:

Lit AF Podcast | Sarah Cohan

Follow Sarah on Instagram

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The Washington Post’s dating and relationships reporter, Lisa Bonos, is a special guest on this week’s episode of Dating in the Bae.  Lisa shares how she landed this dream job, dishes on her current dating life in San Francisco, and shares the best advice she has ever received. Plus, she shares her favorite questions to ask when writing a story and whether being a dating reporter scares men off or lures them in! 

Don’t forget to check out Lisa’s work linked in the resources below!        

Jump straight into:

(00:22) - Persistence + dumb luck: How Lisa landed the perfect job writing a dating column.

(04:58) - “It’s my job to ask!” Lisa’s inquiries into people’s dating stories and her favorite questions to ask. 

(08:51) - Relationship status + moving from DC to San Francisco: Is the Lox Club a total fraud?

(13:11) - Washington DC dating vs. San Francisco dating: Are men more optimistic in California? Is software talk hot date material?

(16:23) - How being a dating reporter affects Lisa’s dating life plus Becca’s favorite SF spots for a fun relaxed date. 

(20:39) - Trash reality TV: The Bachelor “It’s fun to cover but kind of terrible.” 

(21:40) - The best dating advice Lisa has ever received: give two options! It shows you are flexible, but not SO available. 

Episode Resources:

Nabeel Redwood (Shaman in LA)

Follow Lisa Bonos on Instagram

Lisa Bonos - The Washington Post

“Hot Vax Summer’ is coming. Can it possibly live up to the hype?” by Lisa Bonos

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Life is hard for two reasons, either because you are staying in your comfort zone or because you are leaving it. Which one do you choose?

In this episode of Dating in the Bae, our girl Becca talks to dating coach, entrepreneur, and HR at Tinder, Janel Abrahami. Janel was unemployed during the pandemic but don’t worry, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise! She pivoted her own career, got a new awesome job, and is now building her career coaching business step by step. 

Join in this conversation and listen to Janel and Becca talk about the similarities between the dating scene and choosing a career path. Plus, how to authentically market yourself in both worlds!

Jump straight into:

(00:25) - Getting back into normal life: Snapping back from the 3-second zoom delay and actively choosing a purposeful life. 

(02:56) - What is Janel Abrahami all about and how she can help you clarify your career goals and hinge into your dream job.

(04:47) - Working on Tinder and Janel’s own career pivot during the pandemic! 

(07:51) - Janel’s experience dating in San Francisco: Grabbing drinks and handing out numbers at Shangai Kelly’s.

(11:29) - Dating in SF vs. dating in NY and London: Is there such a thing as an east-coast mentality?

(16:36) - Career coaching and the abundance mindset: Janel’s plan for creating her business brick by brick while still living her best life. 

(24:36) - All of Janel’s awesome resources to take ownership over your life!

(26:51) - A quote from Mark Groves to get out of the same patterns and really begin to choose and love yourself. 

Episode resources

Follow Janel on Instagram

Free Guide: How to Stop Job-Hopping

The Audacity by Janel Abrahami

Create The Love 

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Would you rather be naked at work or a mile from home? Definitely neither, especially if you work in government!

On today’s episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca talks to her favorite Canadian duo, Jac and KT from 2Girls1Broadcast. The girls get up to speed on their current relationship status, and how they just bought a house together! (If that is not real friendship, we don’t know what is.) Also, they discuss what it means to be an introvert or an extrovert, and how that plays out in the dating field. Join this conversation for a quick game of Would You Rather and general chit chat with these two, fun and amazing women! 

Jump straight into:

(00:21) - Am I going to Canada? Rebecca’s periwinkle nail polish disaster. 

(02:40) - Friendship 2.0: KT and Jac’s new house together! How did that come to be?

(04:38) - KT’s current dating status: Nonexistent! Plus, why she refuses to go back to dating apps. 

(06:02) - Jac’s relationship and how the three have been getting along. 

(7:34) - The key things to a healthy relationship: Communication, genuine love, and real friendship.

(11:32) - Game time!: Would You Rather + Beccas’s Craigslist Missed Connection story.

(16:00) - Introvert or extrovert? Where do you get your energy from and what can we learn from each other. 

(18:42) - Yay or nay?: How being an introvert or an extrovert translates into the dating world.

(21:47) - Things to keep from the pandemic: Slowing down and not wearing makeup! (At least not always).

Episode resources:

2Girls1Broadcast

What Introverts and Extroverts Can Learn From Each Other - The Atlantic

Quiet by Susan Cain

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Is a gorgeous man holding his dog while promising true love too good to be true? Maybe so!

On this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca is joined by the saucy and adventurous Michele Musy. Michele is the author of the book LoveCapades and she’s a single woman in her 70’s looking for love. Join us in this conversation and listen to Michele’s experience with online dating. Is it the same for 70-year-olds as it is for thirty or twenty-year-olds? Are we all in the same Bumble ship? Plus, Becca gives out the advice of the week: Your energy and your mindset matter more than you think.

Don´t forget to check out LoveCapades for a journey through Michele’s romantic memoirs. 

Jump straight into:

(00:20) - Who is the spicy and saucy Michele Musy and the gym story: It’s official, Becca is losing her marbles. 

(02:02) - Why Michele decided to write her love memoirs and how it became a beautiful podcast. 

(04:01) - “Bedroom eyes”: Michele’s experience advertising herself in the newspaper back in the ’80s and her thoughts on online dating. 

(07:56) - Michele Musy’s Bumble profile and her first-ever match, Roland. Should she give him a second chance?

(13:32) - Storytime: Is the gorgeous guy with the Australian shepherd too good to be true?

(17:22) - On ghosting and unmatching: Motorcycle Kevin from Santa Rosa, you are dead to us! 

(21:40) - Silver Singles: Niche dating apps for 50+ singles and Michele’s friend's success story on finding love. 

(24:20) - Becca’s dating hack of the week: Keep it fun, your energy and your mindset really matter! 

Episode resources

LoveCapades | Podcast

SilverSingles | The Exclusive Dating Site for 50+ Singles

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In this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca kicks it off with the week’s question, “Can someone ghost you before even meeting you?” Plus, she shares a substantive conversation with dating author Jon Birger. Jon tells us his story as a writer and how one core question pushed him from being an oil and gas journalist to diving into the love and dating world: Why do fabulous women in their late twenties, thirties, and forties have such a tough time in today’s modern dating world?

Jon’s first book Date-onomics lays out the flat truth: there are way more women than men in the dating market. Fear not, fellow daters! Not everything is lost! Jon also talks about his second book Make Your Move, in which he explains the “suiter’s advantage.” Did you know that 70% of flirting goes undetected by the other person?! That’s why we are embracing our boldness and going after who and what you want! Join this conversation and find out why waiting around for things to happen is ancient thinking; the time to act is now! 

Jump straight into:

00:24 - Out with the old, in with the new! Becca’s remodeling metamorphosis and this week’s question: At what point do you consider yourself ghosted by someone before a date?

04:21 - Jon Birger’s journey as a writer and his core research question for Date-onomics

08:44 - Dating + Statistics 

11:18 - Single men vs. single women: Who’s more ready to settle down?

12:56 - Knowing the data is not enough! Suitor’s advantage and why direct people beat the odds.

18:44 - Embrace vulnerability and awkwardness! That’s how things get real. 

21:19 - Is online dating a doubter’s game? Jon’s take on dating apps and why you should start by asking out real-life people you already know and like. 

27:32 - Dating apps are a business; they don’t necessarily care about your happy ever after!

30:09 - The Pam & Jim story: office romance. 

34:19 - The public reaction to Jon’s book. 

Episode resources 

Jon Birger

Date-onomics by Jon Birger

Make Your Move by Jon Birger

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It’s egg freezing week here at Dating in the Bae! In this episode, Becca talks to Fertility specialist and Board-certified OB/GYN Dr. Temeka Zore, about the world of egg freezing. What is the perfect age to freeze those eggs? What’s the process like? Will it make my hormone levels crazy? As Dr. Zore puts it, egg freezing is about giving women options after they decide to delay childbearing and making them feel cared for throughout the process.

Join Becca and Dr. Zore in this engaging and educational conversation about the science and the myths behind egg freezing!

Jump straight into:

01:10 - Dr. Zore’s trajectory in medicine: how she decided to go into the women’s health field.  

03:38 - Fertility and Egg Freezing: Am I too late to the party?

05:01 - Know your options! What you should definitely consider before thinking about freezing your eggs.

06:22 - Money, money, money! How to finance your egg freezing payment plan. 

07:38 - What is the whole process like? The step-by-step explanation of the 14 day egg freezing journey. 

10:45 - Calculate your chances: How many eggs or cycles do I need to be absolutely sure? 

11:43 - Dr. Zore’s personal experience with egg freezing: “We were going to be delaying childbearing, and we just wanted options.”

14:11 - Choose your fertility clinic wisely: The key questions to ask before making a life-changing decision. 

16:16 - Debunking myths: Fertility declines with age? Will the COVID-19 vaccine affect my fertility? (Spoiler alert: NO!)  Is my family history a factor?

20:10 - The top 3 questions to ask your doctor: Health, probabilities, and options! 

Episode resources:

Follow Dr. Zore on Instagram

Spring Fertility

@spingfertility

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Our amazing in-house planet and star guru is back! In this episode of Dating in the Bae, we invite astrologer Tara Nichols for the third time on the show to talk about what the rest of the year has in store for us and how we can use our good vibe and alignment to move forward. Time to put our big girl pants on because there will be a LOT going on! From getting back into our bodies and grounding our energy, to extensive inner work and dealing with past emotions. PLUS, Becca answers the listeners’ question of the week: 

“What is the best and worst dating advice you have ever received?”

Join Becca and Tara in this - very juicy - conversation about love, planets, stars, and self-growth. You are going to love it!

Jump straight into:

00:21 - Q&A time! Question of the week: What is the best and worst dating advice that you have ever received?

04:06 - Tara’s astrological predictions for Venus season: Get that haircut and hit the gym, it’s time to get healthy and beautiful! 

05:57 - What does the quirky and unique Aquarius energy has in store for us? Be ready to start thinking (and dating) out of the box!

07:30 - Venus and Mars mid-July lover’s dance: The MOST divine and exciting time to date and say yes to the world!

14:08 - Your astrocartography map: What it is and why it DEFINITELY rules your life. 

17:10 - Astrological Q&A for Tara! Discover where your Juno is at and find your soulmate. 

19:29 - Key take-aways for the next 6 months: Exactly what to do about the eclipse season and Venus retrograde.

Resources

Follow Tara on Instagram

Tara Jade Nichols - Home 

Tara Jade Nichols - Retreats

Episode 22 | Dating in the Bae - Celebrate Single 

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