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How do you go about reconciling grief and happiness when dealing with loss? That’s exactly what we’re talking about today with guest Emily Thiroux Threatt. After her second husband died, she turned to writing to help deal with her grief. It was then she discovered she could use writing to help others deal with grief too.

This journey led Emily to write her book “Living and Loving Your Way Through Grief: A Comprehensive Guide to Reclaiming and Cultivating Joy and Carrying on in the Face of Loss.” As a grief transformation expert, she helps others find what to focus on during times of grief, giving them concrete tools during their most difficult times.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

Why Emily felt called to write her book.

What Emily found the most difficult in dealing with grief.

The strategy she uses to bring grief and happiness together.

The power of gratitude when expressing grief.

What happened differently than Emily expected when she started grief work.

The role forgiveness plays in grief.

How someone who has suffered loss can begin the grieving process.

How grief can lead you to lose sense of self (and what to do about it).

What Emily offers within the Grief and Happiness Alliance.

What Emily realized was missing when she began having grief conversations.

How free programs minimize the perceived value of a program.

Why saying “I’m sorry for your loss” isn’t typically helpful.

Helpful strategies to approach others who are grieving.

The people Emily has grieved in her own life and her personal experiences with loss.

Why reaching out to people who are dealing with loss is so important.

Connect with Emily

Emily’s website: https://lovingandlivingyourwaythroughgrief.com/

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You're listening to the live love engage podcast on today's show. We're going to be talking about how to reclaim and cultivate joy while dealing with loss. Stay tuned. I am Gloria grace Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number one, Amazon best seller live love engage - how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself.

In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more. Influence and income. Welcome to live. Love engage.

Namaste and welcome. Welcome. I am so delighted to be joining you again today for another edition of live love engage, and I'm delighted to have our guest with us who's going to be talking about lots of different things here, but. Pretty much what, for those of you watching, but those are, you have YouTube. We'll be able to tell, our guest is Emily Thiroux Threatt. And, I'll just tell it through the rest of you listening at home. I'll tell you more about why I mentioned that in a second, but anyway, welcome Emily to live Love, engage.

Thank you, Aloha. I'm really happy to be here. Well, we are happy to have you and yes. And the reason Emily said Aloha she's, I'm so jealous. She is coming to us all the way from Hawaii, from the great, uh, island of Maui and, uh, Yeah, let me tell you a little bit more about why I've got her on the show today.

So she is the author of the book called loving and living your way through grief. And it is a comprehensive guide to reclaiming and cultivating joy. And carrying on in the face of loss and she, that book has been the winner of the book authority, best new grief book. And I've got the silver medal for the living now book awards.

And she's also the founder of the grief and happiness Alliance and host of her own podcast called grief and happiness. And she has a lot of experience in the grieving process, learning to face love with love. Face life with love, optimism, and joy. And her mission is to comfort and support those dealing with grief and loss, focusing on happiness, which I know when you're in the throws of grief, it often seems like when am I ever going to be happy again?

And I know, I may share a little bit about my experience with that because I definitely have felt that, but, I would love for you to tell our listeners and those watching on YouTube today as well. Why, why did you feel compelled to write this book? What prompted it? The writing of the book really came from me, dealing with the death of my second husband.

I've had two husbands die and I never thought I'd be in that position in my life. You know, you, you, when you get married, you might say something like till death do your part, but you don't think that's really going to happen. I found myself going, okay, now what do I do? And I was kind of struggling with that.

I've, I've taught writing for many years at the university in California, which I still do online. And that was good. And, and I loved to write, I've written a couple of college textbooks, so I thought, well, I should use writing since that's what I'm comfortable with and familiar with to help me. And deal with my loss.

So I started writing lots of different things, writing journals, writing gratitude, lists, doing other things, finding things, and that writing that I thought, gee, I bet other people who are dealing with loss could benefit from learning how to use these writing techniques too. So I thought I'll teach. So, oh, I haven't lived on only that long.

Didn't know that many people and didn't know anybody on knowing you had had someone die. So I thought, how am I going to do this? So I went on meetup and had a scheduled, a meeting at my house saying, if this is your situation, we're going to meet on this day at my house, come on over and we'll write. And they did.

I was shocked. I had a nice size group and, uh, we actually stuck together right until the pandemic started. We met regularly and they loved it and we found that we were. I'm smiling a lot in the meetings. We have tears too, but we also were able to find happiness and what we were doing, and I loved what we were doing there.

And in the meantime, a few months after Ron died, a very good friend of his just dropped dead on the mainland and his friend was much, much younger. We were family, friends lived a couple blocks apart from each other and. He called my husband, dad. That's that's how big their age difference was. And I thought I'll, his wife is not going to have a clue of what to think about or what's important or what she needs to do.

Cause she wasn't at a point in her life where this was anything she would have anticipated. So I wrote her a long letter that said, I understand where you are right now. And through my experiences, I've discovered that these are the things that you need to pay attention to right now. And these are the things that you don't.

And I was able to get it to her within a few hours actually, after he died. And she let me know later how valuable that was to her, because nobody told her things like that. Everybody come and say, I'm sorry for your loss, but nobody was giving her anything concrete or something. She could do something with her about.

So I thought, wow, I, I should do more. Then there must be something else I could do. I decided that what was hard for me was the kind of loneliness of the first year of not having anybody that really related to what you were going through. And so I decided I would write her a note and mail it to her in the mail.

So she gets something in the mailbox every week for the first. And after I decided to do that, I thought, well, I'd better. See if I've got 52 things that I can say. So I sat down and wrote a list of 52 different things that would carry on through that first year. And I thought, this is, this is really good.

You know, I really liked what I was offering to her. And as a writer, I thought, and it's also. So I got a publisher and got a contract and wrote the book and it came out this last January. That's amazing. There's a lot there that that you talked about that I think is useful for someone going through grief now, now, correct me if I'm wrong.

Cause it sounded like you were saying at the beginning though, in this meetup group you were actually writing. So that was what types of things were you writing about or is it just like writing about your feelings or what was different every time I've, I've always. Focused on positivity. So I, the one thing I didn't want was for everybody to just sit and cry through the whole meeting and then never come back.

Right. So we needed to do something that would be a balance that could include that. And, and that positivity is what led me to found a grief and happiness. And a lot of times when I say those two words together, grief and happiness people go, oh yeah, right. But the more they're around what we do and, and who I am, the more they can buy into it.

And the more they smile and that's real, really what I'm looking for is to help people be able to take a deep breath and smile. So we would do things. I like we learned the value of gratitude and different ways to express that, especially in writing. And that was so powerful. Everybody always w they they'd always start off with, I don't have anything to be grateful for my.

Husband or my mom or my child or whoever my dog, whoever it was died. And so w that would give us an opportunity to talk about that a little bit and then write about it. And they were always surprised with the things that they found as they did that. And then they'd come back and go, you know, I've been doing that gratitude lists and it makes a big difference.

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Confidence is something we all strive for in our personal lives and professional lives. Yet, as I share in this episode previously recorded live on Facebook and LinkedIn, there are many myths about confidence that could be hindering you if you believe them.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. Podcast:

Some of the common myths about confidence that keep people from achieving success

Why extroverts don't have a lock on being confident

What the Daily Word can teach us about confidence

How I struggle with confidence, and what I'm doing about it.

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In this episode, we’re joined by guest Libby Adams to talk about how you can make a transformation and reach your goals in record time. Libby is a speaker, author, and transformation strategist. She has over 30 years of experience in education, leadership, and personal growth, and she uses her skills to help high achievers transform their lives from the inside out.

Libby is also President and Founder of the International Academy of Self-Knowledge, a master practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming, and the creator of transformational meditation and spiritual rehab. We’ll learn all about her techniques for guiding her clients through transformation and the benefits they walk away with.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

What led Libby to conceptualize and create spiritual rehab.

When Libby started her transformational work with other people.

Why she often chooses to work seven days a week.

What attracts people to spiritual rehab (and what kind of people it attracts).

The essential component of Libby’s program.

Why Libby prefers to work with clients one-on-one.

Why knowing what you want is a skill.

The difference between the conscious mind and the superconscious mind.

How transformational meditation transformed one of Libby’s clients.

The biggest challenge Libby had to overcome in her work.

Libby’s experience with Tony Robbins and how it’s influenced her life.

Her approach to enrolling clients in her 28-day program.

What Libby would love to see more of in the world.

Why people generally need support and accountability.

The number one reason people might not work with Libby.

The reason we feel emotional pain.

Connect with Libby:

Libby’s website: http://transformationalmeditation.org/

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You're listening to the live love engage podcast. On this episode, you'll learn how to transform your life from the inside out. So you can reach your goals in record time, stay tuned. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number one, Amazon best seller, Live Love Engage - how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more impact, influence, and income. Welcome to live. Love. Engage

Namaste and welcome. Welcome to another edition of live love, engage. And I am excited to have our guest on the show today because I know that she's going to really help us to have better lives, live better lives, I think.

And, I want to welcome Dr. Libby Adams to live love engage. Thank you, Gloria. I'm really excited to be here. Well, I'm excited and I've watched some of your classes that you've done and I want to share with all of our listeners and viewers out there just why I thought you would be such an excellent guest.

So, she is a speaker, author and transformation strategist Using her over 30 years of experience in education, leadership and personal growth to help hundreds of high achievers transform their lives from the inside out, reaching their goals in record time. And, Libby is also the founder and president of the international academy of self knowledge.

She's a master practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming and the creator of transformational meditation, not to be confused with transcendental meditation and the creator of spiritual rehab, which is something we're going to talk about. It’s a 28-day transformational journey for those who do not have alcohol or substance abuses but Still want to rehab something in their lives.

And I thought we kind of start off right there, which is, what actually led you to come up with this concept of a spiritual rehab. My ex-husband now ex-husband then husband played in the NBA for five years. And when he got cut in his fifth year from the Atlanta Hawks, he did not have the skills to make that transition to something he'd done all his life to the real world as I call it.

So his best way of coping was to do drugs and alcohol, which landed him in a 28 day substance abuse program. Now that's great. And one day the executive director comes up to me and she says, your husband is doing so well. He's the president of the rehab group and I'm thinking, oh great, he's got rehab, they've got rehab.

And I'm out here meanwhile, dealing with paying the bills, dealing with the chaos that got created, raising the kids and taking care of all of that stuff. And I was exhausted. I was exhausted and I was upset. Right. Because life is hard, marriage is hard, working is hard and we all need to rehab something. Right. So I said, where's my damn rehab?

I'll never forget it. Gloria said, where's my damn rehab because I need to rehab some stuff as well. Right. And so it took me 20 years to come up with a program, but I did. I did. And then what's interesting. What happened is once he was clean and sober for a while, and this was like, all of this was like in 2001, he said, would you be willing to help me put together a rehab program for drugs and alcohol and use your transformational meditation?

And I thought, yeah, I don't really want to do that, but my inner guidance was, yes, we're going to do it. So we did it and we got really good results because I had been at that point. I've been doing my own transformational work with people since 1994. So it was like seven years later. Right. And so we put that together and for two years it went great.

And then after two years, I said, look, you've got your program. I'm going to go rewrite this for people that don't have drug issues or alcohol cause where is their rehab? Right. So I was really sensitive to that and that's exactly what I did. And so I went to India, I rewrote the program. And I've been doing that now for almost 19 years.

And I wouldn't have, wouldn't have really thought to do any kind of rehab idea because normally everybody thinks it's for drugs to rehab. Right. But recently, I mean, how have you been rehabbing houses on those shows Gloria? Yeah. You know what houses get rehabbed? So it's like, yeah, we all need to rehab Something.

we have our past, we have our emotions rehab, our health finances, career relationships, and all of that. So my tagline is We all need to rehab something. Right. But where are we supposed to go? I mean, you can't just go formerly you can't just go check into a 28-day program and say, oh, I hate my life.

I hate my job. Can, you know, can I just check in for 28 days? It's like, no, but now people can and they don't need to check in. They don't need to be going to a facility all done on zoom all over the world. And that's what I've been doing. They and I work usually work seven days a week because I love it.

Well, that's good. I'm so glad you do. And you know, it's interesting that you, you share that story with us because I don't think people really realize that, you know, yes, you, you, of course, you know, if you're married to someone or you, or you've got a loved one in the family who needs help and they, you know, and then they go into a place like that, they go to a rehab and they get help and they don't think about them.

Well, what are you doing outside? Because you're still the one who is, number one, you've had to been dealing with that all along anyway, and now you're still trying to pick up the pieces and it reminded me. I actually saw a movie not too long ago. It had, um, oh shoot. Now just, uh, Chris O'Dowd and, um, the woman who was in bridesmaids and she's a wonderful comedian and her name is escaping me at the moment, but her husband, they had a situation where they lost a child there, through SIDS and he really lost it.

And so he went into rehab, but then it really focused on her because she was the one trying to manage, you know, She's coping with grief too, from losing a child. And, you know, and I think she, she may not have said like, where's my rehab, but that's sort of the felt, um, the thought that came about that.

So I'm glad that you were able to find your rehab. So you, you kind of talked a little bit about why someone would want to go into this, but I don't know if you could maybe even elaborate it on that a little bit more, you know, why, why would someone really either want to and or need to do this for themselves?

Right. And it goes on a continuum anywhere from somebody who just is like there, they're having to deal with negative emotions like they had, they're having negative thoughts and emotions and actions. And you want to eliminate those all the way to high achievers, the high achievers want to eliminate something that's pre, preventing them from getting to their next level.

They're at a million. They want to go to 5 million. Right? So usually people are rehabbing their thoughts and their belief system and, and that, but also it's like I made an acronym out of rehab. So R is for reclaim who you are and why you're here. Right. Like that's enough for most people. And then Eliminate the negative thoughts, emotions and actions have clarity about what your next step is and how to take it.

Accelerate, then then A is accelerate your growth through a connection With some kind of higher power and B is become peaceful, happy and productive. My whole, my whole program has always been based on a belief in some kind of higher power. It doesn't matter the religion for that, I have people in Islam and a Buddhist, Christian.

You knew what, you know,...

Wouldn’t it be amazing to learn how you could fulfill your destiny? On today’s episode we’re joined by Michael-John Toste, author of “The Prophetic Matrix: Unlock the Secret Code to Your Destiny.” He’s also a musician, international destiny coach, and host of a weekly radio program.

Michael-John is passionate about helping others discover their destiny, and this is what led him to write his book. He dives into what his book is about and what his subsequent books will offer. Throughout the episode, he also shares about his own life, experiences, and encounters with his own destiny.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

What inspired Michael-John’s musical interests.

Why passion is a central value for him.

Why his musical group disbanded (and what he did next).

The experiences that prompted Michael-John to write his book.

What his book is about.

Why discovering your destiny is more important now than ever before.

The unique way Michael-John launched his book.

How the music from Earth, Wind & Fire tied into his book launch.

Why you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help and be open to signs.

The achievement Michael-John is particularly proud of.

What he witnessed that he felt was God ordained.

A big challenge he faced in his career (and how he dealt with it).

The project Michael-John is currently working on.

What kind of legacy he wants to leave.

The common fear people encounter when pursuing their destiny.

Why Michael-John says everything in your life is connected to your destiny.

Connect with Michael-John:

Email: info (at) yourdestinycoach.com

Book Website: https://thepropheticmatrix.com/

Music Website: michael-johnmusic.com

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You are listening to the live love, engage podcast on today's show. We'll hear from a former rockstar about why he's written a book to help you unlock the secret code to your destiny. Stay tuned. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number one, Amazon best seller live love engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself.

In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more. Act influence and income. Welcome to live love engage.

Namaste and welcome. Welcome to another edition of live. Love. Engage.

I am Gloria Grace Rand, and I've got, I can, I can say this with with actual certainty and confidence. I've got a rockstar in the program today. So I'll tell you, I'll tell you more about him, but first, I want to welcome Michael-John Toste to live love, engage. Well, thank you. It's a pleasure to be here.

Well, thank you. And, uh, let me tell you this gentlemen, he's no slacker he's, he's, done a lot of stuff in his life and including the fact that as I alluded to he is a musician. In fact, he was the lead vocalist of a concept rock group called the All Sports Band, which had hits back in the 1980s.,He's also an international destiny coach and an author.

He's got a, a book out, that he released called the prophetic matrix, unlock the secret code to your destiny, which we'll definitely are going to talk about today and just, you know, and he's still a musician. He still has albums out. He's got with, you know, lots of Grammy winners and people on it.

People like Denise Williams and Larry Dunn of Earth, Wind and Fire. So he is walking the talk and, and, oh, and speaking of talking, he's also, yeah, in his spare time, he hosts a weekly hour long radio program. So, so, you know, he's not a slacker. So I, I would love to have you share with our listeners and also viewers on YouTube…

I want to get to the book, especially, but I think first let's, let's kind of start with your, your overall journey. I mean, how you started out as a musician and you're still actually a musician today, but you know what, what got you into doing that? And, and, and then how you evolved over the years, and now you're, you're being a coach now.

Yeah, thank you. I, I noticed, your show has such a wide expanse of helping people from entrepreneurial areas marketing by the way, 30 years as a marketing coach, as well in Silicon Valley, probably in 15 different industries, I've helped CEOs, visionaries, entrepreneurs, executives take their business to new Heights and that's sort of what brought the book into the stars.

We'll talk about that in a moment, but to get started, I started singing at three years old and my dad noticed that I sang in perfect pitch. And so he thought. I'm going to give him some music lessons. So we had a piano in the house. It was an old roll time type of piano with a roller. I don't know if you've ever sort of fun.

And as a kid, I wondered how the mechanism worked. So you're going to be learning on that because your brother's playing guitar and I don't want you fighting over a guitar. So I got on this old piano that his dad had ordered from a catalog from Chicago and that's how they did it in those days. You didn't go to a piano store way, way back in the old days.

And they had that piano for years, it became sort of a heritage and a legacy. And I began playing on that. I had a great piano teacher who told me a little bit of pop, a little bit of classical and a little bit of ragtime, which was interesting. And I, I actually started to become a classical pianist and went to a classical teacher after her.

When she said, I can't teach you anything more. I went to a lady by the name of Pamela Rush in Silicon Valley, who was touring Europe and was quite an accomplished classical pianist. She was in her late twenties and her husband was a jazz trumpeter. And, so they were the family of music and really inspired me.

I always loved singing and of course I had started with singing. I went back to it at about 17 years old, entered into the recording studio, began writing songs, put together a rock group. And by 20 I was signed to Atlantic Radio Records as the lead vote plus of the all sports band, which the manager, Tracy Coates auditioned 2000 lead vocalists for this band, corporate concept band.

At that time Kiss, David Bowie, a lot of Village People, a lot of groups were very visual, uh, Twisted Sister. I could go back and give you all these bands of Cars, you know, out of a group of the Beatles. Right. But a lot of them were conceptual. And so we had a fun time putting sports and rock and roll together

So on a stage that equated to a lot of energy, I would do Russian leaps on stage that's the on solid gold. I still remember when we were coming on solid gold, dead. They stopped framing when my feet were up in the air and my hands were touching my feet. And they said next to the all sports band. And then Andy Gibb

Marilyn McCoo came out and introduced us. And then we're on American Bandstand with Dick Clark. That was a dream of mine. When I was a young kid, five years old on a small 11 inch screen at home, I was watching Dick Clark and I would see Elton John and Paul McCartney and all these great rock stars on singing songs they were passionate about.

And we'll go in and add boy that past. Is what has gone through my entire life, no matter what I touch, I try to take the passion that God has given me and bring it out there to the world. Gives you a little background. I love that. And, and, you know, I can relate a little bit and I didn't have a piano growing up, but I had, my dad played the organ.

So he had a, he had a Hammond organ and that's what I, that's what I grew up learning how to play it. I had lessons as well, and I same thing. It was like, you know, classical. And ragtime and, and pop. I have a lot of these big, the big fake books. I don't know if you remember those like sixties and seventies.

And in fact I'm actually going through them again now. Cause it's like I've missed playing. And so I've started playing, playing again, just to kind of get my fingers back going to it. That's great that you're going back to your first love in a sense, you know? Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And of course singing too, I've always loved to sing.

My mom was the singer and she kind of encouraged me and that, so I love that, but, there's, it's really cool that you were able to do that. So how did then, did you, um, so obviously you, you left the, you left that group at some point. What, what prompted that or is it just sort of ran its course.

And then, then what did you do after that? So how did you get that? 1983. Good question. And, we were doing very well, but a major recession hit and if you'll think back. The entire music industry almost stopped almost like this pandemic now where they no one toured a Linda Ronstadt canceled her tour, Led Zeppelin canceled their tours.

And a lot of the groups were finding out there was no money in music and a lot of the managers lost interest. And the record companies, I remember Atlantic Records, which was with WEAH - Warner Electra, Atlantic were closing down offices. When I would order albums from my friends and call in, they'd say, oh, everything's hectic here.

You know, music industry is just terrible right now, but then soon afterwards, a couple of years later, a record called Thriller came out with Michael Jackson and then following that, Cindy Lauper with She’s So Unusual, those sold millions of copies and there was a regenerated interest in music again, but at the time kids were spending their money on, on Pong and video games.

You remember that time and that's when we disbanded,...

Meditation is something I do every day as part of my morning routine. In this episode, recorded live on Facebook and LinkedIn, I talk about the impact meditation has had on my life and why I recommend it as a practice to everyone!

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. Podcast:

The mental and physical health benefits you can obtain by meditating

My experience with meditation and creativity

The different types of meditation

Why I believe meditation is the path to self-love

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Want to attract more high-quality buyers? You’ll learn how on today’s episode, as we’re joined by entrepreneur and mentor Shayla Boyd-Gill. Shayla created the Luxe Your Business sales system which helps women scale their six-figure business so they can make a great impact and income.

Shayla went from bankruptcy to a multiple six-figure business—all while homeschooling her six children. We hear all about her experiences as she touches on the important aspects of building a business. She also provides valuable tips on how to attract the high-quality clients that you desire to your business.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

The experience that inspired Shayla to homeschool her kids.

How Shayla made her first six figures as a natural childbirth educator and doula.

Shayla’s experience in filing for bankruptcy.

How she landed on teaching women to start and scale businesses.

Why it’s important to have an abundance mindset in business.

The common myth around landing high-quality clients.

Why you should build a business that works energetically for you.

How to use language to attract the clients you want.

How to serve clients who are not the right fit for you.

The power of saying no.

Why focusing on money alone can hurt your reputation.

The successful way to approach a business plan with your partner and family.

How your proof is your doing.

The ways entrepreneurship can influence your children.

The biggest lesson Shayla learned in her own entrepreneurial journey.

How you can embrace who you are in business and why it matters.

Connect with Shayla Boyd-Gill

Website: https://shaylaboydgill.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shaylaboydgill/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shayla.boydgill/

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You're listening to the Live love Engage podcast. On today's show, why attracting high quality clients can help you work fewer hours and make more money.

Stay tuned. I am Gloria grace, Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number. Want Amazon best seller live love, engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically so you can create a life and business with more impact, influence, and income. Welcome to live love, engage

Namaste and welcome back to another addition of live love, engage, and I'm delighted to have a woman joining us from, uh, Maryland today. And her name name is Shayla Boyd-Gill, and I wanna welcome you first off Shayla to live love and engage.

Well, thank you so much, Gloria. I'm so excited to be here with your community today.

Well, thank you. And I'm excited too, because this is a powerhouse woman. So let me, let me just give you a little glimpse of a little bit of about what she has accomplished and, uh, and that she's gonna share more details, of course. Um, but she has juggles being an entrepreneur, a wife of 24 years, a mom of six homeschooled children. I've like bow you right there. Um, number one, having six kids and then homeschooling them, oh my gosh, I could not have, you know, matter that I was enough with two. Um, she's also went from bankruptcy to a multiple six figure business, and now she's a family freedom and affluent mentor and creator of the luxury business sales system. And she really helps well shows women entrepreneurs, how to have it a all family, freedom and affluence while doing what they love. And I really want to hear all about this, uh, because it's something that I know a lot of women entrepreneurs struggle with and to be able to really, to, to do that, to be able to run a business, to be successful, to have a family. So tell me a little bit about your story and how is it that you, you know, went from bankruptcy to multiple six figure business and at the same time you're homeschooling, um, kids as well. That's so

It's a wild story. It's, it's definitely a wild story. And just to give you a little bit more history behind the scenes, I left corporate America in 20, um, 2003. And when I left, I literally had to say to myself, what are you gonna do? How can you make this different? Because my family did depend on a two family income. The biggest reason for me leaving was having a meeting with my first son's, um, teacher. He was in the first grade and she said, he's such an amazing student. He's really smart, but we don't have enough support for him. He should be in the third grade, but he's not emotionally prepared for the third grade. You know, he's ahead and he's bored. And her biggest concern was we're gonna dumb him down if he stays in this system. So you have two options, you can put him in private school or you can homeschool him.

So what I love to tell people is the way my budget was set up in 2003, private private school, wasn't an option for us. And so I feel like the universe literally just said, you're gonna have to take a radical leap. And I had to not be an educator, just throw myself into the world of homeschooling. And so I decided we're gonna do this homeschooling journey and I still need to make money. I need to figure out how we can maintain what we have and not be in a place of struggle. And so I looked at my husband, I was like, what's something I do really well. He was like, oh, you know, you have this skill. You good with math? You good with that? I'm like, yeah, but what do I really do well? And after we kind of thought about this, the running joke in my house was I'm really good at having babies.

No one says this, Gloria, okay, no one. I said, look, I believe you can monetize anything. And what I, the reason I said that Gloria is because what I understood is the women in my community were having pretty traumatic birthing experiences. And I couldn't understand why I was like, I don't understand it. I had such beautiful experiences at this point. I had three children and I'm like, I, you know, the experience with every woman's experiences, her experience. But when you compare and they're like, oh, whoa, everyone has a war story about birth. And I felt like I was on the opposite end. And I said, well, what did I do different? I realized I had, um, the, I had a class for birthing classes, but it was a natural birthing class. I had a doula, I had a midwife. I'm like, that's the missing piece?

Yeah. We kind of go with the routine of things, but we didn't realize there were resources available. I just happened to stumble across them. And so what I did is I became a natural child birth at educator and a doula because I said, if I can give this back to my community and other women and educate women, this teach women how to be able to advocate for themselves. I can make a difference. That's where I made my first six figures. I really positioned myself and didn't realize it. I understood how to do business. I remember sitting with clients, going for an interview to see they would take me on as their doula. And they're like, you're the only one showing up as if it's a business. They said, are you a part of an agency? I'm like, well, I am the agency, but I had my collateral together.

I understood how to have a conversation that converted. I understood how to help them feel like they were valued. I didn't show up. Like we had, we, our running joke in our industry. He's like, we all wore Birk stocks and something like that. But I'm like, I could be on Nara, but still have a business. And I said, this is something I could do. I did it. And I gave until I could give anymore, but I didn't understand how to manage the money of the business. So here's what I love to tell people. And this is where this gets into your question. Why bankruptcy? What I love to tell people is if you have a hundred thousand dollars and you spend 101, What is that?

Yeah. That, that doesn't work. Yep. Unfortunately

Something's broken there when your eye is not staying on the prize. When you're not managing what's going on around you, you can be an ultra giver. You can make decisions that are not conducive. And I had to really just say, you made some Royal mistakes. It ended up in bankruptcy. I was going through that guilt cycle. I felt really bad. I'm like, how can I be homeschooling? I'm supposed to be smart. I'm supposed to be this. I'm supposed to be that. And I'm like, no, you made a mistake, but you're gonna learn a lesson missed mistake. So from there I learned how to really reach out guest support. I had my own coaches. I learned how to do money differently. I learned how to do more effectively. And when I was burning out of the birthing cycle, I said, how can I still support and advocate for women? A lot of my moms, they had babies. They didn't wanna go back to work.

Huh.

But what do you do really well? I started teaching them how to start a business. And that was in 2012. And since then, I've not only taught women how to start businesses, but they've grown and I've been able to elevate my message. So that's where we've gotten to the point where we're teaching women, how to scale business and, or build sellable businesses. So that's how I got here.

Love that. That is so many great lessons there, but I think the, the most important, well, there's a couple really important ones. Number one, you had a supportive spouse who, you know, brainstorm with you to try to figure out what, what you were good at. And I think that's so important that not everybody necessarily has when they're starting a new business. Um, and,...

I had an opportunity to interview Certified Health Coach Oralia Acosta live on Facebook and LinkedIn to talk about why it's important to trust and love your body. With decades of experience in the nutrition, health and wellness industry, Oralia helps people release excess weight and learn to listen to their body to create their BEST health.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. Podcast:

Why Oralia became a health coach.

Why it's important to listen to your body.

How our thoughts and feelings affect the way we eat.

Why eating in moderation doesn't always pan out.

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Today our guest is Deb Brown Maher, and we’re going to be talking with her about how you can sell with integrity. Deb is the President of Deb Brown Sales and author of Sell Like Jesus. She helps business owners and entrepreneurs change the way they sell from convincing a prospect they must buy to instead being of service.

Deb is passionate about helping people sell from a position of integrity. During the episode, Deb dives into her sales experience and touches on her strategy for selling better. She also shares why selling in service is more fulfilling and effective than trying to make a buck.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

Deb’s journey to becoming a sales coach.

How Deb landed her first experience in sales.

Why Jesus is a good model for sales.

Why it’s important to find out if you have the right solution for the buyer or not.

The common trap a lot of salespeople continuously fall into.

Useful questions to ask prospects in the initial stages of selling.

Why it’s important to draw out your prospect’s needs.

The common struggle Deb sees among her clients.

Why most salespeople don’t follow up (and why they should).

The best way to approach a discovery call.

What it means to consciously break your own rules.

Why Deb says God wired her with a love of color.

The unique way Deb merges her love of both worship and painting.

The pitfalls of a victim mentality.

Why a shifting in perspective is powerful in life and in sales.

Connect with Deb Brown Maher

Deb’s website: https://debbrownsales.com/

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You're listening to the live love engage podcast on today's show, we're gonna be talking about how to sell from a position of integrity. Stay tuned.

I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number one Amazon best seller live love, and engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more impact, influence, and income. Welcome to live love, engage

Namaste and welcome to another addition of live love. Engage. I am delighted to be with you again today and to have a fabulous woman on the show who is, has a different approach to sales, unique perspective on how to approach sales, shall we say? And I first off wanna welcome Deb Brown Maher to live love, engage.

Thank you so much, Gloria. It's great to be here.

Well, it is excellent to have you here. And, for those you who are not able to watch on YouTube, you're, you're gonna, those of you who are seeing have, have a clue already what we're gonna be talking about. So I'm gonna, I'm gonna explain for those of you who are listening, um, who Deb Brown Maher is she is a sales coach, an author, and a speaker who helps business owners and solo entrepreneurs change the way they sell from convincing a prospect to buy, to being of service. And she is really passionate about helping people sell from a position of integrity. And she shares her methods in her book in video training course, which is called “Sell like Jesus - seven characteristics of Christ for ethical sales. And when I first met you, I saw that that said, what? That was the book you had written. I was like, okay, I'm intrigued right away. I definitely definitely wanna talk to this woman and find out more about that. But before we get to that, um, I wanna have you share with our listeners and our viewers a little bit about, um, your journey and how you came to become a sales coach.

Yes. So I got a degree in Latin American studies and undergrad degree, which I, although I spoke Spanish and thought I was going to work at the UN, I found out that you needed three languages minimum. Oh, Not just two. And I really didn't wanna teach in the public school systems. So what the heck was I going to do for a living? Um, I ended up for about three years in a, um, teaching role with underprivileged youth where I taught them basic job skills. Um, and then I ended up running the customer service department for Nutrisystem weight loss centers.

Oh, wow.

And learned quite a bit about dealing with the public and customer service us in general, but it wasn't where I wanted to stay. So, um, one of the owners of the company was for me and said, Deb, what do you wanna be when you grow up? And I said, well, I'd really like to be in training. And he said, well, in order to train here, really need to work the jobs. And one of them was sales. So that was my first experience. And Laurie, I have to be honest and say it was one of the hardest things. One of the most uncomfortable things that I ever had to do now as a kid, I had sold potholders that I made, I sold newspapers. I sold girl scout cookies, and I had no problem with that. Right. But now I was in a role where I was expected to use a script that was using high pressure tactics, Which fell icky, manipulative insulting, honestly. And I just couldn't do it. So I, Hmm. Yeah, I did it as long as I needed to, to get the experience to go into the training department. Right. Right. Um, and I got a good foundation for teaching and training in that role, but once I left there, uh, my husband got a job in another city, so we moved, what was I going to do? Well, I ended up in another sales role this time selling computer and medical practice management software.

Oh my wow.

Yeah. So that was the time when I started studying, taking courses and learning from other people about how to sell in a way that didn't use high. And that was the beginning of my journey to, um, which ultimately culminated in writing the books, uh, like Jesus.

Wow. Um, yeah, it's interesting. Yes. I, I similar situation in a way, because I did, uh, as a kid, I think I did have like a lemonade stand or something, you know, when I was really, really little and then I did sell girl scout cookies and I sold, uh, I sold shampoo door-to-door in high school to raise money for a band trip. Now that, that, that was like, I think that was the one that kind of did it for me where I was like, I don't wanna be in sales. You know, I was like, I do not wanna do this until I realized when I started my own company that, oh, that means you have to sell to people. Oops.

Right. Right. And actually you're the target audience that I wrote for small business owners who have to sell, but hate to sell because of the negative stigma.

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. We, you know, we all know that the stereotype of the, you know, the car car salesman and, and all of that, which has really helped not to mention other, other folks out there, you know, even, and even television sales and things it's, it's, it really has gotten to be, um, a bad way about it. So let's, let's dive into the book a little bit and share with me, uh, a little bit of what are some of the characteristics that, um, that makes Jesus, I guess, a good salesperson or, or, or good a model for us to emulate. Right.

I would say in general, Jesus was all about building relationships and restoring us to relationship with God. The father. So sales is really at its relationship building when it's done from the perspective of being of service. If I am in selfish mode and I'm just trying to meet my numbers, get paid, make a buck. And I really don't care about you as the buyer, then that selfish way is going to come across to the buyer. If instead I put the buyer first and I try to understand them their needs, their expectations, their wants, their hopes, their dreams, depending on what it is that you're selling. Right. Understand them. What happens is in that process of asking questions, to understand them, we are building a relationship. They hear through my questions that I care that I'm listening, that they matter. And in that dialogue, we can figure out whether I have the right solution for them or not. And if I don't, we still have a good connection, which means if things change in the future, they'll feel comfortable coming back to me, or they might know somebody that I could help and they'll refer me. So I think a lot of salespeople fall into the trap of short term thinking instead of long term relationships are a long term deal when they're done. Right. And so if you're thinking long term, if you make this sale, that's great. But it isn't the only objective for connecting that changes how the other person perceives you.

Yeah, absolutely. Can you give us an example, maybe of a couple of questions that, uh, someone should ask a prospect, you know, in that developing that Congress and developing that relationship?

Sure. So first off when someone says, because it's my world, I'll just coaching. When someone says, Deb, I wanna talk to you about sales, coaching, traditional sales, would I say, oh, that's great. I do this. And I do that. And I do the other, and I've got this, that and the other, and I've lost them because it's all about me. So instead from the get, go, thank you for asking, what is it that prompt a you to ask about sales coaching at this particular time? So right there, I'm asking an open ended question to start to hear their story and whatever they respond. I'm going to listen for the keywords, the key element of what they're saying. And I'm going to ask another question based on those words, And that will take us deeper into their story, their concerns, what they're looking for, the challenges they've had fulfilling this need and that process of putting them firs

I strongly believe it's important to go for your dreams and it's never too late to do so, because I am living proof that dreams come true. In this episode, (recorded live on Facebook and LinkedIn), I talk about how I recently fulfilled a long-time dream to move closer to the beach and have just launched a new coaching program for women over 40.

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Two of the biggest regrets people have at the end of their life

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In this episode, Chef Dr. Mike Fenster joins us to talk about developing a positive relationship with food. Chef Dr. Mike is one of a handful of physicians who hold both a culinary and medical degree, and he’s the only cardiologist with joint academic appointments in both the medical and culinary arts.

Chef Dr. Mike has become the voice of culinary medicine and has made it a mission to empower others to take control of their health and happiness through food. During the episode, he shares what culinary medicine is, why how we eat is as important as what we eat, and the aspects of our health that lead back to the food experience.

On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:

Why bringing together food and medicine isn’t as unusual as it seems.

What inspired Dr. Mike to become a chef

The quote that hits home for him.

What nutrition has become a victim of today.

The important foundations of culinary medicine.

How the food industry changed post-World War Two.

Why it’s important for everyone to be comfortable in the kitchen.

How fermentation can improve the health and taste of food.

The small, daily changes that can improve overall health.

What it means to have a healthy food experience.

What the research shows about gratitude and food.

How implementing a family meal without distractions can support health.

The role that positive relationships and strong social networks play in heart health.

Why beating yourself up about making bad food choices is unproductive.

Why culinary medicine is not one-size-fits-all.

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FB: https://www.facebook.com/ChefDrMike

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You're listening to the live love engage podcast on today's show, we're gonna be talking with an expert about developing a positive relationship with food that goes beyond mere nutrition or fad diets. Stay tuned. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the love method, and author of the number one, Amazon best seller live love, engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast. We share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more impact, influence, and income. Welcome to live love, engage

Namaste and welcome to another addition of live love engage. And of course, this is my favorite, my favorite type of episode to do. And mostly once I've been doing lately, which is an interview and I am delighted to be able to welcome, uh, a guest today who, um, he's no slacker. Let me just say that. So I'll, I'm gonna tell you a little bit more about him in a second, but first of all, I want to welcome actually, Dr. Michael Fenster, otherwise known as chef Dr. Mike to live love and engage.

Thank you, Gloria Namaste and, and so glad, delighted to be here. Um, I, I love these opportunities. I love your format, uh, to be able to talk about, uh, things that we don't always get to mention when we talk about food and medicine. So just as important and, and, and we'll, we'll throw that teaser out there for em

Yeah. Is exactly yes. Cuz you, if you've you caught that, I called him chef Dr. Mike, that is because he is one of a handful of physicians worldwide to hold both culinary and medical degrees. And he's the only interventional cardiologist and professional chef to do. So he's also the only cardiologist with joint academic appointments in both the medical and culinary arts. And believe me, we're gonna be talking more about that in a second. But um, through his, he does culinary medicine, university courses, speaking events, articles, books, personal outreach, television, other media appearances, like like podcast. He has become the voice of culinary medicine, which is something I had never heard of, um, before, before meeting him. But he really is, uh, his message is to empower people, to take control of your health, wealth, and happiness, through a positive relationship with food and that, um, you know, just go beyond me nutrition or fad diets. So, um, I, I just, like I said, we met through a, a publicity summit and I was just totally intrigued, um, by the fact that you're a doctor, you're a cardiologist and then you're also a chef and I'm, you know, I'm a foodie. I love watching, like, you know, um, oh now my name, my mind is blanking on all the wonderful, uh, top chef, like, you know, shows like that on Bravo and things like that. And so how did you wind up merging these two distinctive occupations into one?

Well, you know, it's, it's interest thing. Um, in, in the context of things, you know, they become distinctive, but for most of the history, humanity, they were really tied to tightly tightly together. When we look at some of the very first cookbooks that we have, you know, from ancient Greece, for example, a number of them were actually written by physicians, uh, because dietetics was just so integral and we understood the importance and the relationship between what we eat, how we eat and our overall health. So it's kind of commonplace. And then really it's probably been within the last century or so that, that this division, you know, has really come about me personally, you know, it was food first, actually. So, um, you know, I grew up, uh, I was very fortunate, had a mom who's a great home cook, loved to cook when I'd come home often, you know, she was trying to do the latest things she'd seen on Julia child or the galloping gourmet.

The cookbook were out. The kitchen was a very welcoming place. And so I really learned, uh, the essence of the craft and really the passion for it, with her. And so it was natural when I went to college to help, you know, pay for going through college, uh, to get a job in the food industry. And back then there was no food network, you know, Julia was the celebrity chef and really nobody wanted to do that job, especially in college. Cause like you're working Friday night to 2:00 AM and you get out, you're covered in dishwater and you're like, Hey, let's go have a good time. They're like, thanks, Mike, we'll catch you next week. Um, and, and I actually started as a dishwasher cuz there were no cooking jobs, worked then as a line cook worked my way up by the time I finished, I was what we'd call today an executive chef running the back of the house. So I was in charge of, of the kitchen.

I eventually, uh, after going to medical school and fellowship and, and whatnot, I eventually actually did go back to culinary school, uh, and have a degree in, gourmet cooking and catering from Ashworth University. Uh, but I really learned to cook, you know, being out there and doing it and, and there's no substitute for that. Um, and then eventually these passions of food and health kind of came back full circle. So it's, to me, it's, it's kind of like that little bit of DNA where, you know, they start together and then they separated then you know, the points come back and really, I would say today, you know, Mark Twain has a quote that always sticks with me. He said, the two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you discover what you were born for. And you know, so, um, this is what I was born to do and I just gotta sing a little louder. So everyone hears the voice of culinary medicine and knows what it is.

I love that you, and you mentioned so many great things there and wow. Galloping Gourmet boy that brought back memories. Cuz I do remember watching that as a kid for sure. And, and Yan Can Cook. That was another PBS one for, for like Asian cooking. Yep. Um, I, I, and, and, and I kinda relate also to the, um, you know, working in college, I worked at McDonald's actually through all the way through college and yeah, I did dishes too and, and I would clean out those lovely grease traps. Oh, oh yes. You really, you know, come home smelling great after that. So I, I can, I can relate. Um, and it's also interesting that you talk about that. It really is this ancient history. Why do you, why do you think, um, medicine got away from focusing on, on diet and why did they separate? What do you think?

Yeah. You know, I think it's, it's one of those, uh, instances that we could sort of trace back really it's, it's sort of the history of nutrition as a science if we think about it. And so I think in a way it's because nutrition is almost become a victim of its own success. And by that, I mean that, that we can date nutrition roughly. I mean, you could argue back and forth, but it's rough roughly about a hundred years ago is a reasonable starting point to say, Hey, here's where the science of nutrition started. Cuz in 1912, Casimir Funk discovered the first, uh, vitamins, which he called vitamin-means and which became short in as vitamins. And, and so that really spurred nutrition because we were able to then identify these deficiency diseases like scurvy and say, “Hey, you know, you get this disease it's because you don't have this vitamin.

We give you vitamin C and boom, it goes away.” And within about a half a century. So we're talking, you know, by the 1950s, 1960s, we'd identified these vitamins, their deficiency diseases. And in many cases around the globe eradicated them. And so that was powerful, powerful, uh, science and, and medicine. And that worked really great for deficiency diseases. But when we look at things like the chronic disabilities and diseases that are multifactorial and origin, this idea of,...