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In this episode, I welcome back Sarah Miley, an experienced crisis advocate, trauma healing, and lifestyle design coach. Sarah discusses her IFS (Internal Family Systems) informed approach to trauma healing. She explains the concept of parts work and its relation to self-compassion and healing. We dive into generational trauma and how it affects individuals. Sarah guides Valeska (and you!) in an exercise to help identify and communicate with parts within oneself. Sarah offers listeners a free IFS session to experience for themselves. Check for the info below! 👇

01:43 What is IFS (Internal Family Systems)?

04:00 What happens when the managers take charge?

04:38 Parts Work

07:04 How Sara Works With her Clients Using IFS

07:36 Separating the Part and the Self

09:08 Breathing Tools To Feel Safe

20:19 Generational Trauma & Epigenetics 

25:20 The Founder of IFS (Dick Schwartz-No Bad Parts)

Where to Find Sara Miley, CTCP-A, IFSOwner/Coach Full Circle Wellspring, Founder/Coachsultant Personalized Trauma Healing System™

Website - www.fullcirclewellspring.com, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, Host: Trauma Survivorhood Podcast

Sara’s Gifts to Divorce Dividends Listeners:

Book a complimentary 30-min no-obligation discovery call. 

Free 60 minute IFS Session! Sara was so excited by the podcast, that she is offering Divorce Dividends listeners an exclusive! If you want to try IFS just like I did, Sars is offering one free IFS 60 minute session with you to dive in. You can get to know a couple of your parts and see how that might alleviate some things for you. Just to give it a try! Send her an email at [email protected] and mention Divorce Dividends.

Sara will be speaking at the RISE UP FROM TRAUMA conference in October. 

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In this episode, Sarah shares her profound journey of self-discovery post-divorce. Sarah describes how societal and familial expectations led her to live a life that wasn't truly hers and how she eventually realized this disconnect after her divorce. Through this process, she discovered somatic therapy and the importance of understanding and feeling emotions within the body rather than just thinking about them. Sarah highlights her transformative experience in learning to identify and process her emotions genuinely. She also discusses how this new approach has positively impacted her current relationships and overall wellbeing. Key insights include the importance of connecting with one's true self, the role of somatic therapy in personal healing, and practical advice on navigating interpersonal relationships after a significant life transition. This episode offers valuable perspectives for anyone going through a major life change, particularly divorce.

Check for the info below! 👇

Where to Find Sarah Schweppe, MSSA 

Website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Blog

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In this lighthearted yet honest episode, Valeska and Matty dive into what it’s really like to date after divorce — the awkward starts, the lessons learned, and the unexpected humor along the way. From parenting plans and mediation mishaps to first-date jitters and post-COVID dating norms, they share their personal experiences navigating love, identity, and authenticity in a whole new chapter of life.

In this episode:

• How divorce reshapes your sense of self — and your dating expectations
• The emotional (and sometimes hilarious) realities of dating apps after 40
• Navigating parenting plans and new partners with respect and clarity
• Why “going Dutch” turned out to be a defining moment
• Finding connection again — without losing yourself

Whether you’re single, re-partnered, or still deciding if you’re ready to date again, this conversation reminds you that love after divorce isn’t just possible — it can be deeply authentic, surprisingly funny, and beautifully human.

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In this episode, transformational leadership mentor Joy Taylor discusses the importance of maintaining one's authenticity and self-respect within relationships. Joy, a seasoned author and coach, shares insights from her personal experiences, including overcoming two significant relationships to find happiness in her current marriage. Key topics include the significance of blending love and truth, rebuilding self-connection, and the importance of 'courageous conversations.' Joy provides practical tips on how to engage in honest dialogue, set boundaries, and harness the lessons learned from past relationships to cultivate a more fulfilling life and career. Listeners will also learn about the concept of radically honest self-inquiry and the power of emotional expression as integral to healing and personal growth. Check for more info below! 👇

Where to Find Joy Taylor, Companion Guide in Awakening: [email protected] 

Website www.ASoulInspiredLife.com, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube 

YouTube Series: Awakening With Joy

Joy’s Gifts to Divorce Dividends Listeners: You can find a list of Joy’s resources HERE.

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In this episode, financial advisor Phil Weiss shares his personal and professional journey, highlighting how his early life experiences shaped his career in wealth management for women. Phil discusses his commitment to empowering women to take control of their finances, drawing from his personal experiences with financial instability. He explains the concept of registered life planning, its principles, and its importance in achieving financial fulfillment. Key topics include the significance of fiduciary advisors, practical budgeting tips, and the emotional aspects of financial planning, especially for women post-divorce. Phil also provides actionable steps for better financial management and introduces a list of resources. Check below for the links to each one!

07:36 RLP: Registered Life Planner  

09:04 E.V.O.K.E.

11:51 What is a Fiduciary and why is that important To You? 

14:33  How Women Can Get Empowered With Money

16:05 The Fear of Budgeting 

17:56 Flipping the Script on How You Talk to Yourself About Money

20:14 1 Easy Thing You Can Do To Empower Yourself With Your Money  

22:04 The Basic 50/30/20 Approach to Budgeting

22:38 Pulling Together Your Financial Affidavit

23:25 Tips On Ways To Keep Tabs On Your Spending

24:45 Are Credit Cards Bad?

25:58 Pay Yourself First 

27:12 How To Get In Touch With Phil

Where to Find Phil Weiss, Apprise Wealth Founder | CFA, CPA, RLP® 

Website , LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, Youtube, Blog 

Phil’s Gifts to Divorce Dividends Listeners:

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Divorce Preparation Guide CLICK HERE
Weekly Blog CLICK HERE
5 Things Every Woman Should Know About Finances CLICK HERE
Video Tutorial: Creating Your First Single-Income Budget After Divorce: A Step-by-Step Guide CLICK HERE

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THIS EPISODE HAS CONTENT RELATED TO VARIOUS TYPES OF TRAUMA. THIS MAY BE TRIGGERING. PLEASE CONSIDER BEFORE LISTENING.

In this episode, we welcome Sarah Miley, a crisis advocate, trauma healing, and lifestyle design coach. Sarah explains the complexities of C-PTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and its impacts on individuals throughout different stages of life. She delves into the mechanisms of trauma, explains why it is not the event itself but the response to it that constitutes the trauma, and offers insights into self-regulation techniques and expanding one's window of capacity to better handle stressors. Sarah's compassionate approach includes real-life examples and essential tools that can help anyone looking to understand and heal from their trauma. Stay tuned for part two, which will focus on the IFS (Internal Family Systems) informed approach to trauma healing!

09:38 The Window of Capacity [How & When You are Safe]

14:33 Diminishing Stigmas: It Shouldn't Have Been Me

17:19 Example of Moving Through the Shame

Where to Find Sara Miley, CTCP-A, IFSOwner/Coach Full Circle Wellspring, 

Founder/Coachsultant Personalized Trauma Healing System™

www.fullcirclewellspring.com, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, Host, Trauma Survivorhood Podcast

Sara’s Gifts to Divorce Dividends Listeners: Book a complimentary 30-min no-obligation discovery call. Access Sara’s Free Resources on her website, fullcirclewellspring.com. The Resources tab on the home page is a wealth of information. Follow this LINK for a comprehensive guide to nervous system regulation with tools and tips you can implement right away to help you work through your trauma. 

Upcoming Offering: Sara will be speaking at the RISE UP FROM TRAUMA conference in October. 

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Shanelle van Zyl delves into being 'good enough' rather than perfect with your money. We talk about financial management, exploring personal stories & strategies for smarter spending, investments, & maintaining a healthy money mindset. She shares practical tips  emphasizing that self-worth is independent of net worth & financial success.

Shanelle van Zyl, Founder of Purse Sense | Financial Wellness Coach for Expat Educators www.purse-sense.com, LinkedIn, Facebook, Currency of Me Podcast

Email me [email protected] or DM on LinkedIn or Facebook. 

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For those looking to start 2026 on a powerful note, check out her "Money Reset Session." It starts on October 6, 2025, with a 1-off 90 min call where you'll walk away with clarity & direction. By the end of the session you'll have a clear 60 day plan & know what to focus on. The following is included: personalized money snapshot, tracking tool to start implementing immediately, session recording, & 1 week of private coaching. Register HERE!

Book A Complimentary Money Clarity Call. Start your fresh financial chapter today. Download her free guide, 3 Easy Steps to Start Your Financial Journey. It’s a simple, powerful way to take control of your money, no matter where you are in the world.
Her 3-month “Heal Your Money Story” helps you get crystal clear on your numbers & set up healthy money habits, while her 6-month “Financial Stress to Wealth Success” takes you from feeling in control to actively building long-term wealth.

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In this episode of Divorce Dividends, host Valeska Bacon and her companion, Matt, dive into their experiences and reflections on weddings pre and post-divorce. They share personal stories from their own weddings, discuss whether they would remarry, and explore the emotions involved in attending weddings after going through a divorce. The conversation touches on the societal pressures of marriage, the evolution of their views on weddings, and how their past relationships have shaped their current perspectives. Listeners will find a mix of deep insights, raw authenticity, and a touch of humor as Valeska and Matt navigate this complex subject.

03:37 What's it like going to a wedding after divorce?   

05:32 What it's like for Valeska to go to weddings now?

11:51 Invited to My Former Husband's Family's Wedding? WHAT?!?

12:27 Why can you quit a job but not a relationship?

13:40 The Big Wedding

14:41 Going Into a Marriage Thinking You're Gonna Get a Divorce

15:30 Do Men Dream of Getting Married?

17:45 Releasing the idea of being married and then it came to me…

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In this episode of Divorce Dividends, Valeska shares her experience of attending her youngest daughter's high school graduation. She reflects on her emotional preparation, the detailed planning with her daughter, and the unexpected challenges that arose during the event, including last-minute seating arrangements and weather disruptions. ⛈️ Yup. 

Valeska also discusses the dynamics of interacting with her ex-husband's family and how she managed to maintain composure. She emphasizes the importance of planning, communication, and self-care when handling milestone events post-divorce.

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In this episode of Divorce Dividends, Valeska interviews Heather Prince, a spiritual relationship coach with over 30 years of experience. Heather specializes in helping women heal after divorce by breaking free from repeating unhealthy relationship patterns. She discusses the importance of reprogramming the 'Love Blueprint,' understanding self-worth, and clearing emotional blocks through techniques like working with the Akashic Records. Heather also leads a calming breathing exercise and shares insights on self-awareness and self-love. Listeners are encouraged to download Heather's resources from her website for further guidance. Check out the links below!

02:12 Why do I keep ending up with the same unavailable partner time after time after time?... It's programming!

03:46 What is the Love Blueprint?

05:59 How do we break this pattern so we can end up in a healthy relationship?

06:28 Working With the Akashic Records

07:08 Akashic Records: What are they and what do they mean for me?

09:41 Trauma Loops & How They Relate To Your Choice of Partner

10:56 Attracting Your Love With Magnetic Attraction 

12:11 You need to know what you want so you can attract the person you want.

13:11 Meditation Exercise

18:02 Meditation Followup Notes

19:38 Heather's Gifts for Our Listeners

Where to Find Heather Prince, Life Harmony Coaching www.therootmaster.com

LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube

Heather’s Gifts to Divorce Dividends Listeners

✨ Free Resource – From Heartbreak to Wholeness Workbook

✨ 6-Week - From Abandoned to Adored – The Love Blueprint Reset 

✨ Heather’s Guided Meditation

✨ Books: The Story of Crystal & The Pearl of Wisdom & How To Let Go Of The Past 

YouTube Link to the movie, The Secret

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