Divorce Source Radio

Toni and Steve are back with another fun and enlightening episode of what it's like being single... AGAIN! Can you relate?

Topics include: 9/11 - A day we will never forget, Bad Ex's, Steve's new clothes and much more. Enjoy! Visit our Facebook page at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.com.

Either you or your partner had an affair and you've made the decision to stay together. Yes, you can stay together and settle for a relationship that is OK, or with the help of David Feder who is an expert in treating infidelity, you can survive infidelity, rebuild your relationship and thrive.

In this episode of BEYOND INFIDELITY David Feder begins a 2-part review of some of what he coins, the common "recovery hurdles" that can interfere with the process of rebuilding your relationship after an affair.

Tune in to learn about what you should avoid so that you and your spouse can rebuild and have an extraordinary relationship. It begins here.

For more information about David Feder, go to closeconnections.ca, or you can speak with him by calling 416-315-5107.

Step 11 challenges you to utilize all you have learned in the previous ten steps to design and move towards your ideal post divorce life now, regardless of if you are pre, in the midst of, or post divorce. Put it together to create a more encompassing perspective and begin to experience life as an unpredictable adventure that you have the power to influence profoundly. By assuming full responsibility for your life, you can engage with a creative freedom and use your power to direct yourself towards the life you desire.

Receive a powerful navigation tool, the MIFR, which is both a broom and a life compass. It allows you to sweep your mind clean of old ways of reacting using Mindfulness to analyze any reaction before you take action. Using Inquiry to correct your course of action through Focus, and finally navigate to destinations of your choosing by Reframing your perspective.

The MIFR allows you to take action in ways supportive of your goals, sweeping away perspectives and actions that have undermined your success in the past.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.

In episode #3 of Beyond Divorce, Susan Pease Gadoua discusses Not Missing the Lessons from Past Relationships & How to Not Make the Same Mistakes - Regardless of what went wrong in the marriage or past relationships, YOU were part of the equation.

The "stories" we have about what went wrong in past relationships are revealing as to where our unhealed wounds reside. If you don't work on healing them, they will show up in the next relationship too!

This program will help you better understand and identify patterns that may not have served you in past relationships and suggests how to do your inner work so that you can avoid these behaviors from resurfacing again in future relationships.

• Learn the three reasons why people are attracted to each other and stay together
• Learn the three dynamics at work in steering the relation-ship
• Learn the three steps in breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics
• Learn better communication skills and how not to shut your partner out
• And much more

If you find yourself stuck in a state of blaming your ex for most of the problems in your relationship, this program will help you understand how to take responsibility for your part of what went wrong in your relationship thus allowing you to take back control of your life.

Once you have moved into acceptance of your life, you can concentrate on moving on after divorce. Moving on means connecting with what is now important to you. Moving on means discovering what you truly want from life, what makes you come alive and brings you joy.

This episode of Divorce Recovery with Shelley Stile will help you become empowered, confident and enthusiastic to move on. You will learn to take full responsibility and control of your life and transform it into something wonderful and new.

In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we discuss needy and clingy personality types. Have you been with this type of person or was it you that displayed these traits?

Neediness Pushes People Away: When the relationship is no longer in the "whirlwind romantic" stage, you may feel the need to cling too much in order to maintain what you had. "What's wrong?" "I feel like you are not there." Anxiety occurs because you sense a change, but you may be responding to something completely normal. It's a burden to have to deal with a clingy lover. "Everything is fine." Will you just stop it?" The irony is that as you push your concerns forward, you partner may just decide it is too much to deal with.

And if you're the clingy person and you are involved with a narcissist, this can turn explosive. There is no shame to admit that you are too clingy. And there are usually good reasons why you became that way; like anxieties in early childhood. Good relationships are worth a lot, so if you've got a tendency to be too needy, do something about it. Work on overcoming the wounds of the past, and make better relationships in the future.

While it's fine to test the temperature of a relationship, be aware that your neediness may undermine a stable bond between you and your partner. And, if you are that partner, you may want to listen to this show and have some empathy. There's a lot that can be done to keep your love fresh, with the help of counseling.

For more on Dr. Mark Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

Our guest, William A. ("Bill") Eddy is an attorney, therapist and mediator, and the President of the High Conflict Institute based in Scottsdale, Arizona. (http://www.highconflictinstitute.com/). Bill helps us understand what personality disorder is and how to get along with someone who is narcissistic, has a border line personality disorder, or is a persistent blamer. They aren't just difficult people, they're the most difficult people. They file lawsuits, file complaints against professional licenses, gather negative advocates to support their position, cost employers lots of time & money, disrupt & distract, find a target of blame, and convince everyone that its never their fault!

Topics in this program include:

• What is a personality disorder

• Understanding the High Conflict Personality Pattern

• Dealing with the personality disordered spouse

• Understanding the damage of parent alienation

• Managing through the legal process with a personality disordered spouse

• How personality disorder drives family court litigation

• And, so much more………

(Listener Note: This is Episode #10 of this twelve-part series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).

Step 10 discusses trust and tuning inward to access one of the greatest resources we have - our own inner, intuitive guidance and wisdom. There are people in our lives that we turn to for guidance and wisdom when we are faced with uncertainty and important decisions. This is very valuable. AND there are so many times when we hear another's advice and know it's just not right for us. There's no one who knows more about you, your situation, your values, your strengths and vulnerabilities than YOU.

Wouldn't it be great to know that you have inside you all the resources and wisdom you need to come up with the best course of action to take in any situation? The key lies in accessing more of your discernment process than the logical mind or gathering more and more data points.

Join us as we consider our intuition, what it is, how it shows up, what gets in the way of our accepting it as an important part of our thinking and decision making process, what is possible when we pay attention to it, and the consequences of ignoring the intuitive messages we receive. There is a lot of literature written about how to distinguish the voice of your inner guidance or intuition from the voice of fear, contraction, or your inner critic.

Learn ways you can distinguish the source of that voice in your head saying "Yes, let's do it!"...or "NO!!" Discover steps for cultivating your intuition so that it becomes a strength that you can learn to trust and rely upon.

Grab your FREE 12 Step Flash Guide at www.divorcerecoverylifeline.com

For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: wwwjbddivorcesupport.com.

Narcissism used to be recognized as a mental disorder, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DMS, Manual. In the revised DMS-Five edition, narcissism will no longer be considered a mental disorder, prompting the question, "If my ex isn't a certifiable narcissist, is he/she just an asshole?" Are these labels one and the same?

Dr. Banschick breaks it down for us and explains narcissism as we once knew it. He then explains how one may not be a narcissist, but rather, a selfish, self-centered asshole. If you think you have been dealing with this type of person, this is a show for you.

For more information on Dr. Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.

In this episode, we discuss divorce from a man's point of view and our guest is David Pisarra, Esq., the founder and president of the Santa Monica, CA-based law office Pisarra and Grist as well as Men's Family Law and www.MensFamilyLaw.com established specifically for men to receive expert legal representation in divorce and custody proceedings while providing support programs and counseling designed to address their particular needs.

Topics in the program include:

• 4-Steps to protect yourself during your divorce
• Domestic violence accusations
• How to improve your chance of receiving equal custody of your children
• Dealing with anger and moving on with your life
• And much more.