Decode Your Burnout (formerly Optimize Your Life)

Sometimes we find ourselves in highly challenging situations at work and at home that take a toll on us. We stay in these situations when we don't perceive we have a choice. We try to power through, but find over time that we run out of steam.

Dr. Laura Berenstain shares her challenges as a physician, mothers, and wife that led her to burnout, how because she thought she had no other choice kept her in toxic situations for far too long, and what she learned once she stopped focusing just on those around her and started to think about what she needs.

Laura's message is a powerful one about women's programming as caretakers and gender discrimination that contributed to her burnout but aren't unique to just her. In addition, once she realized she could rewrite her story, she names elements related to gratitude, love, and resilience that provide hope for others struggling in the way she used to.

About Dr. Laura Berenstain

Laura is a pediatric cardiac anesthesiologist who is also a Physician Career Development and Leadership Coach. She's a mom to three daughters, an author, a speaker, and a survivor of burnout. That path led her to coaching and her passion is working with other women physicians to help them determine their best life and how to achieve it without sacrificing their own authenticity along the way. In addition to coaching Laura works on national well-being and professional development committees through the American Society of Anesthesiologists and the Society for Pediatric Anesthesia's Women's Empowerment Leadership Initiative (WELI).

Resources:

1) Connect with Dr. Laura: https://lauraberenstain.com/

2) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/4VjPyLAVZFc

3) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

4) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

5) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

How do you know if you're just tired or if you're burned out? You know you're in burnout if you just can't bounce back. That's what happened to Stephanie Melodia who, as a super achiever, kept getting signs from her body but could not slow down. She needed to keep going.

What happened to her is what happens to many high achievers who burn out. Although she normally never got sick, this time the accumulated stress got to her and she became ill for a long time.

In this week's episode of Decode Your Burnout, Stephanie shares how this phenomenon of running yourself ragged is especially common in both women and in entrepreneurs. That's because women, she suggests, are programmed to be caregivers and entrepreneurs tend to experience a fear of losing out if they aren't constantly working on their business. So if you're a female entrepreneur like Stephanie is, you're at double the risk of everyone else!

FOMO, as it turns out, puts you on the "fast track to burnout."

What is the answer according to Stephanie? Putting the fun back in your life. It's how, she believes, instead of burning out, you can "set your heart on fire!"

Listen to the episode in full to learn what Stephanie did and how it helped her recover from burnout and balance out her workaholic tendencies.

About Stephanie Melodia:

Named UK Top 20 Most Influential Female Founder by Startups Magazine, Stephanie Melodia is the CEO of Bloom, the tech industry's award-winning brand marketing agency. Stephanie is also host of the Time to Bloom podcast as well as the biannual event series, Bloom Presents. She is a scout for early-stage VC firm, Ada Ventures, and proponent of Feminism 5.0 - the fifth wave that focuses on the men to achieve gender equality. Stephanie is a sought after thought leader in the fields of entrepreneurship and gender equality and she's here to share her burnout story and 3 tips that have helped her recover.

Resources:

1) Connect with Stephanie: https://www.stephaniemelodia.com/

2) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/5gfgniRcoRM

3) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

4) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

5) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

Flo Nicolas, AKA the non-boring lawyer, is a former lawyer, who after burning out, left the legal profession to go after her dreams. Flo is a legal technologist who simplifies technology for professionals and small business owners so they can increase their productivity. She's been described as a "firecracker of knowledge and expertise when it comes to the legal technology field," "a powerhouse in the telecommunications industry," and as a "no-nonsense individual who can get results without the need to an iron fist."

On this week's episode of Decode Your Burnout, she debunks the myths of what it takes to be productive and how we can use technology to get more done in less time and as a result prevent burnout, especially if you are an entrepreneur or a lawyer.

Resources:

1) Connect with Flo on Tik Tok, LI, IG, Twitter: @nonboringlawyer or on her website: https://www.cheapcheepchat.com

2) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/dxbc7QQNOXY

3) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

4) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

5) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

Have you lost the connection to your work? If so, erotic intelligence may be just what you need.

This week on Decode Your Burnout, my guest is Dr. Amy O'Hana who helps burned-out people fall in love with work again. In a sense, erotic intelligence, she assures us, is not necessarily about sexuality. Instead, it's about feeling reconnected to our sense of purpose because when we are disconnected, we are burned out.

Amy debunks 3 myths related to burnout including:

1) I can fix my burnout by fixing my schedule or quitting my job

2) Men and women experience burnout the same way

3) Burnout is the same as depression

If you're burned out, don't miss this episode!

About Amy O'Hana:

Amy is a licensed professional counselor in Oregon and a full-time professor at the University of Western States. Amy's research interests are human potential and motivation, erotic intelligence (which isn't necessarily about sexuality), and spirituality. She is the author of two published books, When Your Child is Grieving (2019) and Beyond Burnout: What To Do When Your Work Isn't Working For You (2020). Her passion is to help people reconnect with themselves, the Divine, and work so they can experience life to the fullest.

Resources:

1) Connect with Amy: https://www.amyohana.com/

2) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/-FKH6V9VhWQ

3) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

4) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

5) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

What's the one thing that can help with your ability to perform on the job, allow you to better manage your emotions, improve your health, and perhaps save your marriage? Sleep!

"When life gets busy and we're pulled in different directions, the first thing we let go of is sleep and that's the thing we need to preserve the most." This is according to Dr. Shane Creado, a sleep medicine doc who talks about three aspects of sleep: timing, quality, and duration. In his words, "God gave us the greatest gift of sleep. He just forgot to give us a user menu. And that's where I come in."

We touch on the exhaustion you feel when you're burned out and how sleep can help. Whether you aren't sleeping because you're trying to get more done or because you're overly stressed about everything on your to-do list and can't turn your mind off, this episode is for you.

If you're ready to debunk the myths about sleep, find out why your sleep is disrupted, and what you can do to optimize your sleep, listen to this episode in full.

About Dr. Shane Creado:

Dr. Shane Creado is a double board-certified sleep medicine doctor and psychiatrist. He practices functional sleep medicine, integrative psychiatry, and sports psychiatry.

He works not only on the treatment of sleep disorders, but also on perfecting and optimizing sleep, thereby boosting sports performance and workplace productivity.

He is the author of the book 'Peak Sleep Performance for Athletes', The cutting-edge sleep science that will guarantee a competitive advantage.

In addition to working with individual patients (including elite athletes, CEOs, and business leaders), he consults with sports teams to design team-specific and athlete-specific sleep guidelines and strategies off-season, in-season and pre-season, to boost performance.He provides 'Sleep Retreats' to organizations/ companies, which involve education on sleep and performance, screening for sleep disorders, and specific strategies to improve sleep and performance.

Resources:

1) Get in touch with Dr. Shane on Instagram: @peaksleepperformance

2) Contact Dr. Shane for a risk assessment: https://shanecreado.com/

3) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/qe_k2QD4v7M

4) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

5) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

6) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

Sometimes, a feeling of scarcity and a need to be hyper-independent can lead us to drive ourselves too hard and burn out. That's exactly what happened to Bridget Mimari, a former lawyer and mother of four who was living in functional burnout until she developed a fatal liver condition at the end of one of her pregnancies.

Bridget has since retired from the law and has become a multi-passionate entrepreneur and alignment coach who shares 3 ways to get into balance with your masculine and feminine energies to avoid burnout.

If you are addicted to your struggle story, sick of going through life with a death grip approach, and tired of putting out fires and want instead to learn to trust, receive, and relax, don't miss this episode.

Resources:

1) Get in touch with Bridget on Instagram: @bridgetmimari

2) Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/qe_k2QD4v7M

3) Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

4) Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

5) Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

Are you a super competitive person in business and in life who's burned out chasing success when what you really want is fulfillment?

That's what my guest this week, Darrell Evans, shares about his entrepreneurial journey. Darrell was wired for competition from a young age when he played sports. As an adult, his environment perpetuated the competitive edge through metrics and status and fit in with Darrell's personality. He liked seeing his name in lights.

All this drive allowed Darrell to reach great heights in business, but he paid a price when he burned out.

Over the years, Darrell has learned how to keep a standard of high quality work without being a perfectionist. He has a life vision that serves as his compass, looks for things that fit his natural mode of operation, and sees hiring team members for his business as an investment rather than an expense.

Don't miss this episode as Darrell shares his story and 3 tips to help you avoid burnout, especially if you are trying to be all things to all people.

About Darrell Evans:

Darrell Evans is a serial entrepreneur, investor, and co-founder of Yokel Local Internet Marketing. He and his team have helped entrepreneurs and companies to generate over $300M in revenue online since 2011. He's personally started and/or operated 6 businesses since the age of 20).

He's also the host of The MindShift Podcast which launched in 2019 and is the founder of the MindShift Business Accelerator (MBA) and the MindShift Growth Mastermind (MGM).

His goal is to help your entrepreneurial audience grab at least one "MindShift" that could catapult them to their next level of success.

Resources:

Getting things done: https://amzn.to/3lz5cuO

The Mindshift Podcast: https://www.themindshiftpodcast.com/

Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/sNM9XPT__Gc

Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

Did you just realize that you're burned out? Or maybe you just recovered from burnout and although you've never considered doing something else for work, you're starting to wonder about your options.

This week's guest, Judith Gaton, shares her journey of going from being a lawyer to becoming a life coach. She encourages others who are feeling fed up with their career to just "play with the possibility that there could be something different" and to "let that be delicious and fun."

But more than that, Judith is a stylist who debunks the myths of what it takes to truly have style in your wardrobe. Together, we talk about the connection between how we dress and our relationship to ourselves, much of which is unconscious.

This episode is for you if:

*You have a wardrobe full of stuff you secretly hate because you've neglected yourself for too long

*Your closet is a conglomeration of "ass on fire" shopping

*Your clothes fit your body but not your lifestyle or vice versa which is why you have lots of clothes you never wear

*You are using shopping as an emotional management strategy

*You are dressing to cover what someone once told you was a flaw

Judith debunks 3 myths of what it takes to be stylish:

*Style is the same thing as fashion

*Style is one particular thing

*In order to purchase clothing that fits, you have to do something to your body first and earn the right to invest in yourself

About Judith Gaton:

In her signature course Style Masterclass, Judith teaches her clients that thought work is the key to a lasting makeover. Through confidence coaching and mindset work, she helps her clients to see that they can dress and love the body they are in right now. When Style & Confidence are dialed in, women can go do the work they were created to do in the world. Her ultimate style philosophy: Confident Women Build Legacies.

Get in touch with Judith:

*Podcast: Style Masterclass

*Bye bye janky bras and undies guide: learn to diagnose common bra and pantie issues: https://www.judithgaton.com/doctors

Resources:

*Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist *Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/ *Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

*Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/m0Y4A4QgyTU

Are you spending your nights and weekends organizing your reports for work? Do you constantly have to edit what you write because you're not getting the responsiveness that you want? Are you feeling frustrated, bitter, or are you starting to lose confidence in yourself because you're not getting the decisions you want?

Certainly, this is not only keeping you from being able to unplug and reboot, but it's putting you at risk for burnout and it can stall your career.

But luckily, there is a simple turnaround for this that can help get your message out in a powerful way more quickly and also accelerate your career.

This week, we are joined by Davina Stanley, a communication specialist whose specialty is helping executives communicate complex ideas.

She's here to debunk the myths of what it takes to be a great business communicator because when your thinking is clear, you can communicate more clearly and get the decisions you need.

Myth 1: Your audience needs your background first so they can understand your main point

Myth 2: Shorter communication is always better

Myth 3: A great way to structure your communication is to provide a list of topics

Connect with Davina:

*Website: www.clarityfirstprogram.com

*Read Davina's book: The So What Strategy, which features the 7 common storyline patterns executives can use to structure their thinking for any type of communication: https://amzn.to/3Ftx5O5

*Check out the "Communicate With Impact" program (free): www.clarityfirstprogram.com/cwi

Resources:

*Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

*Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

*Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/

*Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/Xet7Jt-t5Es

Gary Collins was a "kid from nowhere who wanted to do better than his parents to escape "poorville." He "did everything right" but got caught up in chasing the carrot. His burnout was a "blessing in disguise." Now he shares his 3-legged stool of living a simple life, the exact principles that allowed him to have a total reset and "get back to old Gary."

If you've lost touch with who you were, don't miss this interview on Decode Your Burnout.

About Gary Collins:

Gary Collins's expert knowledge brings a much-needed perspective to today's areas of simple living, health, nutrition, entrepreneurship, self-help, and self-reliance.

In addition to being a best-selling author, he is a highly sought after speaker in numerous areas related to self-improvement and life simplification; he's taught at the university level; consulted and trained college-level athletes; and been interviewed for his expertise on various subjects by CBS Sports, Adam Carolla's Ace on the House, Coast to Coast AM, The World according to Ben Stein, The RT Network, and FOX News, to name a few.

His website, www.thesimplelifenow.com, podcast The Simple Life with Gary Collins, and The Simple Life book series (his total lifestyle reboot), blows the lid off conventional life and wellness expectations and is considered essential for every person seeking a simpler and happier life.

The Simple Life Three-Legged Stool for living a life you want:

Leg 1: Focus on creating optimal health

Leg 2 - Eliminate debt to create financial freedom

Leg 3 - Find your life purpose

Resources:

Watch the video of this episode: https://youtu.be/425A8jKnihs

Download a copy of the Burnout Checklist at: https://www.drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist

Sign up for a free Breakthrough Session with Dr. Sharon: http://www.bookachatwithsharon.com/

Take the first step to decode your burnout: http://decodeyourburnout.com/