We think that our reality comes from what we do in life, and that is true, to some extent; but we forget that before the doing, there had to be an intention, a thought, an image in our mind of what we want to have, be, or create. Our continued attention and feeling about it, whether positive or negative, results in the drawing of the essence of it into our life. So our continued attention on something with a strong feeling about it is also the reason for things we don't want appearing in our life.