Disagree better

Help yourself think clearly, make better decisions, and keep impulses in check with these 11 mental tricks.

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How I form “provisional theories” that can influence the trajectory of a conflict.

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Do you seem like a bad listener when you disagree? Yes, you do, even when you’re an ace listener. Here's why.

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Good problem-solving process is like a reliable GPS, helping us navigate a difficult conversation coherently.

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Venting anger doesn’t help you calm down and increases aggression. So why is the venting myth still embraced? And what’s better?

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Here's an exercise to help you identify your conflict hooks and increase emotional agility during difficult interactions.

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How knowing your conflict hooks helps reduce conflict in your life.

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One of the best ways to increase emotional agility in conflict is to recognize and manage your conflict hooks.

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What we do immediately after we express empathy helps or hinders the connection and alignment we’re trying to build.

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How to skip the drama and the rumination and raise a concern so they’ll actually listen.

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It’s tempting to tell people what they should do. It feels efficient, and it makes us feel helpful and wise. When we replace telling with asking, we can do something more powerful and, ultimately, more satisfying: Help people illuminate what’s important and generate effective solutions to problems.

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