David Borja

Featuring Sacha Rockliffe (Masters of Counseling & Psychology Student)! Sacha shares an excellent introduction to attachment theory, the main attachment styles, and some of the ups and downs of intimacy while healing insecurities. She can be followed on instagram @sacha.rockliffe where she often shares wellness content!

0:00 - intro / when did attachment theory enter your life?

6:20 - attachment styles in childhood

11:48 - attachment styles in adult relationships

16:35 - activating and deactivating strategies

19:20 - the anxious-avoidant trap

36:25 - book recommendations

38:01 - game: two truths and a lie!

43:30 - takeaways / outro

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books

Attached (https://amz.run/5CkO)

Addiction Attachment Trauma and Recovery (Google Books)

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Robert and David discuss avoidance! How can thoughts, words, and behaviors be avoidant? What role does externalizing play in avoidance? How can we be vulnerable?

0:00 intro

11:25 avoidant words, behaviors, thoughts

24:09 externalizing

39:47 vulnerability

1:09:20 surprise karaoke

1:15:05 mystery sound

1:19:01 hey guys! welcome to my channel!

1:26:02 outro

books

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents https://amz.run/5CkP

Attached https://amz.run/5CkO

Burnout https://amz.run/5CkN

Irritating the Ones You Love https://amz.run/5CkM

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Feat. Cassidy Anhorn (@cassidya on ig)! We discuss all the beautiful stresses of the holidays and ponder our favorite Christmas films (what's up Carol? oh hi Jim Carrey as The Grinch? how r u The Last Holiday? who's Frozen? I don't know her). We talk favourite and least favourite holiday memories, and finally answer, once and for all, the real reason holidays are stressful. Spoiler: it's capitalism.

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Robert and David discuss Dave Chapelle's special "The Closer". They have many deep questions related to empathy and the crisis of "not listening" today. Read Dahlia Belle's response to the special.

We then reflect on these questions and more, designed to try to grow our self knowledge and ability to empathize with others. Starting at 35:15.

Is it possible to empathize with someone who is criticizing you?

How do you build curiosity about people who are different from you?

Do you have negative associations from earlier in your life, are those fears reasonable?

Who helped you with your successes in life?

Who do you surround yourself with, do you always agree?

Do you actively look for information to challenge your worldviewer?

Do you understand your own values?

Are you trying to be mature, or are you trying to win?

Do you try to cultivate love for the human race? Why or why not?

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Robert and David return with silly news! An Alabama sheriff leaves a positive review of a jail he used to run, while imprisoned there himself. Elephants play an adorable game of pumpkin squashing. A police officer mistakes a large fish for a shark. Sexy Bernie Sanders outfits are in Halloween stores. North Korea's "Rocket Man" steals the show at a normal and democratic public display of force.

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Robert and David talk about inner child work, drawing on The Journey From Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson. How do we make peace with our past, and our parents? How does avoidance in a family system affect ones ability to form secure attachments? How do we meet our needs? It's vulnerable, it's deep, and we hope it's helpful!

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Robert and David talk ghosting "etiquette", hundreds of thousands of bees, a couple's poorly timed pregnancy announcement, a joyful rubber duck, airlifted cows, and a washington man on a rogue bus driving spree. Then, an intimate report of a photographer with a... spiderlike number of appendages; and an interview with one of the founders of the internet.

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Duo show with Robert and David! Casual sex, one night stands, and how to get more out of them. Or how to get more into them! What are your desires, motivations, rituals, safety rules? We also talk jealousy, and the emotional needs that creep their way into sex. We then close the show playing "Tinder surprise"!

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With Jamie Smith (Certified Law of Attraction Facilitator)! Jamie brings wisdom, clarity, and charm to this episode where we answer: Can we have complete positivity in life? Where can too much positivity get us into trouble? Why does positivity take so much work? We close playing one of our favorite games: Hey Guys, Welcome to My/Our/Your Channel and David's internet shits the bed.

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With Rachel Kent (@raych.kent on instagram)! Your yes's, your no's and how this knowledge helps you flourish. How do you know when a boundary is crossed? How do you set them and still grow? We then offer some enouragement for people who struggle to maintain boundaries and close with a chaotic sound effects game >:)

Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Irritating the Ones You Love by Jeff Auerbach

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