It can help to talk to your jealous side and see what’s up. 

“Hey! You’re feeling jealous and you're worried about me—I appreciate that. What, exactly are you thinking could go wrong?”

Find the transcript for this episode here: https://datingkinky.com/blog/polyamory/hey-jealous-me/

A lot of people have been taught that immediately and forcefully denying even the most obvious faults is required to make it through life. 

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Zach and Nookie discuss What does an ETHICAL submissive look like to you? How should they present themselves? What character traits should they have? What does their behavior look like?

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By making it easy to leave, I like to think that it takes away the resentment that comes along with being stuck, and gives us the chance to really dig in and make things happen, with a worst case scenario being “Well, it’s easy to leave.”

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There is no WON TWOO WAY to poly. For some poly/nonmonogamy is ALL about doing exactly what they want, and as long as they are being ethical, who are we to say it’s wrong?


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Some of us HATE disappointing others. Many of us fear a loss of love or friendship if we deny requests. And there are those who crave the feeling of being needed and believe that only they can do whatever is being asked of them.


Whatever the reason, saying no can be an almost insurmountable challenge for some people.


And yet, to maintain healthy boundaries, it’s essential that we be able to say and mean no.


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Feelings evolved to tell us what might be going wrong—or right—and give us a heads-up to do something about it. 

The messed up thing is when people are constantly given feedback that calls their feelings into question, and it begins to warp how they interpret their own mind. 

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Zach and Nookie discuss How do I know if I'm bi? I've always been with the opposite sex, but I'm curious.

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If there is an imbalance, or a lack of acceptance, or even disgust or repulsion at what one (or both!) people want as part of their sexual needs suggests to me that there is something unhealthy there. 

To me, a healthy relationship covers ALL my needs for sex. 

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