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Hey there! We're here to talk about the incredible INTJs and their awe-inspiring cognitive abilities! If you're lucky enough to have an INTJ in your life, you'll definitely know they have an amazing knack for spotting patterns and connections, making them absolute rockstars at setting ambitious goals and envisioning multiple paths to success.

However, their analytical thinking combined with their super high standards for themselves can trip them up, resulting in a pressure-cooker environment and allowing the Imposter Syndrome to rear its ugly head. You see, INTJs believe that anything less than perfection equals failure (you agree it is an impossible standard to meet, right?). When they inevitably fall short of this standard, they can feel like they are not living up to their own expectations and start doubting their abilities – while others, in the meantime, are inspired by the INTJ's achievements…

In today's episode, we'll delve into three key reasons why INTJs are plagued with the Imposter Syndrome – their impatience, the tendency to compare themselves to others and their discomfort with being human (those pesky human emotions!). We will also explore how it can lead to missed opportunities, fear of taking risks, and isolation. Join us for an insightful episode on overcoming Imposter Syndrome as an INTJ, filled with valuable advice to help you thrive both personally and professionally.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:49] Episode Introduction

● [04:33] Why Does the INTJ Experience Imposter Syndrome?

● [10:24] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on INTJs

● [34:57] Episode Gem

● [37:13] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· INTJs have an innate tendency to measure their own worth and progress by comparing themselves to others, particularly those they regard as more accomplished or skillful and coming up short. This comparative analysis contributes to the Imposter Syndrome as they feel they're not living up to the standards set by their peers. The looming shadow of perceived underperformance can weigh heavily on their minds.

· INTJs create paranoid stories about what people think about them and their ideas. Sharing themselves can cause them to feel so vulnerable that they are triggered into overanalyzing their interactions and looking for evidence that others believe they are weak or incompetent. They create scenarios in their minds where others judge them harshly, question their competence, or make fun of them behind their back.

· INTJs may have difficulty forming deep emotional bonds, showing vulnerability, or expressing their feelings. This emotional distance can make it challenging for them to seek help or support when faced with Imposter Syndrome. As a result, they may experience feelings of isolation and self-doubt, which can further reinforce their belief that they are undeserving of their achievements.

Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles are, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Oh, ENFPs! With their vivacious and captivating personalities, they effortlessly take center stage and light up every room they enter. Their infectious energy and unwavering optimism make them a magnet for people, and they have an innate ability to inspire and motivate others. ENFPs are often the life of the party, bringing a sense of fun and adventure wherever they go. They're not afraid to try new things, and their passion for life is contagious.

Here comes a plot twist though: despite all of their wonderful qualities, ENFPs are not immune to the insidious grip of Imposter Syndrome. When they experience Imposter Syndrome, they can become so consumed with trying to please everyone around them that they forget to take a step back and see their own worth. They may work tirelessly to show they are worthy of love and respect, but the fear of being exposed as a fraud can be crippling. This constant need for validation can be exhausting, leading to burnout and a lack of fulfillment.

In today's episode, we'll delve into three key reasons why ENFPs are plagued with the Imposter Syndrome – their constant need for approval, the tendency to personalize every situation and (accidental!) creation of chaos. We will also explore how it can lead to a tarnished reputation, difficulty maintaining healthy relationships, and overcompensating. And we've got a gem of a tip just for ENFPs: you are true superstars! Don't let self-doubt dim your sparkle – it's time to break free from the Imposter Syndrome.

Join us for an insightful episode on overcoming Imposter Syndrome as an ENFP, filled with valuable advice to help you thrive both personally and professionally.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:47] Episode Introduction

● [05:27] Why Does the ENFP Experience Imposter Syndrome?

● [08:21] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on ENFPs

● [32:54] Episode Gem

● [35:47] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· The absence of positive feedback and approval can be particularly challenging for ENFPs, as they have a propensity for self-referral and personalizing the behaviors of others. Coupled with their empathetic nature, sensitivity, and idealistic tendencies, this can lead them to feel as though they haven't achieved perfection if others don't respond as they had hoped or anticipated.

· Need for constant stimulation and their enthusiasm for generating ideas can make it difficult for ENFPs to focus on one project at a time, leading to procrastination and unfinished tasks. This habit can create chaos and reinforce Imposter Syndrome when they struggle to meet deadlines or complete projects.

· Self-abandonment and Imposter Syndrome are intricately connected for ENFPs, creating a complex web of emotions and behaviors that can significantly impact their well-being. This can manifest in their tendency to prioritize the needs of others and adapt to their emotional environment, often at the expense of their own authentic selves.

· Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles are, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Procrastination and perfectionism – what a perilous duo for anyone suffering from Imposter Syndrome. But for those with an INTP personality type, it's like a fatal blow! But why is that you ask? You see, the INTP personality type is characterized by an inquisitive nature and a desire to understand the world on a deep level. They value knowledge and expertise above all else, and they enjoy the challenge of intellectual debate and argumentation.

Here's the kicker, though: their thirst for knowledge and their competitive nature often causes them to be extremely critical of their own work, constantly questioning whether they've done things "correctly" or whether their work is up to (their own) incredibly high standards. This can make them feel like they're not good enough or that they're "faking it" in their field, even if they have plenty of evidence to prove otherwise.

In today's episode, we'll delve into the deadly duo of procrastination and perfectionism that plagues INTPs suffering from Imposter Syndrome. We'll explore how it can lead to a lack of confidence, difficulty forming connections, and even passive-aggressive behaviour. We'll also drop a gem for all INTPs suffering from the Imposter Syndrome that will help them escape the all-or-nothing trap that they may find themselves falling into too often for comfort.

Whether you're an INTP struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you overcome these challenges in both your personal and professional life.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [1:48] Episode Introduction

● [4:52] Why Does the INTP Experience Imposter Syndrome?

● [11:19] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on INTPs

● [30:26] Episode Gem

● [32:00] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· INTPs are known for their love of learning and exploration, which can sometimes lead them to procrastinate on tasks that they find uninteresting or uninspiring. When INTPs put off a task that they know they should be doing, they start to doubt their ability to do anything. This can lead to feelings of fraudulence or inadequacy as they start to question their own competence and ability to succeed.

· One of INTPs' main coping mechanisms is becoming passive-aggressive and argumentative. They feel both defensive and protective of their knowledge and expertise. Passive-aggressive behavior causes them to engage in behavior that is intentionally undermining or resistant, creating a negative work or social environment, and limiting INTPs' ability to build meaningful connections and collaborate effectively with others.

· INTPs have difficulty sharing themselves and are notorious for keeping their thoughts and feelings to themselves, which can lead to a lack of curiosity about others' lives and a struggle to share their own. When they do open up, it's awkward, and instead of sharing their feelings, they may unintentionally point out faults in others, making them appear insensitive and uncaring.

· Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles is, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Imagine walking into a room and feeling an electric buzz in the air - that's what it feels like when an ENTP is nearby! These are the people who make things happen with an energy that's contagious and an enthusiasm that's impossible to ignore. They're constantly seeking ways to shake things up, push the limits and try something new - they have a knack for thinking ahead and seeing future possibilities that others can't even fathom.

But here's the catch: this same strength is also their biggest weakness, leading to their version of the dreaded Imposter Syndrome. You see, ENTPs set the bar incredibly high for themselves. They envision all the possibilities for success and achievement and strive to make them a reality. However, their focus on the future causes them to feel like they're falling short in the present (especially with those pesky little details that fall through the cracks!). They worry that they're not making enough progress toward their goals. It's like they're always trying to run before they can even walk!

In today's episode, we'll explore the trio of symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ENTPs - constantly seeking validation, the pursuit of perfectionism, and the need for non-stop stimulation - and how they lead to a lack of career direction, impulsive decision making and even relationship issues. We'll also drop a gem for all ENTPs suffering from the Imposter Syndrome that will help them stay the course during challenging times or when some bright, shiny new idea compels them to drop everything in pursuit of their perfect future.

Whether you're an ENTP struggling with Imposter Syndrome or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

• [2:52] Episode Introduction

• [3:48] Why Does the ENTP Experience Imposter Syndrome?

• [12:47] Impact of Imposter Syndrome on ENTPs

• [29:55] Episode Gem

• [32:36] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• ENTPs have a need for recognition, and they seek affirmation and praise from those around them. They thrive on the attention of others, and their self-worth is often tied to the level of external validation they receive. This need for approval can be both a blessing and a curse, as it drives them to excel and achieve great things, but it can also lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

• While the intellectual curiosity and openness to new experiences of the ENTP can be an asset, it can also create a sense of uncertainty and insecurity. They may question their own knowledge and understanding, doubt themselves, and double down on the need for positive feedback and validation from others.

• As high-achievers, ENTPs often hold themselves to incredibly high standards, striving for excellence in everything they do. However, because this constant striving for perfection is self-protective and inauthentic, it can also lead to a fear of failure and a sense of not measuring up.

• Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles is, visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us.

Hey there, our dependable, hard-working ISFJs! Have you ever found yourselves striving for perfection at work, even when no one else seems to be holding you to such impossible standards? Do you avoid taking on new challenges because the thought of failure is just too overwhelming – and you're just sure you WILL FAIL? If so, we are saddened to inform you that you are likely suffering from the Imposter Syndrome!

Yes, that nagging feeling that always seems to be lurking in the back of our minds. It's the fear that keeps us from taking on new challenges, going after that promotion, asking for feedback, or even speaking up in a meeting. But fear not, ISFJs, as it is possible to break free from the Imposter Syndrome, learn to embrace being outside of the comfort zone and becoming who you are meant to be!

In today's episode, we'll explore some common triggers and symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ISFJs, such as fear of failure, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and how they lead to career stagnation, burnout, and even relationship issues. We'll also provide some practical strategies and tools that ISFJs can use to start building more confidence in themselves and their abilities and to start living more authentically.

Whether you're an ISFJ struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and tips to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life. So, tune in now to learn more!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:15] Episode Introduction

● [09:11] Why Does the ISFJ Experience the Imposter Syndrome?

● [15:43] Negative Impact of the Imposter Syndrome on ISFJs

● [34:38] Episode Gem

● [36:58] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· ISFJs are the epitome of dependability and hard work in the workplace. They are known for their methodical approach and attention to detail, which makes them the ideal candidate for roles requiring meticulousness and accuracy. However, their fear of failure can hold them back from pursuing new challenges or taking on additional responsibilities.

· The root of ISFJs' Imposter Syndrome lies in their desire for external validation and their belief that they must constantly prove their worth to others. ISFJs, known for their strong desire to please others and their fear of not meeting expectations, often experience Imposter Syndrome. Even when no one is criticizing them, they tend to constantly criticize themselves and believe they have to be perfect in everything they do.

· ISFJs interpret feedback as criticism, which can cause them to become defensive or shut down completely. When they receive feedback, it can trigger a strong emotional response, and they may take it as confirmation of their worst fears - that they are not meeting the expectations of others. Because of this, ISFJs may avoid seeking feedback altogether or may become upset and shut down when they receive it.

· Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles are, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us directly.

Let us paint you a picture: as an ENTJ, you try to set high standards for yourself and your team. But sometimes, it feels like your team just DOESN'T GET IT! I mean, you've given them clear instructions, right? So, when they drop the ball, you have every right just to lose it. I mean, how can they be SO clueless? Don't they realize how important this project is?! It's like they're not even trying.

But as the dust settles, the self-doubt creeps in. Now you become anxious, wondering if you lashed out because you were trying to make yourself look better by putting team members down, projecting your incompetence onto them. You are ashamed, embarrassed even, and to avoid further discomfort, you put your competent Imposter Syndrome face back on and sweep it all under the rug. Yeah, the Imposter Syndrome persona of the ENTJ can be a real doozy!

In today's episode, we'll explore some common triggers and symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ENTJs, such as being unable to live up to their own vision of themselves, negative impact on their reputation and workaholism. We'll also provide some practical strategies and tools that ENTJs can use to start building more confidence in themselves and their abilities and to start living more authentically.

Whether you're an ENTJ struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and tips to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life. So, tune in now to learn more!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:18] Episode Introduction

● [02:30] Why Does the ENTJ Experience the Imposter Syndrome?

● [16:34] Negative Impact of the Imposter Syndrome on ENTJs

● [26:18] Episode Gem

● [28:29] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· For ENTJs, the Imposter Syndrome can be a particularly tricky thing to deal with because they're known for their confidence and go-getter attitude and their inability to ask anyone for help. It's a real challenge for them because these feelings of inadequacy can pop up even when they've done everything right and achieved great things.

· Despite the ENTJ's confident and assertive demeanour and achievement orientation, they are not immune to Imposter Syndrome. Their tendency to prioritize competence and strive to achieve their future vision for themselves can lead to an overuse of their strengths, resulting in a lack of development in their lesser preferred functions.

· When an ENTJ feels like they don't know something or can't handle everything they envision they should be able to, they beat themselves up over it. They actually believe they should know things they have never learned and will blame themselves for not anticipating what could never have been foreseen.

· Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us directly.

Imagine this: you're an ISTJ - a natural planner who is diligent in getting things done. You have your systems, processes and routines in place and you're crushing it even when things get crazy at work. And then, out of nowhere, this pesky co-worker of yours suggests some new automated system that seems sketchy at best, that is supposed to "help everyone". You're all about keeping things as they are (they work fine, so what's the point?!), but it seems like everyone else is cheering for this new idea. Does that ring a bell?

To most, ISTJs might seem like they have everything together, with their meticulous planning and attention to detail. But deep down, they can struggle with feeling like they don't measure up. The Imposter Syndrome hits hard for ISTJs, who may worry that they don't deserve their success or that they're just one mistake away from being exposed as a fraud. This fear can make them dread change, as they worry that trying something new might expose their weaknesses.

In today's episode, we'll explore some common triggers and symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ISTJs, such as fear of change, relationship issues and loss of career opportunities. We'll also provide some practical strategies and tools that ISTJs can use to start building more confidence in themselves and their abilities and to start living more authentically.

Whether you're an ISTJ struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and tips to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life. So, tune in now to learn more!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:46] Episode Introduction

● [02:40] Why Does the ISTJ Experience the Imposter Syndrome?

● [22:45] Negative Impact of the Imposter Syndrome on ISTJs

● [29:02] Episode Gem

● [32:23] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· ISTJs work hard and are often the unsung heroes who keep things running smoothly in the community, their organization or family. Despite this, they frequently catastrophize about not pulling their weight or living in fear that someone's going to say, "You're not doing enough, you slacker!"

· ISTJs work hard to maintain the status quo due to their need for security. Any suggestion of change can trigger the Imposter Syndrome's Saboteur. They fear that any change will expose them as an imposter who is not qualified for their job. Despite their desire to comply and follow, ISTJs can become immovable objects. Their fear is not the change itself, but the potential humiliation of being exposed as incompetent.

· ISTJs are naturally inclined to follow a hierarchy. When they have the Imposter Syndrome they feel inadequate and doubt their abilities, leading them to seek reassurance and validation from others, especially authority figures. They may feel more comfortable taking orders and complying with rules rather than making decisions on their own.

· Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, reach out to us directly.

Let's paint a picture: you're an ESTJ - a born leader who always gets things done. You have a clear idea of what success looks like, and you hustle hard to make it happen. But deep down, you feel like a phony. You wonder if you're really as good as people say you are and if you're a step away from being exposed as a fraud. Oof, it's a gut-wrenching feeling, isn't it?

But here's the thing: the Imposter Syndrome doesn't discriminate, hitting all personality types, even our bold, authoritarian ESTJ (aka the Leader Striving Style). Despite their practicality, organization, and natural leadership abilities, ESTJs can still feel like they're not as competent as others perceive them to be. The Imposter Syndrome can be a real hurdle for ESTJs to overcome, leading to a cycle of self-doubt and anxiety.

In today's episode, we'll explore some common triggers and symptoms of Imposter Syndrome in ESTJs, such as perfectionism, fear of failure, and a tendency to downplay their own accomplishments. We'll also provide some practical strategies and tools that ESTJs can use to start building more confidence in themselves and their abilities, and to start living more authentically. Whether you're an ESTJ struggling with Imposter Syndrome, or you know someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and tips to help you overcome these challenges and thrive in both your personal and professional life. So, tune in now to learn more!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

● [01:18] Episode Introduction

● [02:30] Why Does the ESTJ Experience the Imposter Syndrome?

● [16:34] Negative Impact of the Imposter Syndrome on ESTJs

● [26:18] Episode Gem

● [28:29] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• When ESTJs are acting from their Imposter Syndrome Persona, they behave like they need to handle everything on their own. They don't want to ask for help, because they feel like that'll make them look weak or like they don't know what they're doing. They put a lot of pressure on themselves to be perfect, and they don't let anyone else do things for them because they're afraid they'll mess it up.
• The ESTJ is often fueled by a competitive drive to be the best of the best, but this can be taken to an unhealthy extreme when the Imposter Syndrome sets in. Deep down, they may fear that if they take a break or slow down, they'll fall behind or lose their hard-won position of competence. This fear can be pretty intense, driving them to keep pushing themselves, even when they're exhausted.
• The fear of showing feelings causes ESTJs to struggle in forming meaningful relationships. The constant pressure to prove themselves and maintain a strong, competent image can make it difficult for them to let their guard down and reveal their true selves to others. ESTJs may avoid introspection and self-reflection, which can prevent them from recognizing their vulnerabilities.
• Join us throughout our series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with behavioural or relationship dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, and you need help, reach out to us directly.

Have you ever had a dreadful thought that perhaps you're not as competent or talented as others think you are? Or that, despite all the blood, sweat and tears, you're not worthy of the success you've achieved, and it's just a matter of time before you're finally exposed as a fraud? If so, you're not alone. These thoughts are actually quite common and even have a name. We present to you… the Imposter Syndrome. Yes, it's that sneaky little voice in our heads that can make us doubt ourselves and our abilities, even when there's significant evidence to the contrary.

Individuals with the Imposter Syndrome struggle with recognizing their own achievements and talents and instead attribute their success to luck, timing, or even deception. No matter your personality, type or style, any one of us can find ourselves struggling with the Imposter Syndrome as it is a developmental delay. According to the American Psychological Association, 70 percent of people will experience it at some point in their lives.

In today's episode, we launch into the kickoff for our newest series of conversations around the Imposter Syndrome, and how it shows up in each of the 16 MBTI personality types and 8 Striving Styles. We'll also share our own personal experiences with the Imposter Syndrome and how we've grappled with it (and ultimately learnt to conquer it!) Our stories will give you a glimpse into our own journeys and offer valuable insights into why it's so important to power past it. So, join us as we tackle the Imposter Syndrome head-on and start on the path to greater self-awareness and self-acceptance. You won't want to miss it!

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IN THIS EPISODE:

• [00:51] Episode Introduction
• [02:02] What Is the Imposter Syndrome?
• [11:47] The Imposter Syndrome & Leadership
• [14:33] Why It's Important to Power Past the Imposter Syndrome
• [26:23] Episode Gem
• [28:07] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

· Our childhood conditioning has a huge impact on our self-worth and how we tend to neglect ourselves as a result. We become imposters, trying to fit into the mold that our parents have created for us, often suppressing our true needs. As a result, we don't live up to our full potential and remain feeling "not enough". It is essential to learn how to prioritize nurturing ourselves, rather than worrying about fitting in or pleasing others.

· The Imposter Syndrome can be a pervasive force that seeps into every aspect of our lives, causing anxiety, stress, and even a sense of feeling overwhelmed. It can manifest itself in our careers, relationships, and personal endeavors, slowly eroding our confidence and self-worth. Overcoming the Imposter Syndrome means acknowledging and accepting our vulnerabilities and allowing ourselves to be soft and gentle, which can be difficult in a world that values strength and toughness.

· Don't forget to join us as we kick off our new series on how the Imposter Syndrome shows up in each of the 16 MBTI types (or 8 Striving Styles). If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with behavioural or relationship dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, and you need help, reach out to us directly.

The season of love is upon us! Time to indulge in all swoon-worthy matters: heart-shaped jewellery, romantic candle-lit dinners, red roses, chocolate covered strawberries… Except your partner just texted you they will be working late tonight (likely masking their discomfort with all things 'touchy feely') but will buy you the same boring flowers they do every year; you also just realized you forgot to buy a dozen ingredients for your home-made dinner that seemed so great in your fantasies but actually takes 6 hours to prepare, and you are about to open that bottle of wine and drink it in the kitchen on your own. Sounds familiar?

Truth be told, the one true culprit to such situations is… how our brains are organized. We each have a Romance Style: our own unique way of being romantic and how we like to be romanced by others. Not understanding our Romance Style or that of our partner is what leads to disappointment and frustration, especially during the hype of Valentine's Day. Knowing our Romance Styles lets us define expectations for our relationships without being burdened by the ideals fostered through society.

In today's episode we'll give you a taste of the Romance Styles of the 8 Striving Styles and 16 Personality Types. We'll be talking a little about each of their Relationship Styles and how they are likely to woo their lover on Valentine's Day. We'll also add some personal and client examples on this topic and offer some tips for each Style on how to enhance this romantic celebration. Tune in to hear all about how knowing your style, your predominant emotional needs and those of your partner sets you up for healthy loving relationships, with or without the romance.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

• [01:49] Episode Introduction
• [03:03] What Are Romance Styles?
• [14:13] Leader (ESTJ, ENTJ)
• [16:09] Intellectual (INTP, ISTP)
• [18:34] Performer (ENTP, ENFP)
• [21:38] Visionary (INTJ, INFJ)
• [25:06] Socializer (ENFJ, ESFJ)
• [27:52] Artist (INFP, ISFP)
• [31:50] Adventurer (ESTP, ESFP)
• [33:40] Stabilizer (ISTJ, ISFJ)
• [36:27] Episode Gem
• [39:03] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Humans have an innate need for connection and affection, and romance serves as a means to fulfill those needs. Romance provides emotional intimacy, a sense of security, and a feeling of being loved and valued. It also helps to foster a deeper and stronger bond between two people and can bring a sense of joy, excitement, and playfulness to life. However, when it comes to romance, one size doesn't fit all.
• People need to see romance as a partnership. The notion that you should not have to tell your partner what you need leads only to a cycle of disappointment and disillusionment with love and with your partner. The focus needs to be on creating rituals of love and romance that have meaning for each person in the relationship.
• If you are not sure what your Striving Styles / MBTI type is yet, make sure to visit www.whoareyoumeanttobe.com to complete the assessment today! Remember, if you need help dealing with behavioural or relationship dysfunctions at work or in your personal life, and you need help, reach out to us directly.

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