Difficult Happens; Effective Communication for Bosses

Summary:

Leadership is evolving and that’s a good thing.

Fluid and ever-changing aren’t just buzzwords, they are the new norm which means that the way leaders of every type lead also needs to change and grow to meet the new and uncertain challenges they will face.

There are some inspiring examples of great leadership styles emerging from unexpected places, and we can learn from their example and adopt some of these skills.

In today’s episode, we dive into what leadership should look like now.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• Patriarchal vs matriarchal leadership
• The impact of low self-esteem on leadership
• The impact of Vulnerability
• The importance of communication
• Stress is inevitable - do this
• Radical candor
• Honesty and openness
• Why peoples BS meter is up
• There will be an emotional and social component

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If you were to graph out what communication is, it would look like a vast interconnected web that goes on forever. There are so many variables that impact the way we communicate and the way that we perceive others' meanings. 🥺😑🤣 It was illuminating to sit down with my mom Dr. Theresa Smith, to talk about context, discourse, culture, feminism, inter-generational similarities and differences, and everything in between. How often do you think about the impact of your race, sex, region, and generation when you are trying to make sense out of why you see something, hear something, or believe something to be true, so different than someone else??? Some use certain communication styles to deceive and manipulate using tactics such as blame-shifting, obfuscation, gaslighting & using the technique of "word-salad" 🥗to confuse or distract you. Learning how to identify these techniques builds your communication acumen.

"The secret of good crisis management is not good vs. bad, it’s preventing the bad from getting worse.”  Andy Gilman

How do you prepare for days that you hope will never come? 

Uncertainty is an inevitability, and these are uncertain times. Preparing your business and your employees to adapt during a crisis is necessary, and it doesn’t have to be difficult. 

So how do you take a bad situation and stop it from getting worse? 

Mark Hoffman a crisis communication and business continuity expert joins me to talk about preparing for, navigating through, and assessing business responses to a crisis. From a devastating cyber attack to a worldwide pandemic identifying key players and solidifying a response agenda will help prepare you.

It’s not too late to work on a crisis communication plan for your business, you can create your plan from where you are at right now. 

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• How do you prepare  for the unknown
• Identifying key players
• What is a response agenda
• The importance of communication
• Stress is inevitable - do this
• Why side-conversations can be toxic
• Don’t be a lemming - all players should have an equal voice
• Nuance is  an important factor
• There will be an emotional and social component

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Manipulative people have an arsenal of tactics they will use against you. Blame-Shifting is one of the big ones. When it is used by a boss or co-worker, it can create a toxic environment quickly, one that, if the manipulator isn’t stopped, will only get worse.

In order to combat the blame-shifters tactic, we will shine the light on the many forms of shifting blame (some, may surprise you) and what you can do about it when they try these tactics on YOU. 

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• What is Blame-Shifting
• The Manipulative tactics in action
• How a victim might be shifting the blame on you
• Why minimizing you is on the menu
• How quickly a toxic workplace can be created
• What you should never do
• What you should do when blame is shifted onto you

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Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Hilarious Word Salad Video 

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Happiness and Joy can be found in the most difficult of situations. In today’s episode, Maja and I dive Into finding the good in a difficult situation, being inspired by one another and defining what we want our future to be. 

“I’ve been through a Genocide & a Pandemic and didn’t even get a T-shirt” 

Maja Kazazic is back on the show to talk about finding the good, in a bad situation. As a Genocide survivor, a successful businesswoman and an inspirational speaker, she has a unique and uplifting perspective about hard things.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• The power of “WE”
• Leadership now
• Change and Uncertainty
• Vulnerability is the new strength
• The power of working together
• How selfishness becomes obvious and unacceptable
• What’s next

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Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Genocide Perspective & Hope with Maja Kazazic Part 1

Part 2

Maja Kazazic Pandemic Blog

Company of One - Paul Jarvis

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It might escape notice, slip right under your radar like a birthday of a distant relative and yet it impacts every one of us from Queen’s to service workers. Stress & anxiety has many faces and often escape notice until a full-blown reaction surfaces.

What can you do about it, especially during difficult times? Be on the lookout for these clues. Like a leaky pipe, these are clues, an early warning sign of more pressing emotions that are bubbling right below the surface.

It’s not a matter of IF you will experience these things, but WHEN. In this episode, we dive into how to identify the signs and what to do about them. 

For yourself and for those around you. 

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• Stress & Anxiety go hand in hand like peanut butter & jelly
• Not if, but when 
• How to tune into your body
• Ways to identify stress in others
• How to break free from circular thinking
• Lara has some surprises for you!
• The impact of community

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Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

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This was the conversation we should all be having.

There is a “new leadership” model that is emerging right now. One that is more humanistic, open and vulnerable. These uncertain times, the change we are experiencing, and the resulting anxiety, fear, and grief that is pervasive have sparked a new ‘communication mode’. 

That is a good thing. 

Molly McPherson of Confident Communications and I dive into how much communication, messaging, and the work that we do has changed in the past few weeks. What has changed and what that means for us, and so much more.

As a world we have a lot to grieve over right now, kids who are missing their last year of primary school, grieving the loss of how things were - being  able to see and check up on family & friends, or the loss of a loved one. Along with that

being selfish (say as in hoarding supplies) became universally abhorrent overnight.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• Accountability is the new black
• Honest and open vulnerability inspires trust 
• How fear shows up in the time of Covid
• What does Leadership look like in a pandemic
• Why  leaders are looking inward, to their staff
• April Fools day was No Joke
• How your senses are triggered
• Covid Crisis response kit
• Humanistic leadership
• How to be of service in a pandemic
• Why we are grieving
• Isolation and it’s impact
• Visiting during social isolating

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Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

Calming Client Fears Free Webinar

Company of One - Paul Jarvis

Seattle Freeze

The Mind of Bill Gates

Amber Hawley - Couples Fix

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It is a super strange time that we are in right now. Things are changing by the hour. One thing is certain, during a Pandemic, there will be some uncertainty.

In today’s episode, I dive into how people react, why they react a certain way and what you can do to connect, communicate and understand one another without risk of starting a conflict.

Stress, anxiety, and fear look different in different people. From a Laissez-faire attitude to shut down, from overly-informed to the conspiracy theorist, reactions that seem opposite to one another all have their root in uncertainty.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• Why someone has a laissez-faire attitude
• What anxiety looks like 
• How fear shows up in our day to day interactions
• How your senses are triggered
• Ways to cope with uncertainty
• How to inspire confidence
• Tuning into your  body
• Your senses and how they can help you
• Long breaths and calm
• Your body is the key
• Do what works for you

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Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

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Summary:

Oh-No she didn’t!

It doesn’t matter who you are; mother Theresa, Oprah Winfrey, my Mom, you get mad.

Not like ‘teenager forbidden to date a boy’ type mad - that’s a singular type of rage, more like a ‘defend your honor, correct a falsehood, shut down a misogynist’ type anger. Which can be a bad look for a professional.

We are whole human beings, and anger is part of life and it has its purpose. Once you are angry, and before you vent that anger onto others, there is a simple and extremely effective method you can use to calm down.

This method is so effective it is used by the military, medical, and mental health fields alike. And now you can use it too.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• How Anger impacts  you physically
• Your senses and how they  can help you
• What is the  5-4-3-2-1 method?
• Long breaths and calm
• Shame & anger, two sides of the same coin
• Your body is the key
• What works for you

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Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

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Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood, jerks and rude behavior really get’s under your skin?

Covid 19, a busy work schedule, travel restrictions, and perimenopause have Lara in a Bad Mood. So off to the Gym I go. Moving your body is a great way to blow off some steam, usually…

Today at the Gym, my bad mood was exacerbated by Jerks. A jerk who was wearing combat boots and his full workout gear in the steam room, (the rest of us were in swimsuits). A jerk watching  YouTube on her phone loudly… without headphones. I am right next to you trying to read and enjoy my phoned-in workout. 

And what in the world is with the Gum?

Perfume, leaving weights and towels on the floor, grunting and dropping weights, it’s enough to make Jack Lelaine kick sand in their face (google it - totally worth it).

So how do get out of this funk and shake off the rude behavior at the gym? The same way you can when those cringe-worthy behaviors creep into your world.

Tune in and check it out.

What you’ll hear on today’s episode:

• What is going on in the world today
• Social contracts
• Covid 19, travel and work  in this new world order
• Life from the outside in
• Gum, no...just no
• Gramma Tiny has something to say
• The point of  anger
• Turning  the mind
• Mindset & context
• Let’s play make-believe
• Life is life, and bad moods are normal

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Resources:

Series on Manipulation

Series on Assessments

© Lara Currie 2020

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