Decision Ease

FOPO: Fear of people's opinions.

Not just super annoying and we wish we were over it by now...but also, a huge influence on your decision-making.

Specifically? How empowered you do (or don't) feel in the choices you make. 

This episode will tell you how to spot (often sneaky, subtle) signs that FOPO is costing you some of your agency — and how to get it back!

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Why does the act of deciding inspire such feelings of fear & finality?

Well, turns out it's not just you being dramatic and/or indecisive...!

Etymologically speaking, it actually makes a lot of sense that we take decisions so dang seriously.

This episode explains why "deciding" really does inspire fear, and how indecision becomes the norm when FEAR is your decision-making baseline.

To get free from indecision, you have to shift your baseline out of fear.

We explore 4 steps to do just that in this episode!

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How do we make easier, better, more self-honoring decisions when it comes to FOOD and how we think about our bodies?

Well, if you're like me, you have a lifetime of influences that makes this a complicated question.

This year though, I decided I wanted answers (and good ones), so I hired Intuitive Eating Coach Victoria Yates! I gotta be honest - I had no idea what "intuitive eating" was (and frankly didn't really care). I just wanted to clean up this drama that wasn't going away on its own.

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Victoria is a former nurse turned intuitive eating & body image coach for women. She specializes in helping women to stop dieting & love their bodies by learning how to eat intuitively & healing their relationship with food.

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You're unclear on your goals — but you still have time & energy you have to...use up on stuff.

WHAT NOW. 

This episode gives you actionable guidance for when you're in this super common, usually uncomfortable place.

We go into detail on how to:

1. Remove the pressure to know ALL the answers RIGHT now

2. Use this sneaky question to get unstuck: “If you did know what you were going to do next, what would you say?”

3. Identify your Vision, Goals & Values to get clear on what you want

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Sometimes, there really is no tidy, perfect solution where everyone’s happy and you get everything exactly how you wanted it...😬

BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t still feel totally in charge of your choices and be intentional about what you do.

If you feel backed into a corner, like you can't have one thing without sacrificing another —  or like you have to give up one possibility to pursue the other — this episode is for you.

These strategies'll help you see:

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a) This episode was inspired by conversations on TikTok — come hang out with me if you’re over there! @thedecisioncoach

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A lot of what I’ve heard from people lately is about “prioritizing.”

How do I choose what to do first, how do I feel ok about what’s not getting done while I’m doing something else, how do I not self-sabotage and say I’ll do this but then put it off forever...?

If you’re listening real-time, make sure you sign up for the upcoming workshop: the Get Shit Done Decision-Making Workshop happens Aug 10th.

Today we’re looking at how to prioritize when you don’t know where to start.

I give you a series of high-quality questions to ask to organize your brain chaos, prevent back-n-forthing, and make a decision you trust about what to prioritize!

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If the idea that "You don't have to be productive all the time" sounds scary AND wonderful, this episode is for you.

Hard-working high-achievers learn the mindset that To work is to succeed & earn value...To rest is to quit, fail and basically be worthless.

It's no suprise that, at some point, we get sick of this mindset and realize we'd love to rest AND get stuff done — and stop feeling so crappy about ourselves.

This episode gives you 3 things to do to start implementing this new way of being.

3 ways to escape the Productivity Police you've feared all your life but no longer wanna run from!

I know you want to get stuff done — I’m with you — but I also know you want to enjoy daily life more and stop feeling like you never do enough. 

Deep down, you and I both know you’re doing A LOT — and we also know that beating yourself up is not the winning strategy to get your next goal accomplished.

Have fun creating a world without Productivity Police! I guarantee you’ll get more meaningful stuff done, but more importantly, you’ll feel your best doing it.

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There's a LOT of potential in the year ahead. 

But diving straight into a Goal Game Plan can set you up for burnout & misalignment if you don't take the time to reflect on the year so far!

This guided exercise is designed to help you reflect & reset in a structured, intentional, doable way.

Download your free REFLECT + RESET GUIDE here (or visit kirstenparker.com/60)

Have fun envisioning the year you want — and seeing how it's so possible for you!

If you use all the information of where you're coming from and what won't work well to get where you wanna go, you'll make it easy to get there.

Enjoy!

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If you're a hard-working high-achiever who's "a bit too hard on yourself"...you may be talking yourself out of one or more of these 4 things on a daily basis without even knowing it. 

Which matters because these 4 things are VITAL to a fulfilling, whole, happy, authentic life.🚨

And we can get in the habit of automatically depriving ourselves of them.

This episode walks you through how to spot it if it's happening (it can be SO subtle) — what the ripple effects are (and will be) if you keep on doing it — and simple things to try this week to start changing this habit asap.

I challenge you to see what happens when you STOP talking yourselves out of this stuff. I'm guessing if you give it a try, you won't go back! 

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How much of your daily frustration comes from dealing with stuff not being the way you want? 😤

95...maybe 96% minimum? 

This is real!

At some point, it stops mattering if it's a broken dishwasher or a severed finger (not to be gross) — but frustration can become the go-to reaction to almost ANYTHING not going "our way."

And while this often seems justified (or at least unavoidable), it's wasting a TON of your time & energy.

Getting so worked up...potentially judging/shaming yourself for it...then needing to cool off and deal with the thing that upset you in the first place...Not super efficient. And definitely unpleasant!

In this week's episode, I invite you to tune into your Resistance Scale.

You'll learn how to pay attention to how resistant you are automatically to whatever's happening in reality...and how to decide how resistant you WANT to be. 

The truth is, frustration isn't always a useless "bad" thing. Sometimes it has helpful information to deliver. 

This episode will help you learn how to spot that data when it's there — and how to be less reactive (get less frustrated!) when it truly won't do anything but waste your precious resources.

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