Dating has always been difficult but this new age of technology has accelerated the pace of feedback.  This can very easily add a lot of anxiety for single people looking for connection with others.  This week I am joined by a very special guest, Suzanna Mathews (aka "The Date Maven"), to talk about dealing with fear of rejection in relationships and how to have a healthy approach to dating relationships.  On this episode we discuss:

• Listener questions!
• Identifying and dealing with the physical responses to fear
• Being present with others
• Criticism rejection frameworks
• PTSD created from relationships
• How relationships can be part of your healing process
• How to reject someone else with sensitivity
• The collateral damage of ghosting
• Engaging those you know in real-life through dating apps
• Setting healthy expectations for a first date

Resources:
"Rejection Proof" by Jia Jiang (referral link)
"What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection" (Jia Jiang Ted Talk)
The Date Maven
Contact Suzanna Mathews ([email protected])
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The world is constantly shifting and changing around us and 2020 has been an extreme example of that.  Between the threat of job losses and working remotely from home there is a tremendous shift happening in the workplace.  And with that shift comes the opportunity for additional stress to appear in our lives.  On this week's episode we dive into the keys of maintaining your mental health in the workplace.  These tips are practical and actionable, whether you are trying to help yourself or your team manage difficult times.  On this episode we discuss:

• Listener questions!
  • "I'm afraid of losing my job, even though it's a job I'm not happy in.  What do I do?"
  • "How do I stop listening to the voice of fear and anxiety in my head?"
• How to know if you have a mental health issue
• The costs of poor mental health in the workplace
• Four (4) major mental health issues at work
• Three (3) things you must know about mental health in the workplace
  1. You cannot go it alone
  2. It is essential to get space from your thinking
  3. You must make self-care a priority

Resources:
11 Icebreaker Activities Blog Article
Oak Meditation App
Calm Meditation App
Headspace Meditation App

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The past is a tricky thing.  Sometimes we want to avoid it and pretend like it's not there.  But it is always influencing the way we live .  On this episode we dive into why you should confront your past and how overcoming that history can help you write a better future.  On this episode we discuss:

• Listener questions!
• Why you and others hesitate to talk about their past
• Understanding your emotional triggers
• Incidents that created emotional triggers in my life
• Three (3) reasons to deal with your past
• Five (5) things you must accept about your past
• Three (3) exercises to help you confront your past

Resources:

• Why you should deal with your past (blog)
• 18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence (blog)
• Identifying Limiting Mindsets (Podcast Episode #4)
• Building Authentic Confidence (Podcast Episode #7)

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Do you struggle with being critical of yourself and others?  Do you find yourself in a daily battle with negativity?  On this episode we dive into what causes us to be negative and how it impacts our lives.  Then we explore three ways to overcome that negativity to be more fulfilled, engaged and satisfied.  On this episode:

• Adam answers listener questions
• How Adam has struggled with negativity and how it has cost him
• What the ego is doing in causing us to be critical
• Three strategies to overcome negativity
  • Identifying the critical inner voice
  • Achieving relentless optimism
  • Taking action and putting faith in the outcome
• Adam also gives tactical tips for each of these strategies and explains how you can implement Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in your own life.

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Learning how to process and deal with emotions is a key component of living a full and healthy life.  Avoiding or suppressing them creates tension and pushes you away from the relationships in your life.  Learn the 4 transformational concepts that helped me to understand my emotions as well as 4 tools for dealing with them.  On this episode we discuss:

• The roots of our emotions and how they impact our lives
• 4 transformational concepts for understanding your emotions
  • The compass of our emotions
  • The two choices we have to deal with emotions
  • The hope v. fear cycle
  • How emotions affect our thinking
• 4 tools for processing and embracing your emotions
• Examples from my life and those of my clients on processing emotions.

Episode resources:
Article: How to be emotionally healthy
List of 40 common emotions
The emotions bookmark
Video: The Hope v. Fear Cycle

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Do you often find one area of your life being successful while others fall apart?  Life balance is desired but everyone but can be difficult to achieve.  In this episode we dive into the 3 focal points that can build balance into our lives.  In this episode we discuss:

• Why balance is so critical to our resilience
• The causes of imbalance in our lives
• The 3 focal points of life balance and tactics for accomplishing them
  • Slow down and get space
  • Assess your life as it truly is
  • Actively engage and make changes
• The 7 life areas that need evaluation

Resources:
Life Wheel Assessment
12 Life Balance Tips
Life Balance Tactics

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Whatever you face in life, having confidence is a key ingredient to living the way you desire.  But some people just seem born with it while the rest of us struggle to get traction and feel confident about what we are doing and the direction we are heading.  On this episode, we will unpack what confidence can do for you and the three essential building blocks to a confident life.  On this episode we will discuss:

• How confidence affects both our day-to-day lives but also the trajectory of our life
• How our brains become the enemy by getting in the way
• Three essential ways to build confidence (and a detailed breakdown of each):
  • Find clarity
  • Find hope
  • Take action
• Tactical ways to build self-confidence
• How going skydiving made me more confident

Resources:
18 Ways to Build Self-Confidence

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Deep and true friendships are an incredible key to overcoming difficulties and challenges that you may face in your life.  But many adults struggle with how to identify and grow friends beyond a simple surface-level interaction.  In this episode we dive into the key anchors to developing deep and trustworthy friendships that have lasting satisfaction.  In this episode we will discuss:

• How friends have made an impact on my life
• The 3 Anchors of Friendship
• How and where to find potential friends
• How to overcome personal insecurities when meeting new people
• Key social skills that can help connect with others

Resources

• 15 Ways Adults Can Make Friends
• 9 Key Social Skills

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This week we return to the topic of anxiety in our lives.  In our last episode, we discussed a lot about preventative care to avoid anxiety.  However, a lot of times anxiety can spring up on us and we have to respond in the moment.  In this episode we look at what gives anxiety its power and the strategies to overcome it in the moment.  In this episode we will discuss:

• How categories can harm our perspectives and create anxiety
• How intuition can be used powerfully
• The way our brains weight negative and positive thoughts and emotions
• How you respond physically to anxiety
• Three (3) ways that we feed our anxiety without realizing it
• Three (3) ways to directly face anxiety in the moment

Additional resources:

The Daily 5 & 5
Choose Gratitude

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Many times our heads can get filled with limiting mindsets and negative core beliefs.  Host Adam Gragg breaks down where these come from and how we can identify them.  On this episode we talk about...

• How core beliefs impact our lives
• The sources of our core beliefs
• Different types of limiting mindsets
• Strategies for dealing with and overcoming limiting beliefs

Worksheets:
Be Truth Oriented
Don’t Believe Everything Your Think

Other resources:
How to Change Negative Core Beliefs (Part 1)
How to Change Negative Core Beliefs (Part 2)

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