In this episode of Psyche Podcast, I sit down with theologian David W. Congdon to explore his bold new article, The Polyamorous Christ: On the Sexual Ethics of the Incarnation. We dig into why Christianity has historically treated erotic love with suspicion, how monogamy became the assumed norm, and why it’s important to distinguish polyamory from polygamy .

David challenges the common move of grounding polyamory in the Trinity and instead turns to Christology and the incarnation as a richer resource. We talk about the logic of noncompetitive abundance—how God’s love in Christ shows that love isn’t a scarce resource but something that grows the more it’s shared .

Together, we explore how this vision could reshape Christian sexual ethics, not by mandating polyamory, but by rejecting compulsory monogamy and opening up a “buffet of options” for human relationships rooted in consent and flourishing .

This conversation is provocative, challenging, and deeply hopeful. Whether or not you identify as Christian, I think you’ll find that David’s idea of a polyamorous logic of love opens new ways of thinking about intimacy, community, and what it means to live abundantly.