Disagree better

Disagree better

By Tammy LenskiSociety & Culture
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  • 4 quick techniques to help you think straight in an argument

    When we feel overwhelmed by a difficult conversation, we can get emotionally swamped and lose access to our good conflict resolution, communication, and problem-solving skills. Here are four quick techniques you can use when conflict muddles your thinking and you want your good skills back.

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    6 min
  • The question that brings hamster wheel debates to a standstill

    Some debates, arguments, and bickering go on and on, without leading anywhere (except to more frustration). If you find yourself in this kind of debate, or are trying to stop others caught in one, here’s a single question that’s almost magical in its power to help.

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    7 min
  • Future-proof an agreement with a premortem

    When we’ve put in effort to solve a problem, we want our solution, decision, or agreement to have every chance at long-run success. Here’s a powerful way to improve our plan’s ability to stand the test of time: Go back to the future and test it with a premortem.

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    8 min
  • Anxiety about a difficult conversation? Try this.
    Pressure-filled situations like difficult conversations tax our working memory. That’s bad news, since working memory is crucial for reasoning, concentration, and understanding. But here’s the good news: There’s a specific type of brief writing activity that can both reduce anxiety about and boost performance under pressure.
    Show notes
    Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting It Right When You Have To by Sian Beilock
    For worriers, expressive writing cools brain on stressful tasks
    Worried about performing well under stress? Write it out
    The effect of expressive writing on the error-related negativity among individuals with chronic worry
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  • Anxiety about a difficult conversation? Try this.

    Pressure-filled situations like difficult conversations tax our working memory. That’s bad news, since working memory is crucial for reasoning, concentration, and understanding. But here’s the good news: There’s a specific type of brief writing activity that can both reduce anxiety about and boost performance under pressure.

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    6 min
  • The space between
    There s a space that changes form and scale as we navigate our personal and business relationships. It s the space between us, narrowing and softening when things are going well, widening and hardening in times of tension. The quality of our relationships, the degree of our happiness, and the success of our solutions are all influenced by The Space Between.
    Show notes
    The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt (amazon affiliate)
    More on “holding the space”
    Getting the conditions right by tweaking the environment
    Getting the conditions right by working on ourselves
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  • The space between

    There’s a space that changes form and scale as we navigate our personal and business relationships. It’s the space between us, narrowing and softening when things are going well, widening and hardening in times of tension. The quality of our relationships, the degree of our happiness, and the success of our solutions are all influenced by The Space Between.

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    5 min
  • Why you should make a habit of repeating this question

    Our solutions are only as good as our understanding of the problem. There’s a good question we can use to help discover a problem’s roots. And we can turn it into an even better question by employing it liberally — more liberally than most of us naturally do.

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    7 min
  • Join the resistance
    When we notice resistance, a typical response is to try persuading them out of their resistance. But that approach often causes more resistance, as they defend against our pushing. When we want to overcome resistance, there s a better way.
    Show notes
    The typical response to resistance (cartoon)
    A better approach to resistance (cartoon)
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  • A good way to overcome resistance

    When we notice resistance, a typical response is to try persuading them out of their resistance. But that approach often causes more resistance, as they defend against our pushing. When we want to overcome resistance, there’s a better way.

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    5 min

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