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Collaborative divorce is the newest 'kid on the block' when it comes to divorce. It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust. Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not. We also explore the emotional, legal and financial benefits of divorcing outside the court system.

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Most people considering divorce expect that they will have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around the litigation process. Listen in as Wendy Samuelson, Esq. shares the benefits and protections of working within the courts to divorce. Wendy shares what litigating means, how the process typically unfolds and when and how it can offer protection and support. We also explore how to hire a litigating attorney that is a good fit for you.

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.

In this episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile we discuss the need to change the perspective of your situation which in return caan help alter your attitude in a positive manner.

Fear of our future after divorce keeps us stuck in the pain of the past. This fear prompts our mind chatter to paint a bleak picture of an uncertain future, which in turn creates a disempowering and negative attitude towards life. A negative attitude on life becomes all pervasive and leaves us powerless and depressed. If we stop and think about it, the future is totally unpredictable and unknowable. We simply cannot know what the future holds. Thus it is our perspective about the future that will lay the foundation for what is coming around the bend.

If we want our future to look a certain way then we need to take charge. Uncertainty is always part of the process of taking charge and moving on. Courage to me is living with uncertainty. Our perspective or attitude on life not only changes the way we think but also changes our reality. Our attitudes do shape our future and the attainment of our goals and in this program, Shelley shows you how to make a positive change in the way you see yourself and your future.

Award winning writer/producer Arlene Sarner has written for every major movie studio including. Arlene is a talented and engaging writer who shares her story about forgiveness, personal transformation and moving on. Arlene shares her very powerful story of turning years of acrimony and hostility towards her ex husband, into a now peaceful and civil relationship and says" So don't lose hope--even the most rancorous relationships with exes can eventually shift into civility" http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arlene-sarner/an-ex-passover-guest_b_852318.html?ref=tw

Topics in this program include:

• The Lunch with the ex and how it changed everything • Forgiveness, the power to forgive and letting go • How letting go of anger changed a family

Understanding the Divorce Landscape takes a big picture look at what you are facing as you enter the world of divorce. We share tips that support you to effectively take control of your part of the divorce process, the one part of the process that you have direct control over. You will hear what to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence.

This show and those that follow it are designed to dovetail with our 12 Step Divorce Recovery Podcast series by helping you understand the general territory of divorce, discern what aspects of it apply to your particular situation, and prepare for the many stages and phases so you will be able to effectively negotiate the bumps and bends ahead with grace and dignity.

For more on Journey Beyond Divorce, visit: JourneyBeyondDivorce.com

Toni and Steve are back, and this time, looking into relationship attachment styles, and what creates them. (Childhood Trauma) To learn more about attachment styles, visit: https://youtu.be/d8yhFBqipk0

The dynamic duo also chat about:

• How breakups become easier over time
• Over protecting your kids
• YouTube stars and social media
• Guy drives his car into a Chicago mall, while Toni's Daughter there shopping with friends!

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One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, "how long will it take before I'm over this divorce ordeal?"

How long it takes to "recover" from a divorce depends on a number of factors, including how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how committed you were to your spouse, whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not, whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship, your personality, your age, your socio-economic status and on and on.

In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done* when your grief process is done, and not a minute before. There is no magic formula and no way to get through your grief on the fast track. But you can do things to slow your process down.

In this episode of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses this topic and includes the top ten list of Don'ts for divorce recovery and much more.

(Listener Note: This is Episode #12 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order.)

Step 12 is the final and most exciting Step as we explore the unlimited possibility life offers when we intentionally create each step of our journey with a willingness and desire to engage fully - utilizing all our gifts, talents, skills and passion.

With each completed effort we joyfully surrender the outcome, having faith that whatever it is, it is the perfect and only next step for us. Upon that outcome being either in-line with our desired goal or different, we assess, integrate what we have learned, recalibrate our plans and re-engage.

This is the practice of SESI. SET your intention, ENGAGE 100%, SURRENDER the outcome, INTEGRATE your experience and lessons and begin again. We expect the unexpected. We are comfortable with change. We embrace all learning opportunities. We are fully alive, fully engaged and fully responsible. No worries. No regrets. Only the present moment and the belief in ourselves and in unlimited possibility.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Recovery Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

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Check out our Next Series: Navigating Divorce - The Logistics with Journey Beyond Divorce!

Our guest, Emily Brown, is Director of Key Bridge Therapy & Mediation Center in Arlington, VA. (http://www.affairs-help.com/); works with couples, individuals, and families regarding the underlying issues in marriage, divorce, and betrayal. An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face, and one of the greatest challenges for helping professionals. Whether you are seeking assistance in your personal life or you are professional seeking information to better help clients, this is the show that provides the wisdom and guidance so many need. Emily is the author of Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment, and Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity, and numerous articles on affairs.

Topics in this program include:

• An in-depth look at the 6 different Affairs
• How to rescue a marriage if there has been an Affair
• Affair recovery: the process and insight
• Debunking the myths and misconceptions about Affairs
• Rebuilding trust
• How to talk to your children about the Affair

Our program deals with Toxic Post Divorce Relationships.

In this program, psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg discusses how to deal with an unreasonable and angry ex. For some couples, divorce means the end of a relationship and they learn to move on with their lives in a healthy way for themselves and their children.

Then there's the group we're going to talk about today where for one or both partners of a divorce, the relationship and past problems continue and in some cases become even more toxic then when they were married. The sad part of this is for those with children. Children have had enough to deal with through the divorce process and if even one of the divorced partners chooses to continue the fight, it's their kids that are forced to pay the price.