Decision Ease

Ahhh, holidays. The time of year when otherwise confident, assertive, boundaried people tend to switch into some other gear.

This is when we can all of sudden become wildly susceptible to stressful decision-making!

NOT THIS YEAR, friend-o.

I'm cluing you into 3 mistakes you may be at risk of making in these final weeks of the year, so instead, you can have the best. damn. season. of 2023.

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When it comes to Decision Styles, People-Pleaser might be the one with the most judgment attached to it. 

In this series on the Decision Styles, and with the Decision Style Quiz, my goal is to help you make the MOST of how you operate. And in that spirit, I don't want to simply accept all the historical & societal criticisms we can assume about what it means to "be a people-pleaser."

In my opinion, the world would lose a lot of its brightness without people making decisions that take others' happiness and comfort into account. 

So how do you get the best of both worlds? How do you keep your considerate nature WITHOUT feeling like a doormat? 

Listen in for: 

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How often have you put yourself down for your Perfectionism? 

"UGH there I go again, needing everything to be perfect, SIGH."

Ok, yes I agree sometimes this habit feels like a runaway train that costs you hours you never wanted to give to a project because who even is gonna notice that the background color of the PowerPoint is 4% off your normal brand colors........

But I want to help you look beyond the obvious hiccups of Perfectionism and embrace what's AMAZING about it.

Today we're talking about:

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If you like raw, real and inspirational AF, this interview's for you.

I'm joined by Lauren Balukjian, fellow Ivy grad and founder of the Ivy Sisters. She's the mastermind behind the Global Virtual Summit (that I'm lucky enough to be a Panelist for - see below). It's all about dropping the veil of perfection and getting real & raw about success, vulnerability, imposter syndrome and so much more.

She also shares the personal, powerful story of her career pivot (preview: a surprise pregnancy, a surprise divorce and a giant leap of faith - read: Experiment - make appearances).

All you over-workers who aren't asking for what you want or don't feel totally aligned in your jobs...you're gonna want to hear this!

IVY SUMMIT INFO:

Are you an Ivy League woman who values community, growth and embracing IMPERFECTION? 

You'll love the Ivy Sisters Global Summit - and bonus...I'm one of the featured speakers this year!

Register now free and catch my section on the Power of Self-Authority: How stop needing approval or permission and own your choices. We go LIVE (online) November 9th.

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 About Lauren:

 A former Division-1 athlete who struggled with fear of failure, Lauren’s purpose is to empower women to liberate themselves from society’s expectations and reclaim their true spark. After graduating from Dartmouth College and then working in Silicon Valley for more than a decade, she traded the comforts of Corporate America for a riskier path that aligned with her passion to lead women.

Today, high-achieving, professional women come to Lauren when they’re feeling stuck and can’t stop getting in their own way. Through her 7x7 methodology, she helps them break old patterns and upgrade their mental operating system, so they live a more fulfilling, purpose-driven life.

Lauren is a mother to a blended family of 7 children and is passionate about building global communities for women and youth.

Have you taken the Decision Style Quiz yet? 

It'll tell you your default Decision Style, how to avoid its most common (most annoying) pitfalls, AND how you can use it to your advantage. 

Welcome to Decision Style #2: The Procrastinator!

Wait, Kirsten, procrastinating is bad, evil, and actually any human's most condemnable character flaw...Isn't it???

NOPE.

Just because we have a default way of thinking that feels like a a problem, that doesn't mean it has to stay a problem.

In this episode, you'll hear:

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Have you taken the Decision Style Quiz yet? 

It'll tell you your default Decision Style, how to avoid its most common (most annoying) pitfalls, AND how you can use it to your advantage. 

Today we're delving into Decision Style #1, which happens to be my personal default: The Overthinker.

Wait, Kirsten, are you telling me it doesn't have to be a completely bad thing that I overthink stuff?

EXACTLY.

Just because we have a default way of thinking that feels like a a problem, that doesn't mean it has to stay a problem.

In this episode, you'll hear:

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How do we get ourselves to DO the things we wanna do?

Today's episode asks you to stop looking at motivation as gasoline in a tank (is there enough to get where we want?) and instead, as an emotion.

It's easy to forget that motivated is a feeling, just like grateful and irritated.

And too often, we expect this emotion to show up on cue when it's time to do the things we've planned.

But what happens when you don't feel motivated? 

Do you abandon your plans? Leave the thing unfinished? Blame yourself for not being motivated enough?

What if you didn't HAVE to feel motivated — and you could still follow through on your plans?

In this episode I'll walk you through how to change your mind about "feeling motivated" and make it easier to do the stuff you wanna do!

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"I don't have a choice" is one of the most toxic ideas out there. 

And we believe it...even when we're not talking about impossibilities born of the laws of physics!

In this episode, we talk about:

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So many choices are influenced by our fear of eliciting certain reactions from other people.

This is FOPO in action, right?

Fear of people’s opinions swooping in to compel us to not say what we mean, not advocate for what we want, agree to stuff we don’t want to do...

This mostly happens on a small scale. But when it becomes a decision-making habit, it can result in BIG life choices (where you live, work you do, who you spend your time with). 

Obviously, you don't want to base your biggest decisions on "how So-n-So might react" — and that's what today's episode will help you with.

Listen in on what's REALLY going on when you're afraid of what someone will think / feel / do in response to your choices, and how this can FREE you from making decisions out of FOPO!

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How do you tell the difference between "being polite / professional / etc" vs. making an inauthentic choice out of fear of people's opinions? 

Short answer? You either feel in charge of your decision or you don't. 

Even if the choice LOOKS the same (i.e...you agree to meet your weirdest family members in Vegas for Thanksgiving)...

Your decision's motivation impacts the energy it takes to follow-through, your mood & mindset, your sense of agency, the experience you have. 

In short, knowing if your choice to pack your sunscreen & book the flight is AUTHENTIC or not is a huge factor in your well-being, self-concept and (importantly) future decisions. 

This episode walks you all the way through a decision, so you can see what it's like to  maybe want to make someone happy, maybe not wanna piss someone else off, and maybe be unsure of what you authentically wanna do.

You'll see what questions to ask, how to know where you stand, and end up with a decision you feel in charge of and totally trust. 

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