Decoding Divorce

If you are faced with speaking to a judge about your case, a powerful declaration can make all the difference in receiving the outcome you desire in your DIY divorce.

But it's not a document you should rush to complete. Balancing factual events while eliciting emotion can be a dynamite combination that will help you actually get heard by your judge as you tell your story.

In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian defines a declaration document, outlines the circumstances under which a declaration would be completed, and gives practical examples and tips for writing a winning declaration.

Get your guide to filling out your declaration here!

Find yourself stuck in a regret loop or feeling shame about the events that lead to your marriage ending?

In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian uncovers why we feel regret when we get divorced. She discusses why it is so important that you understand this part of the grief cycle and acknowledge your emotions through this thought work.

Decoding Divorce provides you with the 7-step process for working through your regret in a way that helps you use your emotions for growth, not for self-destruction.

Even in this difficult season of your life, you can absolutely become the happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself.

For more information about dealing with grief about your divorce, go back and listen to Ep 5: Divorce Grief. . . How to Survive It!

Feel like you need some guidance to finally break the haunting cycle of regret? Book a free call with one of our divorce coaches today! → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact

Is there a faster, quicker, easier way to get a divorce?

In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian responds to this frequently asked question. Of course, as with any area of the law, it is not always a cut and dry answer.

Zeppy outlines the process of Summary of Dissolution (a quickie divorce) in order to decide if this is the right route for you and your soon-to-be-ex. She also defines the ten criteria you need to meet to qualify in order to file.

You will learn how to determine if this really is a quicker fix for you and your family, as well as how to take the next step.

Access the California Self-Help Guide to get started. → https://www.courts.ca.gov/selfhelp.htm

Calculate your date of separation by listening to episode 4 of the podcast here.

In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian shines a light on one of the most difficult shifts your divorce will cause you to make- finding your authentic self.

Referencing Jen Hatmaker's incredible book Fierce, Free, Fire, Zeppy explores why we lose our identities, compromise our personalities, ideas, and convictions in a marriage. She details how to get out of the mindset of shape-shifting into who your spouse wants you to be, and rediscovering and reclaiming who you truly are.

We at Decoding Divorce want to help give you a roadmap for giving back the titles that others have given to you, stop fitting into a mold, and start living according to what lights you up and gives you true courage through your divorce.

Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today to rediscover who you are.

Check out Jen's book here!

In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian discusses a vital emotional and practical preparation you need to make regarding your children before you leave your marriage.

The hard truth is, your divorce does not automatically grant you the freedom to parent your children the way you want to parent them. In fact, there are more restrictions placed on you as a parent when you leave a relationship then there are when you remain in your relationship.

Zeppy provides an in-depth explanation as to why it is imperative that you pause before you start the process of leaving so you can understand the limits to freedom when it comes to children and custody.

You can create a preparedness plan for communication and negotiation with your soon-to-be-ex to ensure that you do what is best for your children while still reclaiming your independence.

Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today to make your plan below!

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In today's episode, family law attorney and divorce coach Zeppy Attashian explains that it is more common than not for couples to leave a marriage in debt, especially credit card debt.

If you are still moving forward with your divorce at this time, it is vitally important that you understand that the terms of reimbursements and obligations can drastically change over the delay between your separation to the finalization of your divorce.

In order to help you understand your credit card debt, we at Decoding Divorce have created a 7-step, question and answer process that will help you figure out where you stand in relation to a reimbursement right or obligation.

By answering these questions, you will be able to discern between individual and community debt and how to proceed in the way that serves you best in divorce negotiations.

Determine your Date of Separation → http://decodingdivorce.com/index.php/2019/10/04/04-your-date-of-separation-whats-the-big-deal/

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With the world slowed down and the worries piling high, we have received a number of questions regarding how the day-by-day changes will affect divorce proceedings and custody orders.

In today's episode, family law attorney and divorce coach Zeppy Attashian addresses four essential updates of which you must be aware due to COVID-19 and the current stay-in-place orders issued in California.

She explains, in-depth, the state of the court system and its effort to maintain the balance between your legal rights and your safety.

We aim to provide you with the correct, most up-to-date information and requirements for:

• Navigating child custody visitation obligations

• Domestic restraining orders

• Requesting modifications to child support orders

• Homeschooling your children

If we can help you in any way during this difficult time, please reach out to us!

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As we all navigate the challenges and uncertainties surrounding world events, today's episode is meant to be a message of hope in the storm.

We at Decoding Divorce understand the exacerbated struggle you may be facing, stuck at home with your spouse while experiencing building resentment with each passing hour. But you are not alone.

Divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian walks you through a self-assessment designed to determine what kind of support team may benefit you the most as you walk through your divorce process.

Zeppy discusses the innumerable advantages of getting your team in place now to keep you on track, give you a sounding board early on, and create a long term strategy for maintaining your physical and mental health.

We want you to know that even though you may think you are ready to jump ship and move forward with your divorce quickly, it is more important than ever to make sure that you pause and prepare. We're here to help you do just that.

Book a free 30-minute call with one of our divorce coaches, and get on the right track ahead of time.

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In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains how unpredictable and stressful circumstances (such as COVID-19) can affect your divorce and custody agreements.

At this point in time, courts are scaling back and only hearing urgent family law cases. We seek to provide you with an action plan, as your hearing or trial dates may be put off for an unknown period of time.

Zeppy provides strategies for remaining child-focused as a family unit, how to discuss conducting exchanges, as well as how financial support requirements will be affected at this time.

No court order will make arrangements for every possible circumstance your family will face. Here at Decoding Divorce, we encourage you to maintain open communication with the other parent if possible and use this extra time to explore alternate avenues for pursuing your divorce.

For updated information on Corona and the Courts, visit- https://www.ncsc.org/newsroom/public-health-emergency.aspx