You don't need a fancy title or a huge following on social to be a leader.

In fact, every one of us has an impact on someone's life. And we can set a good example and even grow our influence by developing our skills in 7 key areas.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the characteristics of an effective leader, describing how they prioritize learning and focus on developing others.

We explore what strong leaders do to inspire trust and motivate their teams, working to lead by example and demonstrate integrity and competence on the daily.

Listen in for insight on what good communication looks like in a leader and learn how to encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action in the people you want to impact!

Why EVERYONE is a leader regardless of their title or number of followers

The characteristics of an effective leader

• Prioritize personal development, always learning
• Focus on developing others
• Lead by example
• Inspire trust and motivate others
• Encourage strategic thinking, innovation and action
• Demonstrate integrity, character and competence
• Good communicator

How your success is directly related to helping other people reach their goals

Why habits are caught not taught (especially when it comes to parenting)

How legacy thinking hinders a leader's ability to grow

Why leaders need to follow through on what they say they're going to do

How to motivate your team and hold them accountable to their goals

The role metrics play in developing a plan of action

Why leaders need to know what motivates the people on their team

What a competent leader looks like and how they approach sales

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It's been a full year since we started recording Destined to Be, and we have learned a lot along the way. We've discovered new things about ourselves and grown both as individuals and as a couple.

So, what are our top takeaways from 12 months of podcasting together? What have we learned from the process of showing up every week? And what are our greatest challenges moving forward?

On this episode, we look back on our journey in podcasting so far, explaining what inspired us to build our relationship and a business together through Destined to Be.

We get real about the limiting beliefs we've had to overcome and weigh in on what we've learned about getting present when the mics are on—no matter what else is going on in our lives at the time.

Listen in for insight around the challenges we face in deciding what to share on this platform, the key takeaways we've learned from some of our favorite guests, and the value in aligning yourself with the opportunity to say YES.

The imposter syndrome Mallory experienced early on in cohosting the podcast

What to do when you run into limiting beliefs so they don't continue to control your behavior

Why it's crucial to align yourself with the opportunity to say YES

What inspired us to build our relationship and a business together

The top insights we've learned in recording this podcast over the last year

How to create space between having a feeling and reacting to it

How the show forces Jeremiah to slow down, get present and become a student

Why we see the world as we are (not as it is)

Why you have to plan ahead in order to be in the moment with others (and how to do it)

The danger in comparing yourself with other people vs. focusing on your own progress

How we struggle with deciding how much to speak our mind on this platform

Our biggest challenges in producing the podcast moving forward

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Do your goals for 2021 scare you?

If your vision for the new year doesn't make your heart beat faster, you're not dreaming big enough.

But how do you push the boundaries of what's possible in your life and start setting Big Hairy Audacious Goals?

pisode of Destined to Be, we challenge you to dream bigger, explaining how to break a big dream into smaller goals and why it's helpful to share your vision of the future with someone close to you.

We offer advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want, encouraging you to set big goals for your career, family, relationships, finances and health—and then prioritize what's most important to do right now.

Listen in for insight on investing in a coach or expert if you're stuck and learn to leverage the say it/see it method to fuel your big dreams and step into the next-level version of yourself!

Why your dreams should be big enough to scare you

Our advice for people who are struggling to figure out what they want

How to identify what you want by starting with what you DON'T want

The process of creating goals for your career, family, relationships, finance, health, etc.

How to decide what dreams are most important and start TODAY with one small step

Why changing your identity from the inside-out is crucial to achieving your BIG dreams

How to find people who've done what you want to do and apply what they've learned

Why it's helpful to share your goals with someone close to you

How to break a big dream into smaller goals

The value in surrounding yourself with people who want you to succeed

Why you can't afford NOT to invest in a coach/expert if you're stuck

The say it/see it method of fueling your big dreams

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Only 8% of Americans who set New Year's resolutions keep them all year. And a staggering 80% fail by the start of February!

Why do so many people struggle to keep their resolutions and find themselves setting the same goals year after year after year?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're making the distinction between a resolution and a SMART goal, explaining why it's useful to think about resolutions as a first step to create the big picture for what you want to achieve this year.

We describe how to turn a resolution into a tangible goal, challenging you to decide you're worth it NOW and reverse engineer your vision into a monthly, weekly and daily plan of action.

Listen in for insight on shifting away from an all-or-nothing mentality and learn to set realistic expectations and take small steps every day to achieve your dreams in 2021!

Why people get stuck setting the same New Year's resolution year after year

The distinction between a resolution and a goal

How to turn a resolution into a tangible goal with a plan to take realistic action

The statistics around how few Americans follow through on their New Year's resolutions

Why it's useful to think about resolutions as the vision or big picture for your year

How it's become a social norm to wait until January 1st to start on your goals and why it's better to decide you're worth it NOW

Why you have to get uncomfortable to get to the next level

Our top hack for getting back on track if you get caught up in holiday snacking

The all-or-nothing mentality that sets you up for failure

How to start with small steps toward your goal (vs. setting unrealistic expectations)

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Are you cursing 2020 because it didn't go the way you wanted?

Yes, it sucks to experience loss, hurt or betrayal. But what if those so-called bad things are helping you grow into the person you're truly destined to be?

How do you leave behind the mess of the last year and move into 2021 with a new perspective?

On this episode of the podcast, we're sharing how we used 2020 to serve us and what we're doing to improve in the new year.

We explain how setbacks help us get to where we're supposed to be, challenging you to reframe the last 12 months as an opportunity to identify what matters and take small steps NOW to improve your situation.

Listen in for insight on surrounding yourself with the right people, prioritizing the big rocks over the sand and setting BIG goals for 2021.

How to make ANY circumstance serve you (even if it seems like a bad thing)

Why fear and faith can't exist together

How setbacks help get us to where we're supposed to be

How 2020 exposed what was already going on and how that can serve you

Why your situation won't change in 2021 unless you take action NOW

The value in reflecting on what you did well in 2020 and how you want to improve

Why it's useful to ask people close to you what they see for you next year

The connection between how quickly you adapt to change and how successful you are

How stress and fear impact your immune system

How to decide who you want to surround yourself with in 2021

Why you can't tap into your creative side when you're in a state of anxiety

The power in prioritizing the big rocks in your business and life

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Last week on Destined to Be, we described how happy couples approach arguments with the intention of finding a solution.

But that's easier said than done. When conflict arises in any relationship, emotions are heightened. And it's easy to get caught up in your feelings and lose sight of what matters.

So, how do you bring your best self to an argument and work together to solve the problem?

On this episode of the podcast, we're sharing five tips for having constructive arguments with your partner, explaining why WHAT you say is much less important than HOW you say it.

We offer an advice on what to do when your emotions are getting the best of you, challenging you to acknowledge your partner's feelings and develop the emotional intelligence to see their point of view.

Listen in for insight on keeping your insecurities in check and learn how to give your partner the benefit of the doubt when you're having a difficult conversation.

Our 5 tips for having constructive arguments with your partner

1. Don't run from conflict
2. Watch your tone
3. Keep your cool
4. Acknowledge each other's feelings
5. Keep your insecurities in check

How to start a difficult conversation in a respectful, calm way

Why WHAT you say is less important than HOW you say it

How to give yourself space and switch the focus when your emotions are getting the best of you

The challenge of accepting another person's truth

How to develop the emotional intelligence to see someone else's point of view

Why it's crucial to do your own research on stories in the news

How to give your partner the benefit of the doubt (rather than assume the worst)

Having the humility to admit when you've made an error in judgement

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Research shows that happy couples argue about the same things as everyone else. Things like children, money, in-laws and intimacy.

What sets them apart is not WHAT they fight about but HOW they approach an argument. So, what do happy couples do differently?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're discussing how happy couples handle conflict in their relationships and why it's better to address an issue in the moment rather than run away.

We explain why it's crucial to take time to do things for yourself and communicate those needs to your partner, exploring why you can't expect your spouse to fulfill you if you're not clear on what you want.

Listen in for insight on setting goals together (with a mindset of mutual growth) and learn how YOU benefit from a partner who feels joyful and fulfilled!

How happy couples leverage a solution-oriented approach to conflict

What happy couples do to push each other forward

Why it's better to address conflict in the moment rather than run away

Why it's crucial to take time to do things for yourself (and communicate those needs to your partner)

Why we choose quality time with our kids over quantity

How to express your expectations or intentions with your partner

Why you can't expect your partner to fulfill you if you don't know what you want

The value in setting goals together with a mindset of mutual growth

How your partner's fulfillment and joy elevate YOU

How happy couples reserve their arguments for things that matter

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Do you want to show up in 2021 as a better version of yourself?

What if you could feel less depleted and more fulfilled? Less distracted and more present?

What if you could spend more of your time in an optimal state of consciousness—a place where you feel and perform at your best?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're sharing three more strategies for living your best life, challenging you to uncover what fulfills you and do more of THAT!

We discuss the importance of giving yourself what you need and explain why it's crucial to ask for help when you're overwhelmed.

Listen in for insight on quieting your mind and learn our top strategies for getting into a state of flow.

6 ways to be better in 2021

1. Improve your relationship with yourself
2. Be willing to fail and fail forward
3. Appreciate what you have
4. Do more of what fulfills you
5. Give yourself what you need
6. Quiet your mind and spend time in flow

How acts of service lead to joy and fulfillment

Our exercise for identifying what lights you up

How distractions keep us from feeling fulfilled

Why it's crucial to ask for help when you're running on fumes

Why it's up to you to define what it means to be a 'good parent'

How to create worthwhile connections by providing value

What it looks like to be in a state of flow

What we do to get back to a natural state of consciousness

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We all want to live our best life. The real question is, are you willing to do what it takes to make that happen?

Yes, you want to grow. You also want to be comfortable. But you can't have it both ways!

So, what steps can you take stretch beyond what's easy and be a better YOU in 2021?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're sharing our first three strategies for living your best life, describing our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better.

We challenge you to look inward, offering examples of questions you might ask to improve your self-awareness and get clarity on what you want out of life.

Listen in for insight on reframing failure as a lesson (not defeat) and learn how to leverage gratitude to ease feelings of overwhelm and manifest a better self in 2021.

Our BE until you BECOME approach to changing for the better

The tension between wanting to be comfortable and wanting to grow

How investing in a coach helps you reach goals faster and with more confidence

3 ways to be better in 2021

1. Turn inward + ask better questions
2. Be willing to fail
3. Appreciate what you have

Why it's best to pick ONE thing to add to your life and start there

How to reframe failure as a lesson vs. playing the victim and giving up

How the fear of failure keeps us from achieving greatness

The gratitude practice we use to ease feelings of overwhelm

How to cultivate faith that what you want is already there

What you can do to show genuine appreciation to the people around you

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The first step in creating an epic life is visualizing what you want. And we don't mean daydreaming about it from time to time.

We're talking about putting together a collection of pictures, videos and music that you revisit every day. A fully immersive experience to help you manifest your big dreams.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're discussing the power of visualization, describing how we use vision boards and mind movies to attract the things we want in life.

We explain why it's crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision and talk about your dreams as if they've already transpired.

Listen in for insight on making visualization a part of your daily routine and learn how to design a plan to reach the goals you have pictured!

How to create a vision board (analog or digital) of the things you want in your life

Why it's crucial to feel the emotions that go with achieving your vision

What makes visualization the essence of the Law of Attraction

The say it/see it strategy of visualizing goals as if they've already transpired

What holds us back from reaching the next level in our lives

The mental and physical preparation necessary to show up as the person you want to be

How to design a plan to achieve the goals pictured on your vision board

How a Mind Movie serves as a fully immersive vision board

The categories of life to consider in building your Mind Movie (e.g.: fitness, family, finances, etc.)

How our thoughts and feelings work to help us manifest the things we want

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