What do we admire most about each other? What's behind our drive to help other people? What are our BIG dreams for the future?

In celebration of the 100th episode of Destined to Be, our dear friend Allison is turning the tables and asking US the questions. She asks who we would want to interview if we could pick anyone in the world (alive or dead) and what we'd like to go back and tell the younger version of ourselves.

We explain why mindset matters more than the circumstances we're dealt, describing what situations drain our energy the most—and how we either avoid those things or shift our thinking in the moment.

Listen in for insight on the abundance mindset that inspires our desire to help others and build a lasting legacy and learn how being present can help you overcome fear and start living YOUR wildest wouldn't it be cool ifs!

Who we would each want to interview if we could pick anyone (alive or dead)

What we would to tell the younger version of ourselves about being present

The abundance mindset behind our desire to help other people

What situations/people drain our energy the most and how we come back from those things

The characteristics we admire most in each other (and wish we had)

Our wildest wouldn't it be cool ifs and how we're working toward building a legacy

Why your mindset matters more than the circumstances you're dealt

What's next for our family moving into 2021 + what we're working on as a couple

Destined to Be Podcast

Destined to Be on Instagram

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

Dean Graziosi

Tony Robbins

Abraham Hicks

Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Joe Dispenza

Tom Bilyeu

Gregg Braden

Dr. Bruce Lipton

5 Things We'd Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP062

5 More Things We'd Tell Our Younger Selves on DTB EP064

Brittney Connor-Savarda on DTB EP097

The Gold Standard: Rules to Rule By by Ari Gold

Entrepreneur's Organization

Tracy O'Malley

Emotional Agility on The Ed Mylett Show

Finding Joe

Ultimate Longevity

Yes, 2020 has been a rolling dumpster fire for a lot of people. But if you want to keep your energy high this holiday season, you have to get intentional about the way you show up and be aware of the vibrations you're sending out into the world.

So, what can you do to bring positive energy to holiday events? To get through the season with grace and dignity?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're sharing five strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays, describing the role vision plays in helping us show up as our best selves and connect with family and friends on a deeper level.

We discuss the value of positive self-talk in keeping your vibration high, challenging you to avoid words that carry a connotation of powerlessness—like can't, shouldn't and won't.

Listen in for insight on resisting gossip and complaining at holiday gatherings and learn how the way you act, think and feel about OTHERS impacts what happens in YOUR life!

How vibration is defined as an emotional state, atmosphere of a place, or association of an object as communicated to or felt by others

How to set the intention and identify what you need to do to go into the holidays with positive energy

Why you shouldn't take advice from someone who won't listen to your point of view

How anger is a punishment we give ourselves for someone else's mistake

The role vision plays in helping us raise our vibration

How to leverage mirroring techniques to make people feel seen and heard at holiday gatherings

5 strategies for keeping your vibe high over the holidays

1. Practice positive self-talk
2. Resist gossip
3. Be careful who you surround yourself with
4. Stop complaining + avoid negative words (i.e.: can't, shouldn't, won't, try)
5. Dress the part

How to introduce a pattern interrupter when people are engaging in gossip

How the way you act, think and feel about others impacts YOUR life

Why wearing something that makes you feel good helps you carry yourself differently

Destined to Be Podcast

Destined to Be on Instagram

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

The Enneagram Institute

The Secret

What the Bleep Do We Know!?

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

We ALL fall off track from time to time.

Your kids wake up early and disrupt your morning routine. The Little Cesar's breadsticks are too good to pass up. Or your partner leaves the cereal bowl on the counter and your anger gets in the way of accomplishing what you had planned.

So, what can you do to turn it around fast and get back to honoring the commitments you've made to yourself?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're sharing our five-step process for getting back on track, explaining why it's important to identify what got you off course and process the negative emotions you're feeling.

We challenge you to welcome the lesson in falling off course, asking yourself how the situation might serve you and trying a different approach when you need to.

Listen in for insight on overcoming self-defeating thoughts and learn how to create a plan to get back on track ASAP!

How to do the things you know make you feel better (when it's easier not to)

The choice you have to be frustrated or not when your schedule is disrupted

Why it's crucial to get crystal clear on your goals and build a plan to achieve them

The BIG impact of a consistent effort to make small, incremental changes

Our 5-step process for getting back on track

1. Identify what got you off track
2. Let yourself feel the emotion
3. Welcome the lesson
4. Determine your next steps
5. Believe you're capable

How to identify the real issue behind your negative emotions and express those feelings calmly

Why we try to switch the focus instead of fully processing our emotions

The value in asking how the situation can serve you and trying a different approach

Why you might need to hire a coach to help you stay on track

How affirmations or a journal practice can help you overcome self-defeating thoughts

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

Dr. Susan David on The Ed Mylett Show

Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David, PhD

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Are you feeling anxious this holiday season? Have you taken the time to explore WHY you feel this way?

If you're going into family get-togethers with a sense of dread, practicing emotional intelligence (also referred to as emotional quotient or EQ) can help you stay in control when family members criticize your choices and approach difficult conversations from a place of empathy.

Brittney Connor-Savarda is the emotional intelligence expert behind The Catalyst for Change, a coaching practice that helps high-achieving entrepreneurs and executive leaders remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of their personal fulfillment. She is also the host of Living and Leading with Emotional Intelligence and the author of The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change.

On this episode of Destined to Be, Brittney joins us to explain how a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face and offer strategies for developing our personal EQ. She explores what to do if your partner's standard for 100% is significantly different from your own, discussing why it's crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand and correct yourself immediately when you say something you regret. Listen in for Brittney's insight on finding fulfillment inside yourself and learn how to navigate holiday anxiety with compassion for yourself and your family.

How a lack of emotional intelligence is at the root of the problems we face

The strategies for developing EQ outlined in Brittney's book

How Brittney defines emotional intelligence as the awareness and management of our feelings

The self-compassion and patience it takes to examine our own emotions

Brittney's work coaching parents and caregivers to model EQ for children

Brittney's advice for those of us going into the holidays with anxiety

How to set boundaries with critical family members and navigate the guilt of not being able to please everyone

How to identify the NEED behind the emotion you're feeling/receiving

Why it's crucial to approach difficult conversations with a sincere desire to understand

Why Brittney suggests correcting yourself immediately when you say something you shouldn't have

How emotional intelligence can help us mitigate disturbing thoughts

What to do if your partner's standard for 100% is significantly different from yours

Why fulfillment has to come from inside yourself, not external factors

The Catalyst 4 Change

Brittney on YouTube

Brittney on Facebook

Brittney on Instagram

Living & Leading with Emotional Intelligence Podcast

The EQ Deficiency Podcast

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

The EQ Deficiency: How Emotional Intelligence and Compassion Can Cure an Emotional Pandemic, Solve Our People Problems and Be a Catalyst for Positive Change by Brittney-Nichole Connor-Savarda

Brittney on Destined to Be EP061

Marc Brackett

Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett, PhD

Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence

The Joe Rogan Experience

'I Failed the Covington Catholic Test' in The Atlantic

Julie Irwin Zimmerman

Feel like your relationship is in a rut?

Yes, a date night can help spice things up. But if you're unhappy with yourself, a night out with your significant other can't fix that. To grow as a couple, both partners need to look inward and bring the best version of themselves to the relationship.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're discussing how to get out of a relationship rut, explaining what we do to take stock of what's working in our marriage and what isn't and how we communicate our expectations to each other.

We challenge you to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good and doing things to make them feel special—and owning it when you fall short.

Listen in for insight on why you can't show up for your partner when you don't feel good about yourself and learn how to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple that honors your individual and collective growth.

What it looks like to be in a relationship rut

Why it's crucial to take stock of what's working in your relationship and what isn't

How to develop an awareness of your expectations and communicate them to your partner

What we do to assess where we fall short for each other

Why you can't show up better for your partner when you don't feel good about yourself

How to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple

The distinction between intimacy and sex

How doing things to make your partner feel special can make you feel good

Why both partners need to adopt a growth mindset (though they may grow at different paces)

How to spice things up in your relationship with a date night

How to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

Darren Hardy

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026

12 Steps

Dr. Alex Spinoso on Destined to Be EP067

The 5 Love Languages

Feel like your relationship is in a rut?

Yes, a date night can help spice things up. But if you’re unhappy with yourself, a night out with your significant other can’t fix that. To grow as a couple, both partners need to look inward and bring the best version of themselves to the relationship.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re discussing how to get out of a relationship rut, explaining what we do to take stock of what’s working in our marriage and what isn’t and how we communicate our expectations to each other.

We challenge you to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good and doing things to make them feel special—and owning it when you fall short.

Listen in for insight on why you can’t show up for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself and learn how to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple that honors your individual and collective growth.

What it looks like to be in a relationship rut

Why it’s crucial to take stock of what’s working in your relationship and what isn’t

How to develop an awareness of your expectations and communicate them to your partner

What we do to assess where we fall short for each other

Why you can’t show up better for your partner when you don’t feel good about yourself

How to build a vision of where you want to go as a couple

The distinction between intimacy and sex

How doing things to make your partner feel special can make you feel good

Why both partners need to adopt a growth mindset (though they may grow at different paces)

How to spice things up in your relationship with a date night

How to change your perception of your partner by focusing on the good

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

Darren Hardy

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Throw Pillows on Destined to Be EP026

12 Steps

Dr. Alex Spinoso on Destined to Be EP067

The 5 Love Languages

More than 50% of American workers would trust a complete stranger over their boss. Heart attack rates are highest on Monday mornings. And more than 2/3 of US employees experience a lack of connection or inspiration in the workplace. So, how do we make our work environments more fulfilling and inspire people to show up as the best version of themselves? What is the secret to building a high-performance team?

Shaun Peet and Mike Metcalf are the head pit crew coaches for Chip Ganassi Racing and the cofounders of DECK Leadership, a business consulting firm that applies NASCAR pit crew performance strategies to the modern workplace, inspiring business leaders and their teams to discover authentic opportunities for diversity, efficiency, culture and kindness. Shaun and Mike are also the coauthors of 12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough?

On this episode of Destined to Be, Shaun and Mike join us to explain why culture is key to their success as pit crew coaches and explain how the principles they use to build teams translate to the corporate space. They explore why mindset has such a profound impact on the way we live our lives and share their intentional, standards-based approach to bringing on new team members at Chip Ganassi Racing. Listen in for insight on seeing your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive and learn how to show people you truly care about them—beyond what they can do for you.

Why Mike & Shaun credit their success as pit crew coaches to culture

How Mike & Shaun's team building principles translate to the corporate space

How thoughts have a profound impact on the way we live our lives

The arrival mindset that helps Mike & Shaun's team show up as the best version of themselves

How perspective motivates us and helps us focus on the right things

Mike & Shaun's intentional approach to bringing on new team members

How to prepare your children for life's inevitable challenges

How to leverage your gifts to make a difference in the world

Why you can't pour into others if you haven't poured into yourself

How to reframe your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive

Why standards move the needle more than goals do

How to show people you care about them beyond what they can do for you

DECK Leadership

DECK on Facebook

DECK on Twitter

DECK on Instagram

DECK on LinkedIn

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough? by Mike Metcalf and Shaun Peet with Stephen Copeland

Barium Springs Home for Children

Meals on Wheels

Marshall McFadden

Dave Ramsey

Viktor Frankl

Simon Sinek

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

Tony Robbins

'Make Your Values Mean Something' in HBR

More than 50% of American workers would trust a complete stranger over their boss. Heart attack rates are highest on Monday mornings. And more than 2/3 of US employees experience a lack of connection or inspiration in the workplace. So, how do we make our work environments more fulfilling and inspire people to show up as the best version of themselves? What is the secret to building a high-performance team?

Shaun Peet and Mike Metcalf are the head pit crew coaches for Chip Ganassi Racing and the cofounders of DECK Leadership, a business consulting firm that applies NASCAR pit crew performance strategies to the modern workplace, inspiring business leaders and their teams to discover authentic opportunities for diversity, efficiency, culture and kindness. Shaun and Mike are also the coauthors of 12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough?

On this episode of Destined to Be, Shaun and Mike join us to explain why culture is key to their success as pit crew coaches and explain how the principles they use to build teams translate to the corporate space. They explore why mindset has such a profound impact on the way we live our lives and share their intentional, standards-based approach to bringing on new team members at Chip Ganassi Racing. Listen in for insight on seeing your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive and learn how to show people you truly care about them—beyond what they can do for you.

Why Mike & Shaun credit their success as pit crew coaches to culture

How Mike & Shaun’s team building principles translate to the corporate space

How thoughts have a profound impact on the way we live our lives

The arrival mindset that helps Mike & Shaun’s team show up as the best version of themselves

How perspective motivates us and helps us focus on the right things

Mike & Shaun’s intentional approach to bringing on new team members

How to prepare your children for life’s inevitable challenges

How to leverage your gifts to make a difference in the world

Why you can’t pour into others if you haven’t poured into yourself

How to reframe your emotions as a suggestion rather than a directive

Why standards move the needle more than goals do

How to show people you care about them beyond what they can do for you

DECK Leadership

DECK on Facebook

DECK on Twitter

DECK on Instagram

DECK on LinkedIn

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

12 Second Culture: Speed Is the Currency of Business. Is Your Team Fast Enough? by Mike Metcalf and Shaun Peet with Stephen Copeland

Barium Springs Home for Children

Meals on Wheels

Marshall McFadden

Dave Ramsey

Viktor Frankl

Simon Sinek

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek

Tony Robbins

‘Make Your Values Mean Something’ in HBR

The holidays are supposed to be joyful. A time when we can slow down and connect with our family and friends.

And yet, many of us are anxious about the holiday season. We're stressed about running to multiple events in a single day or being triggered by Aunt Cindy's politics.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're sharing our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events, challenging you to go where you're celebrated, not tolerated, and offering insight on what to say if you chose not to attend a family event.

We explain how to adjust your attitude before you see family and set realistic expectations, describing why it may be difficult for people to understand your personal development journey and how to take the high road if Uncle John throws shade your way.

Listen in for advice on controlling your reaction when triggers arise and learn to leverage the vision of who you want to become to connect with family and friends this holiday season—whether or not you share the same views!

Why we choose to go where we're celebrated, not tolerated

What to say if you decide NOT to attend a particular family event

How to develop an awareness of WHY you're avoiding a situation

How we miss out on authentic connections when we're running from one event to another

Our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events

1. Adjust your attitude before you go and set realistic expectations
2. Be mindful of triggers and continue to be the light
3. Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction
4. Limit your alcohol consumption

Why it may be difficult for friends and family to understand your personal development journey

How to show respect and take the high road when your family provokes you

What to do if you're still feeling anxious after a holiday gathering

How to set the intention to connect with family and friends (even those who hold very different beliefs)

How to leverage the vision of who you want to become to have a happy holiday

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

75 Hard

75 Hard: A Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself by Andy Frisella

Entrepreneurs' Organization

The holidays are supposed to be joyful. A time when we can slow down and connect with our family and friends.

And yet, many of us are anxious about the holiday season. We’re stressed about running to multiple events in a single day or being triggered by Aunt Cindy’s politics.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we’re sharing our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events, challenging you to go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated, and offering insight on what to say if you chose not to attend a family event.

We explain how to adjust your attitude before you see family and set realistic expectations, describing why it may be difficult for people to understand your personal development journey and how to take the high road if Uncle John throws shade your way.

Listen in for advice on controlling your reaction when triggers arise and learn to leverage the vision of who you want to become to connect with family and friends this holiday season—whether or not you share the same views!

Why we choose to go where we’re celebrated, not tolerated

What to say if you decide NOT to attend a particular family event

How to develop an awareness of WHY you’re avoiding a situation

How we miss out on authentic connections when we’re running from one event to another

Our top 4 tips for navigating family holiday events

1. Adjust your attitude before you go and set realistic expectations
2. Be mindful of triggers and continue to be the light
3. Accept that the only thing you can control is your reaction
4. Limit your alcohol consumption

Why it may be difficult for friends and family to understand your personal development journey

How to show respect and take the high road when your family provokes you

What to do if you’re still feeling anxious after a holiday gathering

How to set the intention to connect with family and friends (even those who hold very different beliefs)

How to leverage the vision of who you want to become to have a happy holiday

Destined to Be

Jeremiah on Instagram

Mallory on Instagram

Level Up Entourage Facebook Group

75 Hard

75 Hard: A Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself by Andy Frisella

Entrepreneurs’ Organization