I wanted to explore what it’s like for fat, black women navigating the treacherous world of sex and dating. Joining me to discuss this was Scotty Unfamous, one third of the sex positive Laid Bare podcast. We swapped stories about our dating experiences, getting in to kink and how to be more confident in the bedroom. I also revealed that the best way to win me over is via cup-cakes and eba, a traditional Nigerian dish. Send us your FAQs to NoCountryForYoungWomen@bbc.co.uk.

Dating, Sex and Scotty Unfamous

Life, love and work in a white man's world. Let's help each other figure it out! Presenters: Sadia Azmat and Monty Onanuga

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We look back on our favourite episodes including some of our biggest and best guests and what they taught us. Plus we say thanks to you, our amazing listeners, for the things you’ve taught us along the way! No, we’re not crying, you’re crying.

Laughter, learns and our last episode…

We’re hilarious, we’re resilient and we’re a force to be reckoned with, according to actor, dance studio boss and podcaster Kelechi Okafor. We talk about how pre-colonial Yoruba spirituality inspires how she sees herself, the misconceptions of black women in dance and twerk and why we get angry about people calling us angry when we aren’t. In my final solo episode, I wanted to celebrate all things black women!

Celebrating black women, Kelechi Okafor and Monty

I’ve never dated outside of my race and I wanted to hear stories from people who are. We chat about why interracial and interethnic dating isn’t the same thing, model and TV presenter Ayesha says that being British in LA actually makes more of a difference than her race and comedian Athena explains why colourism affects what we see on Instagram and the issues her parents faced in their own relationship.

Interracial dating, Ayesha Perry-Iqbal and Athena Kugblenu

Conversations about money should be really simple, so why don’t we talk more about it? Monty asks Bola Sol and Franklin Asante (aka The Urban Financier) what the receipts really are for drip culture, to share hacks for your bank balance and about their own journeys to getting better with money.

Money, mindset and Monty

Life for people of colour varies hugely across Europe. We hear what growing up in the Netherlands was like for Dutch-Sudanese artist Gaidaa compared to living in the UK. We talk about outdated Christmas traditions, the Dutch response to Black Lives Matter, the creative scene in Sudan and how she uses her music and performances to highlight what’s happening in Sudan.

Dating, Sex and Scotty Unfamous

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