Deep Thoughts W/The Dixons

Deep Thoughts W/The Dixons

By Nina Pal Dixon & Brian DixonEducationSelf-Improvement
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  • 42. "How to be Conscious in an Unconscious World"

    Inspire by a personal incident in the last week, Nina decided to discuss how to be self aware and conscious in an unconscious world/setting. It's easier to always take the high road when you have less human interaction with others. But most of us go to a job or work everyday that requires hours and hours of human interaction. With human interaction comes ego, trigger points, high emotions and the difficult choice of making a conscious choice or an unconscious choice. 


    Individuals who are on the path of reaching their highest potential usually tend to do the brunt of the inner work when it comes to self awareness and self understanding. After years of trial and error, making new friends, loosing old friends, shedding jobs or careers they don't align with them, distancing themselves from family members who aren't supportive etc, they tend to feel as though they have mastered "spirituality." But then they go back out into the world, and their human interaction spikes and one tiny incident can make them feel as though they took two steps forward in mastering themselves but then took 3 steps backward just when they thought they got the hang of life. 


    This happens to ALL of us. It is HARD work to always be self aware and always respond to people and life in a conscious manner. We aren't perfect beings. We are progressive beings. 


    WHAT IS SELF AWARENESS THOUGH? 


    Basic definition: it is the ability to pay attention to who you are and what makes you tick


    Complex definition: it involves developing an understanding of your deeper beliefs, inner wounds, mental and emotional defense mechanisms and repressed unconscious material. In simpler terms it's; deep self understanding. 


    Listen to the full episode to hear Nina & Brian discuss:

    1. examples of self awareness 
    2. why it is so important to be self aware 
    3. why it is so hard for us to be self aware 
    4. practical steps you can take to be self aware and conscious in an unconscious world/setting 



      5. Book: 

      1. "The Art of Living" by Thich Nhat Hanh
      2. "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh



        3. Quote: “you can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.” “Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they don't need the approval of others.” “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”


        1 hr 11 min
      3. 41. "Tulum, Mexico!"

        Welcome EVERYONE! 


        This week Nina & Brian are keeping it light. After a much needed vacay, they give you their "life updates" and share a few personal stories from the last few months. 


        In this episode you will learn: 

        1. Tulum, Mexico 
        2. Hormonal Imbalance & Exercise 
        3. Benefits of low cortisol levels 
        4. Plant based diet & workouts 
        5. Burnouts & vacations 


          6. Book: 



          Quote: 


          44 min
        6. 40. "How to Get Rid of the Winter Blues"

          What's up EVERYONE!


          Thank you for joining us again for another brand new episode of "Deep Thoughts W/The Dixons!" 


          Today's topic was a suggestion by one of our listeners! 


          "How To Get Rid of the Winter Blues" 


          1. Sage & Earthing 
          2. Warming Activities 
          3. Meditations with incense sticks or essential oils 
          4. Food Combining & Only Eating in Season 
          5. Ask yourself this; "How do I want to be known in this world? How do I want to show up for the people around me I love so much!" 


            6. Listen to the full episode to get all the details on how Nina combats the gloomy winter months!



            Quote:  "Remember, it's always mind over matter" 

            31 min
          6. 39. Overthinking Myself Into "Crazy"

            Welcome everyone! If you're back joining us, thank you so much for your loyalty to our show and if your new then thank you for giving our a podcast a chance! 


            Today's topic was a suggestion from a "Deep Thoughts w/the Dixons" listener! Oddly enough, the night before this was recorded Nina had a terrible experience with overthinking only to wake up the next day and realize the podcast she has to record on is about OVERTHINKING and being over analytical. 


            There are two types: 

            1. Over analytical, over thinker leading to analysis paralysis 
            2. Stuck in a cycle of worrying about something that will probably never happen 



              3. For the Over Analytical/Over-thinker: 

              10 steps to snap out of it for GOOD! 

              1. Stop waiting for perfection 
              2. Don't assume 
              3. Be more proactive; do stuff 
              4. Ask yourself the right type of questions 
              5. Have a sounding board 
              6. Create a plan and totally commit to it
              7. Stop rationalizing, justifying or explaining to others why you are not doing something 
              8. Keep a success diary 
              9. Get out of your thoughts- meditate 
              10. Have a safe word!- when you catch yourself loosing yourself in your thoughts, snap out of it and yell something out loud to yourself. For example "stop thinking so negatively!" or  "stop making up shit in your head!" or "knock it off this isn't helping you! 



                11. For the Worry Wort Stuck in A Worry Cycle: 

                1 step to snap out of it for GOOD! 

                1. Be OKAY with uncertainty and force yourself to just be. Sometimes life throw us curveballs and as much as we want to control the narrative, or outcome we just can't. We are more likely than not being forced to just be okay with not knowing how something is or will be. This is helping us relinquish control and trust in something greater than us. Take solace in the fact that whatever happens you will be well equipped to handle it. Sit with uncertainty and not knowing long enough and you'll realize you don't have to be at the beckoning call of your rampant thoughts making up scenarios/problems that aren't even going to happen. 


                  2. Books:

                  1. "Rewire Your Anxious Brain" by Catherine M Pittman 
                  2. "The Storm Inside" by Sheila Walsh 
                  3. "Overthinking" by Robert Leary 



                    4. Quote: "Overthinking, the art of creating problems that weren't even there" 


                    33 min
                  4. 38. "Jealousy in Marriages/Romantic Relationships"

                    Last week we discussed jealousy amongst our peers. This week its all about romantic relationships and marriages! 


                    In this episode we discuss: 


                    1) Where did jealousy in love begin?

                    2) How did we learn otherwise and overcome the childish jealousy? 

                    3) Is jealousy a sign of love or insecurity? 

                    4) How to stop being a jealous partner 

                    5) How to handle a jealous partner 


                    Books:

                    1. "Daring to Trust" by David Richo
                    2. "Courage to Cure Codependency" by Leah Clarke 



                      3. Quotes: 

                      1. "Jealousy only eats up your beauty. Have more faith in yourself, you got something that other people don't."
                      2. "The jealous are troublesome to others but a torment to themselves." 
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                      3. 37. "Are You Seething With Jealousy of Your Peers?"

                        There are better morning routines than Googling people you envy and hating yourself as a result. Jealousy is something we have all experienced at one point or another in our lives. But, if it's not healed it can consume you and eventually destroy you. 


                        Fun Facts: 


                        1. 80% of people check their phones in the AM. (within 15 minutes of waking up) 
                        2. 63% of them check social media at this time 


                          3. There are better ways to start your morning than bombarding your mind with what other people are doing. Subconsciously you are destroying your confidence, you are comparing and judging instead of focusing on YOUR well-being and on your path in this world. 


                          Focusing too much on your peers forces you to be on the sidelines watching others succeed as you fall behind. It's your own doing. Your investing your time into falling behind whereas your peers are busy living their lives. This all leads to self hate, uncertainty, envy, jealousy, lack of confidence, and procrastination. 


                          By comparing/observing others' way, you loose your way. 


                          VALUBALE TAKEAWAYS: 


                          1. What anyone is doing or not doing, how far ahead or behind in life they are, or how great someone's life may be IS YOUR PERCEPTION in comparison to you and your life. I like to call this limited perception. There is an error in your data right from the start and based on this erroneous data you become jealous? You compare? You assume? You get bitter? You judge? You see someone's post or status and assume you know what this person's life is all about? You assume it's better than yours? 
                          2. What someone else is doing does not mean you should too. Two people can be in the same predicament, situation or career and it does NOT MEAN either or is right or wrong. You can take a different path as the other person and both still be very successful in your careers. 
                          3. Be inspired. Use these moments to be inspired by your peers or motivated by them. Not bitter, jealous or envious of them. See your peers as proof that all that which you desire is possible for you too! 


                            4. Books:

                            1. "The Jealousy Cure" by Robert Leahy 
                            2. "Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy" by Zachary Stockhill 



                              3. Quote: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" 





                              42 min
                            3. 36. "Avoid Burnouts With These 4 Practical Steps"

                              In this episode you will learn how to avoid burnouts in any area of your life; career, health, relationships, social life etc. 


                              Questions to Ask Yourself: 


                              1. Are you loosing your passion for life? 
                              2. Do you spend more time laying around instead of enjoying moments/life?
                              3. Are you unmotivated? Perhaps uninterested in everything around you? 
                              4. Do you spend more time thinking about doing things as opposed to actually doing them? 


                                5. We've all experienced burnouts before and sometimes we are so deep into it, we don't even realize that the physical symptoms we may be experiencing are sure signs of a burnout. 


                                Signs You May Be Burned Out:


                                1. Exhaustion; physical/emotional. Chronic fatigue. 
                                2. Cynicism. A short fuse. Detachment 
                                3. Lack of accomplishment
                                4. Unmotivated and uninspired 
                                5. Negativity 


                                  6. 4 Easy Yet Effective Steps To Avoid Burnouts: 


                                  1. Do something for others. Serve others. Volunteer. Make sure it is separate from your current job 
                                  2. Disconnect from technology and spend time outside. Do this for 2-3 days in a row. 
                                  3. Submerse yourself into something creative just for fun 
                                  4. Take a vacay. Just do it. Don't think twice. 



                                    5. Quote: "Don't Say You Don't Have Enough Time"

                                    39 min
                                  5. 35. "Are You Offended? Why?"

                                    This episode is all about being/feeling OFFENDED. 


                                    Are you easily offended? 


                                    Do you always take what others do/say personally?


                                    Are you always trying to defend yourself to others? 



                                    Being offended is by far one of the most negative emotional states one can find themselves in. When someone feels offended, they are basically giving their personal power away to someone else or something. How can this be healthy? How is this any way to live? 


                                    Being offended is a CHOICE. Allowing another person to hurt your feelings or allowing someone to offend you is nothing short of self-imposed mental cruelty.


                                    Listen to the full episode to learn more. 


                                    Quote: "You do you, boo" 


                                    47 min
                                  6. 34. "You May Not Even Know You Are Holding Onto An Old Story"

                                    Welcome back everyone! 

                                    TOPIC:

                                    Throw Away Your Past/Your Old Story. 

                                    You may be confusing your past story with your current and future one. Too much attachment to our old story leads to victimhood, an unfulfilling life, and repeat scenarios. All of which is self inflicted and can be changed starting today! 


                                    In this episode you will learn: 

                                    1. How to get rid of your old, past/bad story 
                                    2. How to stop replaying it. You may not even know you replay it.
                                    3. How to create a new healthy story for yourself !
                                    4. Some examples of new rewritten stories 


                                      5. To allow something from your past to dictate your actions or beliefs (which affect your actions, which then affect your life) is senseless. This type of behavior makes you helpless, makes you feel like you are the victim to life's circumstances. People tell themselves all kinds of stories and live in them as if they are forever attached to it. There is a scientific reason for this; comfort. Many individuals tend to stay in the past and replay it over and over again and allow their beliefs and actions all to be shaped by it too because they want to stay in that victimhood mentality. Not that anyone purposely does this but subconsciously its the ego's way of allowing individuals to NOT do the work that is necessary to bring forth positive change in their lives. 


                                      An example would be of a man who has been divorced twice and now chalks up his life to staying single and just casually dating around because "he's no good in marriages." Or he blames women all together for his lack of interest in a healthy, adult relationship. This man is replaying his past story over and over again and allowing his beliefs to be shaped by his past, and worst, allowing his actions in the present, be shaped by the past. His romantic will never change until he rewrites a NEW story for himself by accepting his part in the past experiences and making conscious changes to himself and to his perception of women and love. 


                                      5 STEPS TO ELIMINATE YOUR PAST AND REWRITE A NEW STORY FOR YOURSELF:

                                      1. Right here, right now accept the FACT that your past is NOT your now and it is NOT your future. It's physically and scientifically impossible for your past to be now or in the future. It's gone. Accept it. 
                                      2. Believe that you can and will a better now and an even better future. Believe that you deserve that goodness in your life. Believe that you deserve a new story
                                      3. Learn how and why you too were a part of the past bad story. You played a part in it too. Take accountability for that. 
                                      4. Start again. Fresh.
                                      5. Go for it. Put pen to paper, plan, add a timeline and start 


                                        6. LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE FOR A PRO TIP ON THIS TOPIC! HINT: "SASHA FIERCE" 



                                        Books: 

                                        1. The Power of Your Story by Jim Loehr
                                        2. Rewrite Your Story; Reshape Your Life by Dan Fowler 


                                          3. Quote: "Everyday is a new opportunity to change your life. You have the power to say; this is not how my story ends."

                                          31 min
                                        3. 33. "Have You Ever Questioned How You Measure Your Self-Worth?"

                                          One week into this brand New Year and we are feeling inspired, motivated and grateful by all of the amazing support we have received from all of our listeners from all over the world! We dropped a new podcast cover, we have added show notes to EVERY single episode, each packed with VALUE all for you guys! There is so much more coming in 2020 and we are over the moon excited to share it all with you guys!! 


                                          TOPIC OF DISCUSSION:


                                          "HOW DO YOU MEASURE YOUR SELF-WORTH?'


                                          This is major. This question requires a lot of honesty and a lot breaking down old habits and patterns. It's not something that comes easy to all of us, yet I truly believe it's one of the most important questions we must take the time to answer for ourselves. 


                                          In this episode you will learn:


                                          1. What Self-Worth Is
                                          2. How Many of Us Incorrectly Measure It 
                                          3. Why We Are So Incorrect In How Measure Our Self-Worth
                                          4. Is There A Right/Wrong Way to Measure Our Worth
                                          5. How Brian and Nina Used to Measure Their Self-Worth
                                          6. How Nina and Brian Measure Their Self- Worth Today 



                                            7. BOOKS:

                                            1. "UnFuck Yourself" by Gary John Bishop  
                                            2. "Get Out Of Your Own Way" by Mark Goulston 
                                            3. "You Are Enough" by Mandy Hale 
                                            4. "The Infinite Game" by Simon Senuk 




                                              5. QUOTE: "Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth"




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                                              1 hr 10 min

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