Let me be clear, I’ve agreed with this in my past. 

Hell, I’ve even said it, smugly, and defended it. 

It’s wrong, though. And it’s time to stop.

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What people tell us may be true. FOR THEM.

Which gives them the courage of their convictions. Make them sincere. So none of the signs of lying are there, because they are telling the truth AS THEY SEE IT.

That does not make it true/validate it for US.


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Someone I knew who kept trying to make other people responsible for doing everything for them to make them happy, so I wrote this response back in 2017.

Find the transcript for this episode here. https://datingkinky.com/blog/if-only/ 

When it comes right down to it, it doesn’t matter at all if someone is a narcissist, or if their behavior is a result of another mental illness, stress, incompetence, or if they are just an asshole—if YOUR boundaries are strong. 

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Zach & I discuss how to find the right people for you in kink, and create your kinky family.


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Love is like Spandex. 

I had to say it, LOL! When we meet, it’s often unknowns and high passion and drama. As we settle down, things stabilize. Become more sure, more predictable. More solid and strong. 

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I’ve read that m marriage is just two people asking each other where they want to eat until one of them dies. And that makes me laugh. 

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Zach empathizes and offers amazing advice from someone who is also shy and awkward. 

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Our individual abilities to handle stress and bounce back are just that—individual. Judging you by MY abilities is pretty shitty, in and of itself. So, I don't do that. 

Effort means a lot: https://datingkinky.com/blog/effort-means-a-lot/

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