Decision Ease

So you've made a plan.

You've separated your Decision Time from your Doing Time, to save yourself some precious energy. (See Episode #96!)

But now the moment has arrived and all your brain minions are yelling I don't wanna!

What do you do?

Today's episode breaks down FOUR killer tactics to deal with resistance in follow-through.

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Sometimes, you need to think on your feet then act fast.

It's not impossible — plus, you're really good at it! — but it does take a ton of mental energy.

Today we're looking at the depleting habit of combining "decision time" with "doing time" as your norm.

If you find your days FULL of choices about what to do next, how to do it, how long to spend on it...and those choices all feel like pretty heavy lifts...this episode's for you.

This episode will show you how to make decisions in advance (sometimes they're full-on plans, sometimes they're tiny choices!) that set you up for easier and better follow-through.

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If you've ever gotten stuck or overwhelmed making a decision, you likely have experience with Low-Quality Questions.

It can seem like your brain hurls these at you, almost as an attack.

The problem is: These questions are often unanswerable. 

(How can you tell, for example, "What's going to happen?" - "Would I be happier doing X or Y?" - "Is this the best thing to do for my career / business / family?")

And when you feel like you can't move forward without the answers to impossible questions - you leave yourself nowhere to go.

In this episode, I walk you through spotting low-quality questions, getting out of their stressful spin cycle, and turning them into high-quality questions that are worth answering, that will move you forward.

Enjoy getting more decisive!

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Do you have clear, specific goals? Are they written down? Do you talk about them with anyone regularly – check in on your progress and plans for pursuing them?

Does it surprise you that most people's answers to all of these questions are NO?

In this episode, I'm breaking down "goals" in a way you might not have heard before.

Because I don't just want you to achieve what you want in life.

I want you to know WHY you want those things, and to set yourself up to thrive EVEN IF plans go awry.

The truth is: No life-changing goal is 100% guaranteeable.

You can only control and predict and plan for the smallest, easiest, safest outcomes.

But if you want to create an aligned life full of rich experiences, being your most unlimited, authentic self...You're going to need to set BIG goals.

Here's where we go in this week's episode:

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If you're on a mission to understand yourself better, so you can both have more self-compassion and be more equipped to handle the heavy machinery that is YOU, this episode is spot on.

I've pinpointed 5 things I've learned about emotions over the course of my 6+ years Coaching, during which there's constant ongoing education and training.

These are 5 things I actually wish I'd known sooner — because of the impact they've had on aforementioned self-compassion, -understanding and -direction.

Whatever your emotional literacy or level of awareness, I'm positive you'll hear something you need to hear today!

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If you could only pack 5 podcast episodes for a trip to a deserted island for the rest of forever, this would be one of them.

How do you deal with fear in the decision process.

Concerns, worries, anxieties, worst-case-scenario'ing, fear of people's opinions (FOPO)...

From the smallest choice about how to phrase a text, to the biggest life decision about your career or relationship - Fear will make all the difference in you understanding and loving your choice...or not. 

This episode is a Masterclass in Conscious Decision Making.

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I also walk you through a real-life example of using these tools to arrive at a clear, confident decision - instead of angsting about it for a year: my own choice to start the very first Decision Masters Program back in 2021!

Building up a fluency in your fear will let you feel so much more conscious and in charge - which means you'll make decisions in a different way than you would have otherwise, if you didn't know what to do with these fears.

That level of ownership will save you time, energy, and angst. And open up more decisions that are in alignment for you,

Which is, of course, the dream.

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If you're an overthinker, people-pleaser, indecisive or anxious...guess what. Fear is getting in the way of a lot of your decisions. Don't worry, I'm here to help!

Wouldn't it be nice to have a formula for dealing with fear? 

So when you went to make a decision and got worried, anxious, self-conscious, uncertain, or any other flavor of scared...it wasn't a big deal?

What if you knew what do to when "fear happens" - and you could land on a clear, confident choice anyway?

YES PLEASE.

This is the second episode in a series all about fear in decision-making.

Today, we focus on the DON'Ts. 

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How to make a clear, confident decision when you're confused? 

Well, that might not be the most useful question to ask here...Lemme try a rephrase.

 How do you solve the problem of confusion?

(Insert thinky emoji here)

Feeling stuck in confusion is such a normal, human, no-need-to-judge situation. 

But there's an easier solution than a) waiting for the answer to suddenly become clear or b) forcing a choice through basically-random selection.

It starts with asking a better question: What might I be afraid of here?

Today I propose that confusion isn't always the straightforward feeling we think it is. Sometimes, it's a subconscious an escape attempt to avoid using up energy and/or getting vulnerable enough to declare a choice!

This episode kicks off a series on FEAR. By the end of the next few weeks, you'll be so fluent in your own personal language of fear that you'll cut decision time in half - starting with wherever you've been confused!

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The decision is DONE, hooray!...But wait.

You're not doing the thing you decided to do. (Ruh-roh.)

Whether it's sending a simple email or putting a large deposit down, implementing a choice can be the toughest part of this whole "deciding" process.

Today we break down 3 specific issues that can contribute to this (super common) stall-out scenario, and how to get yourself into action.

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Your inner dialogue is like a radio station that's always running.

There are times you're super tuned into it and listening closely to your self-talk (usually when you're feeling really good or really bad about yourself!)

But even when these messages aren't coming through loud 'n clear...the station's still broadcasting.

Today I'm asking you to tune in on purpose, and find out what your Self-Talk Baseline is.

Why? Because these messages you're consciously and subconsciously sending yourself all day long are the biggest contributor to your Self-Concept. 

And your Self-Concept (the story you believe about who you are) is a huge driver of decisions!

If you want to be the type of person who is (fill in the blank: successful, confident, self-celebratory), then you need to make decisions that kind of person would make.

And there's no way to do that if you don't believe you ARE that kind of person.

So to hack your Self-Concept, we're going straight to the source: your Self-Talk.

Listen in for 3 ways to check what your Self-Talk Baseline is, and how to create an Anchor Thought to shift your inner dialogue on purpose!

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