Use retirement as a catalyst to detach from unhealthy attachments that may be holding you back from living life the way you really want to. Life is shaped by our attachments. Things like security, pleasure, and validation are healthy, but they can be overdone and become a drag on our well-being. Dr. Bob Rosen’s new book Detach: Ditch Your Baggage to Live a More Fulfilling Life offers antidotes to 10 unhealthy attachments that can weigh people down.

Dr. Bob Rosen joins us from Virginia.

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Dr. Bob Rosen is the author of the new book Detach: Ditch Your Baggage to Live a More Fulfilling Life. Bob is a world-renowned thought leader on healthy people and healthy organizations. As a psychologist, New York Times best-selling author, researcher, and preeminent business advisor, his work in personal and organizational change is recognized worldwide. In 1988, he founded Healthy Companies and has interviewed or advised more than 600 CEOs of world-class companies. Over the years, Dr. Rosen has written eight books helping others to learn and grow.

Bob is a frequent media commentator who has been quoted in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fortune, Bloomberg Businessweek, the Financial Times, Time, Chief Executive Magazine, and more. Bob’s books also include  the New York Times Bestseller Grounded®, and the Washington Post best-seller Conscious, Just Enough Anxiety, Global Literacies, and the Catalyst, The Healthy Company, and Leading People,  He is also in demand as a global keynote speaker with a special focus on the psychology of self-improvement.

Bob graduated from the University of Virginia. He subsequently earned a PhD in clinical psychology at the University of Pittsburgh. Bob teaches in executive education programs, and has been a longtime faculty member in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at George Washington University’s School of Medicine.

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For More on Dr. Bob Rosen

Detach: Ditch Your Baggage to Live a More Fulfilling Life

Website

Assessment on Attachments – email [email protected] for a link to the assessment

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About The Retirement Wisdom Podcast

There are many podcasts on retirement, often hosted by financial advisors with their own financial motives, that cover the money side of the street. This podcast is different. You’ll get smarter about the investment decisions you’ll make about the most important asset you’ll have in retirement: your time.

About Retirement Wisdom

I help people who are retiring, but aren’t quite done yet, discover what’s next and build their custom version of their next life. A meaningful retirement doesn’t just happen by accident.

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About Your Podcast Host 

Joe Casey is an executive coach who also helps people design their next life after their primary career and create their version of The Multipurpose Retirement.™ He created his own next chapter after a twenty-six-year career at Merrill Lynch, where he was Senior Vice President and Head of HR for Global Markets & Investment Banking. Today, in addition to his work with clients, Joe hosts The Retirement Wisdom Podcast, which thanks to his guests and loyal listeners, ranks in the top 1 % globally in popularity by Listen Notes, with over 1.6 million downloads. Business Insider has recognized Joe as one of 23 innovative coaches who are making a difference. He’s the author of Win the Retirement Game: How to Outsmart the 9 Forces Trying to Steal Your Joy.

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Wise Quotes

On Anxiety

“One of the first things I help people with is to distinguish between too little anxiety, which is the face of complacency, and too much anxiety, which is the face of chaos, and how to find just the right amount. And we have to get comfortable living with just the right amount of anxiety, because that’s really how the world operates. So the key here is learning to be agile.”

On the Choice of Two Paths

” [It] is really all about thriving in change. And it’s especially true in retirement. Well, if we just put this in the context of retirement, I’m a firm believer that when we enter the third trimester of life, we can walk on one of two paths. One path is really about having an open mind, it’s about greater introspection, being less anxious and cynical, being more empathic, less self-centered with more gratitude, with fewer attachments. And the other path is really one of fear, of anxiety, of sadness, of boredom, of feeling unhappy and really a path of regret. And we choose consciously or unconsciously which path we want to lead down. Now the problem is, is that we can’t control everything and the serenity prayer of accepting what we cannot change, embracing what we can and having the wisdom to know the difference is so important in retirement because there are many things that we can’t control. We were taught to shape our environment but the reality is lots of things are outside our control and it gets in the way of executives too because they micromanage, they mistrust and they can’t control things sometimes – but the same is true in retirement. And so I think the key here is to allow yourself to be vulnerable, allow yourself to be more trusting that things will work out okay and sometimes they don’t, but that’s okay.”

On How to Detach

“We created a 40 item assessment that you can take online and it will assess based on your answers to questions which attachments are most relevant to you. And then what we do is we take you through a four-part process that starts with awareness and acceptance in terms of what’s going on inside of you and what’s going on outside of you. The second step is to discover your attachment and the why underneath the attachment. What is driving that attachment in particular for you? The third step is the aspiration, which is: what is your vision of your desired state? What do you want to get rid of and what do you want to embrace? And then the last step is action.”