Disagree better

Disagree better

By Tammy LenskiSociety & Culture
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  • One intriguing reason blame feels hard to take

    The next time someone declines to take responsibility for words or actions that had a bad impact, don’t immediately assume it’s a flaw in their character. Maybe it’s just their protective brain doing its job.

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    4 min
  • How to say no persuasively
    Being able to say no is essential for good day-to-day negotiating. Yet it can evoke anxiety about appearing obstructive, unkind, or unhelpful. If you want a way to keep yourself from saying yes when you really do need to say no, pack this research-supported technique in your toolkit.
    Show notes
    Research citation, Journal of Consumer Research
    The research press release
    Flawless Consulting by Peter Block
    0 min
  • How to say no persuasively

    Being able to say no is essential for good day-to-day negotiating. Yet it can evoke anxiety about appearing obstructive, unkind, or unhelpful. If you want a way to keep yourself from saying yes when you really do need to say no, pack this research-supported technique in your toolkit.

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    5 min
  • 2 smart principles for resolving everyday disagreements
    Not all disagreements require long talks to resolve them sufficiently. Sometimes you can use a pre-agreed principle to get them done and get on with your day. Here are two worth considering for your workplace team or family.
    Show notes
    Tim Ferriss interviews David Heinemeier Hansson
    Rework
    Getting Real
    0 min
  • 2 smart principles for resolving everyday disagreements

    A meta-conversation is a conversation about a conversation — how it unfolded or how you’d like to approach it. Meta-conversations are useful for deciding how we want to handle everyday disagreements with loved ones or colleagues.

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    4 min
  • Think with your hands for better problem solving
    New research is challenging the notion that thinking, problem solving, and decision making take place strictly in the head. And finally giving me some credibility when placing interactive toys in the middle of my mediation table.
    Show notes
    Thinking with our hands can help find new ways of solving problems
    Fidget toy
    Magnetic desktop sculptures
    Lego bricks (also available in a snazzy chrome version)
    Tangrams
    Silly putty
    0 min
  • Think with your hands for better problem solving

    New research is challenging the notion that thinking, problem solving, and decision making take place strictly in the head. And finally giving me some credibility after years of placing interactive toys in the middle of my mediation table.

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    4 min
  • Before you send that email…
    There’s a difference between being justified in your response and the response being a good choice. Here’s a question I’ve found useful for gaining a little psychological distance in the heat of the moment and interrupting a response I might regret later.
    Show notes
    What am I trying to achieve?
    Will I even remember her existence in three months?
    More on psychological self-distancing
    0 min
  • The conflict stories we tell
    We tell stories about our conflicts. We tell them to our colleagues, our partners, our friends. Mostly, we tell them to ourselves. And we forget that these stories aren’t the story of the conflict, they’re our story of the conflict.
    0 min

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How we handle conflict has an impact on the resilience of our vital relationships, the caliber of our decisions, the success of our careers, and our peace of mind. Mediator, conflict resolution…

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