Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor

Do you really need to prepare for Family Court Services (FCS) mediation? If you know your children, understand your custody concerns, and already have a parenting plan in mind, you might think the answer is no. But that assumption could be a costly mistake.

In this episode of Divorce and Child Custody Discussion, Brian A. Victor, family law attorney, licensed marriage and family therapist, and former San Diego Superior Court Family Court Services mediator, explains why preparation is so important even for parents who believe they’re ready.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why knowing your children doesn’t necessarily mean you’re prepared for FCS mediation.
• How being a good parent differs from effectively communicating your concerns to a mediator.
• Why focusing on past conflicts rather than your children’s best interests can undermine productive discussions.
• Why having an attorney or already agreeing on custody doesn’t eliminate the need for preparation.
• How understanding the mediation process can help you communicate more confidently and effectively.
• What you should consider before attending your Family Court Services appointment.

Whether you’re approaching your first FCS mediation or returning to address custody concerns, this episode offers valuable insights into why preparation matters.

Remember: Confidence and preparation are not the same thing. You may know your children better than anyone else, but that doesn’t mean you automatically know how to navigate Family Court Services.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explores when should you actually modify a parenting plan. Listen to a practical, child-focused discussion for parents navigating custody and co-parenting as their families continue to evolve.

Attorney Victor discusses how parents can recognize when it may be time to revisit an existing parenting plan. He explains the difference between an occasional scheduling problem and an ongoing pattern that may signal the need for change, while emphasizing the importance of keeping the focus on the child rather than simply on what either parent wants.

Drawing on his experience mediating thousands of child custody cases, Brian discusses changing school and activity schedules, a child’s evolving needs, parental work and life changes, communication issues, and the role a child’s expressed preferences may play. He also explains why modifying a parenting plan does not automatically have to mean another court battle.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explores why parenting plans should focus on the needs of children while also allowing families to adapt to change.

Drawing on his experience as a family law attorney, mediator, and former Family Court Services mediator, Brian discusses the risks of trying to predict too far into the future, why parents can become overly focused on percentages and 50/50 schedules, the importance of effective co-parenting communication, and a simple question parents can ask when evaluating a parenting plan:

“Does this make my child’s life easier or harder?”

Whether you are currently going through a divorce or child custody case, considering modifying an existing parenting plan, or simply trying to improve your co-parenting relationship, this episode offers practical, child-focused guidance for creating a parenting plan that works for your family today while recognizing that tomorrow may look different.

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discusses the importance of reviewing custody orders, planning ahead, communicating effectively, and remaining focused on the child’s best interests. Topics in this episode include out-of-state and international travel, summer camps and activities, vacation scheduling, and common mistakes parents make that can escalate conflict. 

Whether you’re a parent currently navigating a custody arrangement or simply looking for ways to improve your co-parenting relationship, this episode provides valuable insights and strategies to help create a smoother, less stressful summer for everyone involved. The goal is simple: keep the focus on the children and help them enjoy a summer filled with positive experiences and lasting memories.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explores why your attorney shouldn’t be the one preparing you for Family Court Services. He explains why a professional should prepare you for your Family Court Services session.

Attorney Victor discusses why not all mediation preparation is the same. He explains what parents should consider before one of the most important conversations in their custody case. Brian tells why this unique process requires a specialized approach and how parents can make informed decisions when getting ready their Family Court Services session. 

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides reasons why some attorneys choose to outsource mediation preparation and why more of them should. Learn how parents can ensure they are truly ready for this critical stage of their custody case. Attorney Victor explains how the right guidance can help parents communicate more effectively.

Whether you’re a parent currently navigating a custody arrangement or simply looking for ways to improve your co-parenting relationship, this episode provides valuable insights and strategies to help create a smoother, less stressful summer for everyone involved. The goal is simple: keep the focus on the children and help them enjoy a summer filled with positive experiences and lasting memories.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explores the most common summer custody issues and offers practical guidance to help parents navigate them successfully. As summer approaches, many divorced and separated parents begin making plans for vacations, travel, camps, and family activities. While these experiences can create wonderful memories for children, they can also lead to disagreements about parenting time, travel arrangements, communication expectations, and schedule modifications.

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discusses the importance of reviewing custody orders, planning ahead, communicating effectively, and remaining focused on the child’s best interests. Topics in this episode include out-of-state and international travel, summer camps and activities, vacation scheduling, and common mistakes parents make that can escalate conflict. 

Whether you’re a parent currently navigating a custody arrangement or simply looking for ways to improve your co-parenting relationship, this episode provides valuable insights and strategies to help create a smoother, less stressful summer for everyone involved. The goal is simple: keep the focus on the children and help them enjoy a summer filled with positive experiences and lasting memories.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explains the 10 biggest mistakes parents make in child custody cases.  He provides insight into what is in the best interests of your child. Attorney Victor also discusses the importance of following court orders.

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discussion about how speaking negatively about the other parent to the child can affect your custody case. Brian tells the listener that parents need to avoid making emotional decisions in custody matters. He describes what judges often notice most during custody hearings. Attorney Victor explains how to ensure you do not make the 10 biggest mistakes parents make in child custody cases.  

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this special podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor is joined by Carol Waldman, Founder and Director of the Waldman Way. They discuss what neurodivergence looks like in children and young adults. They further discuss that structure is critical for these individuals and why structure is mandatory when creating parenting plans in these situations. Attorney Victor explains how divorce and child custody issues can provide additional stress for families with neurodivergent children.

Attorney Victor also discusses the emotional issues parents deal with in relation to neurodivergent children. The conversation moves to how these concepts translate into real-world parenting plans for families with neurodivergent children and young adults. 

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Carol Waldman is the parent of a neurodivergent son and Founder and Director of The Waldman Way, which provides resources for families with neurodivergent children and young adults. Carol has previously worked as a Field Representative in the California State Legislature. She is now channeling her policy expertise and advocacy experience into advancing legislation and programs that better support neurodivergent young adults as they transition out of school-based services and into independent adulthood.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explains the 3 mistakes that can destroy your custody case.  He provides insight into the emotional reality of custody cases. Attorney Victor also discusses the emotional issues parents deal with during their separation or divorce.

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discussion about how you speak about the other parent can affect your custody case. Brian tells the listener that everything they say can matter to the judge in a custody case. He mentions that the court looks at written documentation especially as it relates to reactive communication. Attorney Victor explains how to ensure you do not make the 3 mistakes that can destroy your custody case.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explains the moment your custody case actually begins.  He provides insight into the fact that your custody case begins prior to ever stepping into a courtroom. Attorney Victor also discusses that judges see parents’ patterns not their intentions. 

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discussion of the biggest mistake parents make early on in their custody case. Brian tells the listener that everything they say can matter to the judge in a custody case. He mentions that the court focuses on the best interests of the child so you should too.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser, YouTube and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.

In this podcast episode, San Diego divorce and child custody attorney and mediator, Brian A. Victor discusses child custody and divorce matters. Specifically, he explains why FCS prep is mandatory and not optional.  He provides insight into the FCS process and how the FCS recommendation carries enormous weight. Attorney Victor also discusses the biggest myths about FCS. 

Listen to Attorney Brian A. Victor as he provides a discussion of the most common mistakes parents make when attending their FCS session. Brian tells the listener about what FCS prep actually does and how he can help parents prepare for their FCS session. He mentions the cost of not preparing for your FCS session.

Attorney Brian A. Victor has experience both in the field of psychology as well as in divorce and child custody in San Diego. He worked at Family Court Services in San Diego for more than 11 years where he created and recommended to family court judges parenting plans for parents unable to reach agreement on a child custody plan. Attorney Victor is also a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California. He is an Adjunct Professor of Law at Purdue Global Law School.

Divorce and Child Custody Discussion with Attorney Brian A. Victor was named one of the Top 15 Child Custody Podcasts You Must Follow by Feedspot and one of the Top 100 Divorce Podcasts, one of the Top 40 Mediation Podcasts. 

This podcast is ranked Number 1 in a list of the Top 30 Child Custody Podcasts by Million Podcasts.

Remember to subscribe to Attorney Victor’s podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Deezer, Podchaser and wherever you listen to your podcasts so as not to miss any important discussions regarding divorce and child custody.

The information provided in this podcast is to inform rather than to provide therapeutic or legal advice and nothing in this podcast creates an attorney-client relationship. 

This podcast contains a sample of “We Just Begun” (C) by King B.A.V. Published by King BAV Music ASCAP Used by permission. All rights reserved.