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February 17Return Blaque to Love w/ David "Stackin Kickz" Jefferson & Kela Jones
In this powerful season finale, host Leigh LaRie is joined by Portland’s own powerhouse couple, David Jefferson and Kela Jones. David, the CEO of Stacking Kickz and a Season 1 alum, returns to the mics—but this time, he’s not the single entrepreneur "riding the fence." He’s back with his partner, Kela Jones, the visionary behind Say My Name In Kursive, to discuss their transformative journey toward "Return Blaque to Love."
The couple dives deep into what it means to attract what you need rather than chasing what you want. From their shared history as high school classmates to the intentional, five-hour phone conversations that built their foundation, they get real about spirituality, boundaries, and the importance of healing deep wounds before entering a partnership.
They also introduce their revolutionary seven-part series, Return Blaque to Love, designed to revive Black love in the community from the roots up. Whether discussing the myth that single moms can't raise men or explaining why men need to learn to be alone before they can be "found," this episode is a masterclass in intentional relating.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to the Season 7 Finale!
[01:20] Catching up with David Jefferson: From Season 1's "Single Entrepreneur" to Partnership.
[02:47] The Prep: How David’s ideologies on dating shifted through spirituality.
[04:53] The Spiritual Shift: Realizing both partners must be spiritually inclined to thrive.
[05:57] Kela’s Journey: Eight years of intentional singleness and dating herself.
[06:29] Accountability in Attraction: Healing the wounds that attract the wrong partners.
[08:03] The High School Connection: From classmates who didn't talk to intentional partners.
[09:06] Chasing vs. Attracting: Why boundaries and standards are often mistaken for "incapability."
[11:18] The DM that Started it All: "We have things to talk about."
[12:24] Dallas 2021: Why the connection didn't click until the energy was right.
[18:22] Unwrapping the History: Why they spent weeks talking for 5 hours a night before linking up.
[20:17] Masculine & Feminine Dynamics: Balancing leadership with logic and the subtleness of the feminine.
[23:46] Love Languages: The power of being heard vs. the act of protection.
[25:14] Foreseeing the Path: Navigating David’s "overthinking" vs. Kela’s "protection."
[28:27] Black Love in the Public Eye: Showing the community that healthy Black love exists.
[32:05] Divine Feminine Healing: An overview of Say My Name In Kursive and InnerG Elements.
[34:15] Compartmentalizing Business: Supporting each other’s individual brands while building together.
[36:35] The Relationship Tax: David addresses why sales with women decreased after going public.
[39:57] Hard Boundaries: No screaming, no yelling, and never betraying your moral compass.
[41:01] The Processor vs. The "In the Moment" Communicator: Navigating different conflict styles.
[43:53] Return Blaque to Love: The origin of the 7-part series and the Black Love Ball.
[49:00] Repairing the Roots: Why mentoring kids requires healing the parents first.
[51:50] What to Expect: Plays, panels, and conflict resolution in physical form.
[57:39] Future Vision: Bringing Jason Wilson and April Mason to Portland.
[01:00:25] Self-Sabotage vs. Protecting Peace: Knowing when you are the common denominator.
[01:01:32] Being "On the Fence": How to protect your peace while staying open to good circumstances.
[01:03:02] Biggest Myths: Generalizations about provision and the "dateability" of moms.
[01:07:08] Advice for Love: Writing the list and never silencing your gut.
[01:11:16] Purpose-First Principles: Why men need space to find themselves first.
[01:12:43] Where to find Stacking Kickz, Say My Name In Kursive, and RBTL PDX.
[01:14:10] Product Highlight: Milani Vegan Soothe Conditioner.
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1 hr 16 min
February 10Yasss Queen w/ Tralice Lewis & Ambrosia
In this high-glam, high-vibration episode, host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris are joined by the ultimate duo of beauty and creativity: Tralice Lewis of Kelly’s Custom Hat Wigs and Ambrosia of The Lam Art Studio.
Tralice shares her powerful journey from healthcare professional to becoming the only Black-owned wig store owner in the Pacific Northwest, honoring her late mother’s legacy through "healing hands" and "vibe-architecture." Meanwhile, Ambrosia discusses how she pivoted from a retail boutique to a thriving art and wellness business, tripling her revenue by focusing on community paint and sips and mobile art therapy.
The Queens get real about the "thug thistle" of entrepreneurship—from surviving targeted vandalism and internet scams to the manifestation moment involving a DM from Tabitha Brown. They dive into the necessity of collaboration over competition, why "no negative self-talk" is the #1 rule in art, and how a custom wig can be a total game-changer for a woman's spirit.
Grab your crown and your sparkling cider—this episode is packed with gems on branding, faith walks, and the power of Black women supporting Black women.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Season 7, Episode 9 – The Queen Edition.
[00:22] Product Highlight: Milani Vegan Tame Leave-In Conditioner (The "Swiss Army Knife" of hair care).
[02:10] The Sparkle Story: How Leigh met Tralice through a blinged-out water bottle.
[03:21] Small World Connections: How Charlisa and Ambrosia’s paths crossed years ago.
[03:52] Communal Juice & Mocktails: Creating recovery-safe creative spaces.
[04:36] Why "Queen"?: Honoring the ancestors and good stock.
[05:37] Callie’s Legacy: Founding a business in honor of a hospice nurse mother.
[06:37] Healing Hands: Why Tralice won't create wigs when her energy is off.
[08:46] Salon Drama: The infamous "rabid emotional support cat" story.
[10:55] The Gap in Beauty School: Why ethnic hair and wig education are minimized.
[12:37] Art as Therapy: Releasing trauma through doodles and paint.
[14:11] The #1 Rule: No negative talk in the art studio.
[15:30] Showers & Signs: Crying in 170 square feet and asking God for a sign.
[16:45] The Tabitha Brown Miracle: A DM that changed everything after a home-buying scam.
[18:50] The Callie Sign: A chilling revelation about names and destiny.
[20:15] The Critique vs. The Boutique: Advocating for signage and foot traffic.
[21:40] Learning to Pivot: Why letting go of "the dream" is necessary for growth.
[22:50] Tripling Revenue: Taking the hard advice to focus on one stream.
[25:35] Targeted Vandalism: Rebuilding after hate speech and stolen mother’s signs.
[28:34] Look for a Black Woman: Why we are the ultimate safe spaces.
[30:30] Celebrity Vibes: Working with Lunell and being a caregiver at heart.
[33:15] Manifestation: Writing it down and speaking it into existence.
[34:33] Reclaiming the Garage: Opening a storefront in downtown Gresham.
[37:32] Funniest Business Moments: "I'm too old to wear that color."
[39:35] Branding with Pink: Honoring "Baby Kelly" and standing out.
[40:35] The Table Story: When Tralice took up half the building with her brand.
[42:35] Rashida (LHHATL) Inspiration: The blueprint for multiple business lines.
[45:58] Winning Together: Breaking the scarcity mindset in the hair industry.
[49:15] Shark Tank Summits: Collaboration with Queen Jazz and hair oils.
[52:50] Paying it Forward: Blessing a fellow entrepreneur with $10,000 in inventory.
[55:10] The Support Systems: Shoutout to husband Rayfield and the "muscle" behind the scenes.
[57:56] Wig Grips: Making sure it "ain't going nowhere" (tested and tried!).
[01:00:25] Largest Black-owned Counseling Center: Anchor Within Counseling shoutout.
[01:02:30] Where to find Kelly’s Custom Hat Wigs and The Lam Art Studio.
[01:05:45] Outro: Connecting with Leigh LaRie and the Dirty Roses Podcast.
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1 hr 7 min
February 03Cupcakes & Comebacks w/ Damala Badon
What does it take to build a dessert empire while navigating the hardest trials life can throw at you? Host Leigh LaRie is joined by the "Cupcake Queen" herself, Damala Badon, owner of DB Dessert Company. In this moving and transparent episode, "Cupcakes & Comebacks," Damala shares her journey from self-taught home baker to a powerhouse entrepreneur with multiple locations in Portland.
Damala opens up about the "thug thistle" of the hustle—from expanding to three stores and dealing with vandalism to the difficult decision to consolidate for the sake of her family. The conversation takes a deep dive into the reality of Black motherhood and entrepreneurship, as Damala discusses the tragic loss of her oldest son and how she continues to move forward for her two living children.
From the "cracker pie" that inspired her grandmother to the technical challenges of shipping cupcakes in jars, Damala embodies resilience. They discuss the myth that women can't raise men, the importance of therapy, and navigating a public divorce while maintaining your grace. This is a story of legacy, survival, and the sweet taste of a well-earned comeback.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Season 7, Episode 8
[01:05] Meet Damala Badon: The myth, the legend, and the Cupcake Queen
[01:59] The Beginning: How a 2-year-old’s birthday cake sparked a 16-year career
[03:49] Legacy over Bills: Why Damala chose the path of a brick-and-mortar business
[05:25] The Expansion Journey: From Gleason and Alberta to consolidating back to one
[06:55] Trust and NDAs: How to build a team without losing your secret sauce
[08:46] Finding the Niche: Transitioning from custom 3D cakes to high-volume cupcakes
[10:44] Business Fails: The story of the "lost cake" and how to apologize like a boss
[12:54] Favorite Designs: Letting her sons test her skill set with Minions and basketball courts
[14:44] Representation in Portland: The heavy weight of being a Black woman in business
[16:03] Inspiration: Cracker Pie and the "Apple Pie" survival mode of the 1930s
[18:19] Mentoring the Youth: Giving young people their first jobs and operational support
[19:32] Community Service: Supporting the community through SNAP benefit cuts with free bread
[21:00] Cupcakes in a Jar: The trial and error of shipping logistics
[23:12] The Snowstorm Rebuild: Coming back after a collapsed ceiling and a flooded bakery
[25:15] Navigating Grief: Moving forward after the tragic loss of her son
[28:08] Self Care & Therapy: Leaning on a core group of friends and professional support
[30:50] Parenting Black Men: Autonomy, natural consequences, and the myth of the single mom
[36:46] Public Figures & Private Divorces: Staying silent when "hurt people hurt people"
[41:00] Choosing Yourself: Why staying "for the kids" isn't always the best decision
[45:51] Reintroducing Yourself: Finding peace in the quiet moments of the "soft life"
[48:43] The Dating Scene: Introverted dating and avoiding the "piss in the pool"
[51:19] Leigh’s Love Lounge: The funny story of Damala’s social media "Singles" post
[54:03] Portland vs. The South: Why Damala prefers traditional Southern-raised men
[55:50] Best Dates: Hopping on a plane and being flown out like a boss
[01:00:21] Advice for Grief: Sitting in it and letting life do what it does
[01:01:45] Where to find DB Dessert Company
[01:01:51] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan (S)hey Pudding Curl Cream
[01:03:00] Outro: Follow Nik B. and Leigh LaRie
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1 hr 4 min
January 27Black Folks Don’t Do What?! Black & Hunting w/ Kenny Hamlett
In this highly anticipated episode, host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris bring their man behind the glass to the front of the mic. Joining them is none other than Kenny X. Hamlett, the Emmy-award-winning producer, filmmaker, and the visionary behind Better Days West.
Known for his professional eye and " шоколад" (chocolate) demeanor, Kenny sits down to dismantle the stereotypes of what Black folks "don't do." From his upbringing in the historic Hilltop neighborhood of Tacoma to his career filming high-stakes sports and outdoor expeditions, Kenny shares how he found his identity as a Black man who loves hunting, fishing, and rock climbing.
The conversation gets deep and hilarious as they discuss the "Junior" twin dynamic, the necessity of code-switching as a survival mechanism in the PNW, and why Kenny creates films to heal his "inner little kid." Plus, things take a wild turn as they revisit the "preservative" power of crack and Chadowboxx pitches an OnlyFans for her warehouse workers.
Tune in for a masterclass on designing your own life, staying true to your passions, and breaking every box society tries to put you in.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Episode 7 – Black Folks Don’t Do What?!
[01:15] Nik B.’s Pre-Op Journey: Protein drinks and Homecoming dedication.
[02:44] Meet Kenny X. Hamlett: The producer, filmmaker, and "professional handsome man."
[03:10] The Twin Dynamic: Kenneth Xavier vs. Kendale Wayne – The "Split Junior" story.
[04:45] The Orchestra Switch: Why the violin and saxophone swap only lasted 15 seconds.
[05:50] Bad Uncle energy vs. Grandma at 40: A family breakdown.
[09:30] The White Girl Joke: When a prank about parents goes too far.
[10:45] Marriage & The Table: A male perspective on long-term commitment and Ghana citizenship.
[13:20] Growing Together vs. Evolving Apart: Seeing people in all their seasons.
[16:10] Strip Club Dates: Why Kenny’s girlfriend is the ultimate "outside" partner.
[17:30] Better Days West: Building a film production empire since 2019.
[19:50] Healing Little Kenny: Dismantling "monolith" Black identity through the outdoors.
[21:10] Cowboy Boots & Sweater Vests: Making everything "hella Black."
[22:54] Tacoma Roots: Life on the Hill in the 90s and the Jheri curl era.
[27:45] Finding Community: Surfing and drinking whiskey on the Oregon Coast.
[30:15] The "Coastal Elites" Assumption: Struggles in the Northwest.
[31:00] Seasonal Passions: Duck hunting with the dog and blanks in the bushes.
[34:30] The "Whitewashed" Rebuttal: Navigating the box of Black masculinity.
[36:45] Fly Shops & Bow Shops: Dealing with passive-aggression as an "outsider."
[38:25] The Code-Switching Struggle: Placating for success vs. being your true self.
[41:10] DMV Origins: Why East Coast Black folks talk the same everywhere.
[43:05] Customer Service Kinship: Making Facebook friends on an Apple Care call.
[45:45] The "Normal People Attractive" Model: Modeling for REI, Carhartt, and Croatia trips.
[49:25] No Diddy Parties: NDA talk and riding catamarans.
[52:55] Passions vs. Work: The VP of Fujifilm’s advice on self-care.
[54:05] Negative Self-Talk: Using anger as a motivator.
[56:18] Favorite DRP Moments: The Domestic Violence episode fruit-gobbling incident.
[58:15] The Preservation Theory: Revisitng the "Crackheads Live Forever" debate.
[01:00:05] The Warehouse Vision: Mixing shampoo "buck naked" and OnlyFans vlogs.
[01:01:35] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Hair Vibrator (Scalp Massager).
[01:03:45] The Autism Connection: Why Chadowboxx started her product line.
[01:05:09] Outro: Connecting with Better Days West and Dirty Roses.
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1 hr 7 min
January 20Black & Bougie in Portland: Issa Journey w/ Alexis McKinney
What is it really like to navigate the "whitest city in America" as a Black woman? Host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris sit down with the vibrant Alexis McKinney—better known as Lex in the City—to discuss the reality of being Black and bougie in Portland, Oregon.
Alexis, a Milwaukee native and professional content creator, shares her journey of moving to the PNW for work and the "culture shock" that came with it—not because she wasn't used to diversity, but because she was used to Black excellence being the norm. From experiencing microaggressions at a Jesuit college to navigating the "transplant bubble," Alexis gets real about the elitism that exists within the local community and why "where the Black people at?" is a lazy question.
They dive deep into the Portland dating scene, the "resentment spirit" in ambitious relationships, and why Alexis isn't afraid to shoot her shot. Plus, stay tuned as Alexis curates the ultimate Portland guide, sharing her favorite "Black & Bougie" spots, the best hiking trails, and why following DJs is better than following venues.
Whether you're a Portland native or a new transplant, this episode is a masterclass in building community, maintaining boundaries, and living your best "Black Girl Magic" life in the Rose City.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Episode 6 – Black & Bougie in Portland
[01:10] The Small Community Reality: Understanding Portland’s 6% Black population
[02:55] Meet Alexis McKinney: The "Lex in the City" Origin Story
[04:20] Milwaukee vs. Portland: Growing up in one of America's most segregated cities
[05:40] The Awakening: Dealing with microaggressions at a PWI
[07:15] Blackness is not a Monolith: From Anime nerds to Creative musicians
[09:20] Spike Lee and Cinematography: Leigh’s high school awakening
[11:00] The "Transplant Bubble": The Class of 2017-2019 Yearbooks
[12:30] Swiping for Friends: Using apps to build community pre-pandemic
[14:15] Pivot to Curation: Throwing events for Black women in Washington County
[16:15] Defensive Natives: Why transplants should stop complaining about their new city
[18:15] Regional Segregation: Why you only see Black people on the North Side
[19:15] The Soul Food Debate: Why restaurant soul food rarely hits like Sunday dinner
[21:00] The Mediocrity Trap: Professionalism and feedback in Black-owned businesses
[23:15] Following the DJ: How to find your vibe in the Portland nightlife
[24:10] Generational Spaces: Why we need more 30+ clubs in Portland
[25:35] Shooting Your Shot: Alexis’s different experience with dating in the PNW
[26:50] Hair Narratives: How different styles attract different types of men
[28:10] The "Spice Intolerant" Ex: A pandemic dating cautionary tale
[30:50] The Resentment Spirit: When men struggle with ambitious, career-driven women
[33:15] Living Alone: Why having your own space is a dating non-negotiable at 30
[36:40] Content Creation Burnout: Moving from corporate marketing to personal branding
[39:20] Viral in Portland: Why the "Black in Portland" content always hits
[40:40] The "Saying Hi" Debate: Is it bad energy or just regional differences?
[44:50] Visibility vs. Accessibility: The parasocial trap of social media fame
[48:45] Sagittarius Season: "Lexemer" and the art of celebrating yourself
[01:03:30] Where to find Alexis McKinney (Lex in the City)
[01:04:15] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Raw Brown Sugar Scrub
[01:05:45] Outro: Connecting with Leigh LaRie and Dirty Roses Podcast
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1 hr 7 min
January 13Dear Dirty Roses
Get ready for one of the juiciest episodes yet! Host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris are opening the vault and diving into your "Dear Dirty Roses" listener letters. From bizarre ex-lover friendships to delusional "magic sticks," no topic is off-limits in this candid and hilarious advice session.
Leigh kicks things off by sharing her own "brave but regrettable" experience going live on a national dating platform, only to be "eaten alive" by internet trolls—including a hater who tried to sabotage her live stream with a phone call! The ladies then tackle a series of anonymous letters that will have you clutching your pearls. They discuss the "Mr. Detective" ex who only calls when he senses misfortune, a man looking for the "cheat code" to transition from physical flings to true love, and the "opposite sex best friend" dynamic that feels a little too close for comfort.
Plus, don't miss the dramatic reading of the "Delusional Ding Dong" letter and a cautionary tale about why you should never send a dick pic with a ruler next to it—especially to your coworkers! Whether you're looking for dating "cheat codes" or just a good laugh at someone else's misfortune, this episode is exactly what you need.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Episode 5 – Dear Dirty Roses
[00:45] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Golden Indulgence Body Oil
[02:30] Have you ever submitted a letter for advice?
[04:15] Leigh’s Dating Site Experiment: Going Live with Kendra G
[06:40] The Internet Ate Me Up: Dealing with Trolls and Haters
[09:50] Letter #1: Ms. Stubbed Toe & Mr. Detective – The Ex who loves your minor suffering
[12:20] Gleeful Squeals: Identifying "miserable" people who plot on your downfall
[14:45] Can you really be "just friends" after being intimate?
[20:30] Rules of Engagement: Setting boundaries for yourself, not others
[21:30] Letter #2: No Play to Foreplay – A "reformed" selfish lover looking for the five-star experience
[24:20] The BDSM Test: A cornerstone for sexual communication
[25:50] Change of Scenery: How Airbnbs and balconies open up the "uninhibited" side
[30:00] Planning the Perfect Date: Door swings and sensory deprivation
[31:45] The Shroom Date Disaster: When the walls start melting
[34:15] Letter #3: Opposite Sex Best Friends – Emotional cheating vs. platonic boundaries
[37:05] The Ploy of Jealousy: Why some men deliberately mention other women
[43:20] Career "Side Chicks" and targeting men in relationships
[45:10] Letter #4: Secret Lovers – When you’re embarrassed to admit who you’re dating
[50:50] Aesthetic Shame: The "Chubby Chaser" dynamic and loving out loud
[53:30] Letter #5: Delusional Ding Dong – Dealing with the "un-magical" magic stick
[57:25] Is it the "Motion in the Ocean"? The Keisha Ka'oir and Kanye West theory
[01:00:20] The Google Search: What is the actual average size?
[01:03:30] Letter #6: The Aspiring Eater – Tips for giving the best "headlock" experience
[01:09:40] Letter #7: Dick Pic Included – The coworker, the ruler, and the 10-inch lie
[01:14:20] Sexual Harassment in the workplace vs. internet laughter
[01:15:50] Predatory Pervs: The "Cousin" story and blocks on social media
[01:20:20] How to submit your anonymous letters to Dirty Roses
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1 hr 23 min
January 06Love Letters to the Hood w/ Martae Brown
In this powerful episode, host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris are joined by Martae Brown—a Northeast Portland native, Jefferson High School alumnus, former professional athlete, and current educator and restorative justice advocate.
Titled "Love Letters to the Hood," this conversation is a deep dive into the authenticity and history of Black Portland. Martae shares his journey from "mobbing" to the corner store with the homies to becoming the "Allen Iverson of education," disrupting the school system and speaking at Harvard University. He reflects on growing up in the mid-90s during the height of gang culture, overcoming the "double dutch" of street life and school, and the pivotal role a strong mother and a dedicated village played in his success.
Martae gets real about the challenges of being a Black man in education, overcoming early childhood loss, and the importance of "epigenetics"—the feeling that you are a living representation of your ancestors' strength and struggle. This episode is an inspiring testament to grit, resilience, and showing up as your 100% authentic self.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Season 7, Episode 4
[01:30] Meet Martae Brown: Northeast Portland Legend and Jeff Alum
[02:26] What "The Hood" Represents: Authenticity and Black History
[03:40] From Northeast to Harvard: The Journey of a Hood Psychologist
[05:42] The Power of a Push: How Mentors Changed Martae’s Relationship with School
[07:10] Behavior is Communication: Apologizing to the Math Teacher
[09:47] Childhood Memories: KC Foodmart, 99-cent Arizonas, and Walking the Quad
[12:17] Backstreets and Alleys: The Survival Lessons of Portland’s Neighborhoods
[13:16] Overcoming Loss: Speaking at Rob Ingram’s Funeral at 15
[16:05] The Challenges of an Educator: Addressing Implicit Bias in the Classroom
[17:20] "Are you the new Custodian?": Breaking Stigmas in the School System
[21:09] Overcoming the Narrative: Why we don’t have to "Come from the Mud" to be Great
[24:50] College Football and Activism: Raising a Fist in North Dakota
[27:52] Humble Beginnings: Air Mattresses and Struggle in Arizona
[31:05] Quick From the Hip: Using Comedy (Bernie Mac & Martin) as a Defense Mechanism
[33:50] Subtle Flexes: Sitting with Ice Cube, Gary Payton, and T-Grizzly
[35:21] Regrets and Night School: Threatening the Teacher and Saving the Senior Year
[38:15] The Phone Call: How Mom Advocated for Her Oldest Son
[41:30] Marriage and Fatherhood: Being a Girl Dad in a House Full of Strong Women
[45:36] The Purpose of a Man: Leaving a Legacy Beyond Transactions
[49:01] Sobriety and Strength: Uplifting the Wife’s Journey and Encouraging Safe Spaces
[53:40] Parenting vs. The Hero Complex: Learning to Slow Down After a Trauma-Filled Workday
[57:25] Finding Joy in the Stillness: Kirk Franklin’s "Den of Kings" Inspiration
[01:00:44] Brotherhood and Tattoos: God, Goddess, and Dedication
[01:04:44] The Final Word: A Love Letter to the Hood & Epigenetics
[01:07:20] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Hair & Body Care Aura Vea & Amavea Duo
[01:08:15] Outro: Where to find Martae Brown, Chadowboxx, and Leigh LaRie
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December 30, 2025Seasoned & Strategized - The Perfect Brand w/ Crystal Chanel & Chef Kiara
In this power-packed episode, host Leigh LaRie sits down solo to interview Portland’s ultimate power couple: Crystal Chanel, CEO of Press Release Marketing, and Chef Kiara, the culinary mastermind behind Kitchen Killa. This episode, "Seasoned & Strategized," dives deep into the intersection of high-end branding, luxury culinary solutions, and the beautiful reality of a successful queer Black marriage in business.
Crystal and Kiara share their incredible journey from South Florida to the Pacific Northwest, explaining how they navigated an "accelerated" relationship that started as a professional client-consultant dynamic. From moving across the country on a private jet to fulfill a private chef contract to building a multi-staffed culinary empire in Portland, they reveal the real work behind the "glamour."
They discuss the "cobbler’s kids" syndrome in marketing, the necessity of building a team that is smarter than you, and why "humility with confidence" is the key to providing luxury service. Plus, they get real about the microaggressions they face as Black women business owners in the whitest city in America and why they prioritize giving back through their annual Community Cookout.
Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or looking for relationship goals that actually work, this episode provides the strategy and the seasoning you need to elevate your life.
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Episode 3 – Seasoned & Strategized
[01:10] Meet the Guests: Crystal Chanel (Press Release Marketing) & Chef Kiara (Kitchen Killa)
[02:45] Seasoned vs. Strategized: Which word fits your skill set?
[05:10] Balancing Romance and Business: Navigating the "Clocked In" vs. Spouse dynamic
[07:15] Letting Go of the Scarcity Mindset: Transitioning into Abundance after 12 Years
[09:25] Building a Team: Relinquishing Control to Scale Your Business
[13:10] "New to You, Not New to This": Navigating the Struggle of Being Recognized
[15:35] Defining Luxury: Anticipatory Service and Humility in Craft
[20:15] Entrepreneurial Lies: Why the Job is Never Really "Done"
[22:45] Breaking the Narrative: Building a Business by Supporting Black & Brown Communities
[24:50] The Origin Story: DM Sliders, Pop-Up Dinners, and Professional Vetting
[28:15] Falling in Love over Spreadsheets and Oysters
[31:10] The Portland Move: A 48-Hour Decision and a Private Jet to the PNW
[34:35] Dating Privately: The Social Media "Unveiling" and Matching Tattoos
[36:45] The Proposal: Sunset over Biscayne Bay and a Surprise Engagement-Moon
[39:40] Destination Wedding Strategy: Why Everyone Should Get Married in the Bahamas
[43:55] Future Couple Goals: Romance Novels, Poetry Books, and The Family Compound
[47:50] Marriage Dynamic Shifts: Learning Love Languages and Celebrating Wins
[49:40] Eliminating Competition: Being Your Spouse's Biggest Protector
[54:35] Navigating Portland: Paying Homage to Elders and Researching the Culture
[57:40] Dealing with Microaggressions: The "Per My Last Email" Approach to Respect
[01:02:50] Community Cookouts: Why Giving Back is a Business Necessity
[01:05:20] Advice for the Next Generation: Just Say Yes and Do It Well
[01:07:30] Where to Find Crystal Chanel & Chef Kiara
[01:09:05] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Hair & Body Care So Slick Edge Control
[01:10:00] Outro: Follow Nik B and Leigh LaRie
Season 7 Sponsor Information
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Product Highlight: So Slick Edge Control (All-natural vegan formula to keep your baby hairs in place without the buildup)
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December 23, 2025Love & Laughter w/ G Wade
Get ready for an episode filled with uncontrollable laughter and raw honesty! Host Leigh LaRie and guest co-host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris are joined by the multi-talented G Wade—comedian, podcast host, community advocate, and US Army veteran.
In this episode, G Wade shares the hilarious origin story of his name (and why he’s technically a "Second"), his accidental journey into the military, and how he transitioned into the comedy world after realizing he was funnier than everyone else at the open mic. The conversation takes a deep dive into his 10-year military career as a combat medic, including his time in Iraq and how those life-and-death experiences led him to a practice of meditation and self-care.
From "Private Burger King" stories to the "comedy equation" (Tragedy + Time = Comedy), G Wade keeps it real about his current divorce, navigating fatherhood, and his unwavering dedication to community outreach through Cultivate Initiatives. Plus, things get wild as the group discusses "designer crack" theories for affluent neighborhoods and why G Wade plans to start smoking crack at age 70.
Tune in for a masterclass on how to balance masculine energy, community service, and a professional comedy career—all while keeping your "man unit" intact!
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Welcome to Season 7, Episode 2
[01:15] Meeting G Wade: The Professional Leo and "The Second"
[02:05] The Origin of G Wade’s Name: A Compromise Between Gus and Andre
[04:20] Breaking Into Comedy: From the Hospital to the Open Mic
[05:40] The "Man Unit" Debate: Bald Men, Hairpieces, and Accidental Donations
[07:55] Community Work: Cultivate Initiatives, Beautification, and Shower Trucks
[10:15] Why Tacoma is the "Blackest Space" in the Pacific Northwest
[11:35] The Comedy Fraternity: Networking in the PNW Scene
[13:05] Accountability in the Team: Honesty vs. Fighting
[16:22] Meditation and Self-Care: Learning to Calm the Mind After War
[17:50] The Therapy Story: Why G Wade Refused the Prescription Pad
[18:45] Chadowboxx’s Blue Dolphin/Ecstasy Story and 2,000 Bars
[20:33] The Comedy Equation: Tragedy + Time = Comedy
[21:19] Black People and the Art of the Nickname (Big Ankles, Bullet Hole, and Musty Mike)
[25:55] The Infamous General Admission Blazer Game Story
[28:55] Bombing on Stage: Digging in on White Women and "The Legend" Story
[31:45] The Night G Wade Threw a Neighbor Off His Porch
[36:00] Navigating Divorce: 15 Years of Unspoken Issues and Amicable Transitions
[40:40] Cancel Culture in Comedy: What’s Actually "Cancelable"?
[43:40] Fatherhood: "Big G" vs. "Lil G" and Parenting Without Whooping
[46:55] Laughing When It's Inappropriate: Funeral Snoring and Backflip Fails
[48:35] Military Life: Joining the Army to Win an Argument with Mom
[49:45] Reception and Basic Training: Penicillin Shots and "Private Burger King"
[51:40] 68 Whiskey: From Healthcare Specialist to Combat Medic
[56:15] The Comedian Bullpen: Beef in Atlanta and LA Comedy Clubs
[58:15] Meeting Chris Paul (Without Knowing It)
[59:22] Life Lessons: Learning from Fools and Why Stupid People Get Old Too
[01:00:30] The Preservation Theory: Why Crackheads Live Forever
[01:04:40] Where to Find G Wade and His Designer Crack Shop
[01:05:55] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Hair & Body Care Treat Shampoo
[01:09:10] Outro: Connect with Nik B, Leigh, and Chadowboxx
Season 7 Sponsor Information
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Product Highlight: Treat Shampoo (Peppermint and Tea Tree invigorating treatment for dandruff and scalp health)
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IG: @MylaniByChadowboxx
For Additional Savings Use Code: LEIGH
Production & Editor
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December 16, 2025Lucky Number 7: The Recap
Welcome to Season 7, the lucky number! Host Leigh LaRie is joined by special guest host Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris (CEO of Mylani Vegan Hair & Body Care) for an exciting season premiere and recap of everything that's happened since Season 1.
Leigh and Charlisa discuss the latest news and journeys, including co-host Nik B.'s inspiring weight loss and gastric bypass revision journey! They dive into Season 6 favorites, celebrating the most hilarious and moving moments with guests like Reggie (Chocolate Dope), B Wall, Ferguson (Popcorn Papi), Chyna (the female entertainer), Art Williams, and Zach Bayer (Queen’s Court).
Charlisa also opens up about her personal growth since Season 1, focusing on self-care, healthy boundaries, and the challenges of dating as a successful, independent woman. Don't miss the dramatic and hilarious throwback to Charlisa's infamous Alpo Sloppy Joe story, which is still haunting everyone's childhood memories!
They preview the incredible lineup for Season 7, featuring guests like Tralice Lewis, G. Wade, Alexis McKinney, Crystal Chanel & Chef Kiara (Kitchen Killa), David Jefferson & Kela Jones (Returning Blaque to Love), Damala Badon (Cupcakes and Comebacks), and Martae Brown.
Tune in as they kick off Season 7—a season dedicated to wellness, growth, and living your best, most authentic life!
Episode Time Breakdown:
[00:00] Intro: Dirty Roses Podcast Season 7 Welcome
[01:04] Introducing Special Guest Host: Charlisa "Chadowboxx" Harris
[01:40] Nik B.'s Gastric Bypass Revision Journey & Wellness Talk
[03:20] The Mental Health/Behavioral Side of Weight Loss Surgery
[04:30] Season 1 Throwback: Charlisa's Infamous Alpo Sloppy Joe Story!
[07:10] The "Aha" Moment: Deciding to End a Relationship
[09:08] The RICO Sweep: How Leigh and Charlisa Met (And Got Blocked!)
[11:40] Charlisa’s Personal Growth & Challenges of Dating as an Independent Woman
[13:45] Product Highlight: Mylani Vegan Hair & Body Care Golden Indulgence Body Cream
[15:00] Self-Care Routines, Grounding, and Shower Moments
[18:35] Leigh's Journey with Life Coaching & Finding Peace
[22:25] Dating Challenges: The Quest vs. Courting Dynamic
[25:00] The Portland Dating Conquest & Podcast Fame Avoidance
[30:40] Charlisa's Ideal Partner: Videographer, Biggest Fan, and Non-Competitor
[34:30] Season 6 Recap Begins: Reggie (Chocolate Dope) & Condom Misinformation
[37:18] B Wall: Normalizing Black Fatherhood & The Cinder Block Story
[39:09] Ferguson (Popcorn Papi): Success, Sacrifice, and Finding the Right Partner
[44:26] Chyna (Female Entertainer) & The Male/Female Industry Contrast
[47:25] Kilaa & Nutz and Bosko: Couple Goals and Village Support
[49:25] Art Williams (Celebrity Barber) & The Bobos Song
[50:50] Zach Bayer (Queen’s Court): From Pastor to Reality TV
[55:00] Giving Leigh Her Flowers: Celebrating 7 Seasons of Growth
[57:50] Season 7 Guest Preview: Tralice Lewis, G. Wade, Alexis McKinney
[01:01:45] Crystal Chanel & Chef Kiara (Kitchen Killa)
[01:03:55] David Jefferson & Kela Jones (Returning Blaque to Love)
[01:05:50] Damala Badon (Cupcakes and Comebacks)
[01:06:47] Martae Brown (Northeast Portland Icon)
[01:08:35] Listener Letter Preview: The Picture!
[01:09:15] Where to Connect & Outro
Season 7 Sponsor Information
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Product Highlight: Golden Indulgence Body Cream (a super hydrating cream with Kupuasu Butter for hands and cuticles)
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IG: @MylaniByChadowboxx
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Production & Editor
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IG: @BetterDaysWest
Connect with Dirty Roses Podcast
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