Dear Franny

“We want to be right about what we believe more than we want to be happy.” Francesca breaks down what’s really going on when you’re stuck in a dating pattern of only being attracted to people who aren’t that into you. Not only the why of why this happens, but what to do about it so you can break this pattern and find the love you deserve. 

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“Wanting love doesn’t make you desperate, wanting love makes you human.” In this solo episode, Francesca addresses the cliche “you’ll find love when you stop looking for it.” She breaks down the importance of the energy motivating your search for love as the determinative factor in finding the relationship you want. 

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“If we give our energy to the people we don’t want, we take that away from ourselves, and from the people we do want.” In this solo episode, Francesca tackles the issues facing single progressive women who want to date feminist men who aren’t racist and truly believe in equality. “Performative wokeness” and fake feminists are a problem in modern dating, and she breaks down how to avoid the fakers and connect with men of true character. 

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

"My sexuality is always operating.” Dr. Chris Donaghue, sex educator, author, TV and radio host, lecturer and sex positivity activist joins the podcast this week. He and Francesca discuss body shaming and body positivity, the power of sex to heal, casual sex, advice for the sexually inexperienced and unfulfilled, and more. This is a thought-provoking conversation you don’t want to miss! 

Connect with Dr. Chris:

On Instagram: @drdonaghue

His website: https://www.drchrisdonaghue.com/

His latest book, REBEL LOVE: https://www.runningpress.com/titles/chris-donaghue/rebel-love/9780762465330/

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Bex Carlos

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“Love confidence is belief in your ability to attract and keep committed romantic relationships.” Why do some people get into relationships easily while others stay single and struggle? No matter where you fall on the spectrum of love confidence, Francesca wants you to have more love confidence. Why? So you can get into and stay in a healthy, committed relationship faster and with less struggle. 

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Interested in love or life coaching? Book a FREE session with Francesca HERE

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“Self love is a vaccination to chaos.” Love coach and author Jonathon Aslay joins Francesca to talk all things love - dating, self love, using social media for personal growth, investing in personal development, and grieving the death of his 19 year old son. It’s an insightful and practical conversation about how we can love ourselves more, judge others less and have more peace and love in our lives! 

Connect with Jonathon

Jonathon’s website and gift www.jonathonaslay.com/selflove

Jonathon’s FB https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/

Jonathon’s books https://www.amazon.com/Jonathon-Aslay/e/B00TCNINDW

Jonathon’s Twitter @jonathonaslay

Mentioned in this episode

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Untethered Soul by Michael Alan Singer

Amari Ice @princeamari

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Francesca's website

Dear Franny Podcast website

Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Bex Carlos

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“Every time you leave your house, you have the potential to meet someone special.” Do you know how to flirt? Do you know how to increase your chances everyday to meet your person? Francesca was inspired to record this episode in response to the challenges of online dating, especially for college educated women of color discussed in the last episode. Online dating is a tool, but if it’s not working for you (and even if it is), the flirting mindset and skills can make dating apps irrelevant. 

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Interested in love or life coaching? Book a FREE session with Francesca HERE

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Francesca's website

Dear Franny Podcast website

Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“We live in a racist society, so we’re just going to take our racism and our sexism and put it onto technology. You could argue that because we can hide behind technology we can even delve more into racism, fetishism and discrimination.” Did you know that college educated women face additional challenges in finding love online? And that it’s even more challenging for college educated women of color? And that it’s most challenging for black women? Doctoral candidate Sarah Adeyinka-Skold’s research on digital dating reveals the extent to which all women are finding men intimidated by their education, and how women of color are dealing with systemic racism. She and Francesca share how they met their partners and their advice for women of color looking for love. 

Sarah's Bio

Sarah Adeyinka-Skold is a doctoral candidate at the University of Pennsylvania. Her research interests include race, family, and gender. Her dissertation explores the experiences of college-educated women of varying ethno-racial backgrounds as they search for romantic partners in the digital age. She was interviewed at length about her dissertation research in the Philadelphia Inquirer, the city’s largest newspaper. Sarah has also published research on racial formation among European immigrant and US-born white women in Sociology of Race and Ethnicity. Sarah’s future research will explore relationship formation among LGTBQ+ individuals of varying ethno-racial and class backgrounds, with a goal to produce relationship formation theory that is inclusive of race, class, gender, and sexuality. Sarah graduated from Princeton University with a bachelor’s degree in sociology; and also earned a Master's of Social Work from the University of Chicago. She is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked as a hospital social worker at the Hospital of University of Pennsylvania for the last 11 years. In her spare time, Sarah sleeps, reads fiction and non-fiction work by Black women of the African diaspora, and watches Law and Order with her husband. Sarah can also be found laughing hysterically about something she saw on Black Twitter.

Connect with Sarah

Sarah’s Twitter @lovieskold 

Philadelphia Inquirer article 

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Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Bex Carlos

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

Are you an Avoider, a Looper, a Surfer or a Sailor? Francesca breaks down the 4 Dating Archetypes she’s identified, and how to change your type (if you want to!) to make it easier to find love. She also explains her concept of "love confidence", how your Archetype corresponds to your love confidence, and how to begin to develop yours starting now. You can take her 10 question Dating Diagnosis Quiz here to discover your type: https://francesca4.typeform.com/to/L5ZLWb

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Interested in love or life coaching? Book a FREE session with Francesca HERE

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Francesca's website

Dear Franny Podcast website

Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Francesca Hogi 

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley 

“Love is not a fairytale. It’s more like a video game. And the #1 reason anybody is single or will soon be single again is because they’re trying to have a level 25 relationship with level 3 skills.” Author, relationship coach and certified matchmaker Amari Ice (@princeamari) is a pioneer - and he’s on a mission to empower gay men to have the lasting love they desire and deserve. In this interview, he and Francesca discuss the parallels and differences between helping gay men and straight women finding love. Amari drops all the wisdom about what holds people back from finding love and what it takes to move past the love blocks of the past. 

Connect with Amari

Amari’s IG @princeamari

Listeners can download a free copy of Amari’s best-selling book, (Lasting Love at Last: The Gay Guide to Attracting the Relationship of Your Dreams) on his website: www.lastingloveatlast.com

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Interested in love or life coaching? Book a FREE session with Francesca HERE

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Dear Franny Podcast IG @dearfrannypodcast

Francesca's FB /dearfranny

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Francesca's website

Dear Franny Podcast website

Credits

Cover art photography by Frankie Norstad

Cover art graphic design by Sarah Epperson

Theme music by Origamibeats

Edited by Bex Carlos

Produced by Francesca Hogi

Assistant to Francesca Hogi Kaitlan Holley