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In this episode of Divorce Recovery, Divorce/Life Coach, Shelley Stile teaches us how not to distort the reality of our situation.

When we are living our lives in a state of true awareness wherein we are truly conscious of our actions, we can free ourselves from reactive, self defeating behavior and realize our personal best. Unfortunately, although we may think that we make conscious decisions; in reality our unconscious mind impacts our behavior. Our actions are therefore not truly under our control. We can learn to recognize the unconscious, that part of our mind that has great power over much of our actions without us even being aware of its existence. In doing so, we can diminish its power over us.

When we live on a conscious level, we are as alert to what is happening as a deer in the woods who hears something unknown. We insure that our actions, our decisions, our communications are not influenced by the myriad filters we apply to life. We don't look through rose colored or black glasses; we choose to look through crystal clear ones that do not distort reality.

In this program we learn how to recognize when we slip into unconsciousness, thereby training ourselves to be more and more conscious of what is really happening. We free ourselves from, doing the same things over and over again. We learn from our heightened sense of awareness. We begin to see things differently, in a much more objective and clear way.

In this episode of Beyond Infidelity we welcome Dan, a man who survived his former wife's affair and today lives a life that he describes as "extremely satisfying and full of adventure".

In this podcast Dan bravely shares his recovery story, highlighting the things he did that he found helpful as well as what to avoid. All this in hopes that you may benefit from Dan's journey and as a result experience less pain and recover more quickly.

For more on David Feder, visit: wwwCloseConnections.ca

New communications technology has changed the way many divorce cases are tried these days.

Prior to the internet with its chat rooms and pornography, social media websites, such as Facebook, and cell phones with text messaging, proving a partner's infidelity or financial indiscretions was a difficult task.

Today, it's quite common during a divorce to subpoena the contents of a spouse's computer, cell phone records and text messages. You've probably heard of politicians and celebrities being brought down, in part, by what was discovered in their email, text messages or internet browsing history.

In today's program, family law attorney, Henry Gornbein, and I discuss the fall-out of today's technology and address how the discovery of this information can affect a marriage and, ultimately, a divorce.

We'll take a look at this from a legal perspective pertaining to your right to privacy, and we'll provide strong advice regarding the use of this new communications medium during a divorce.

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Divorce is never easy, and divorcing with children of any age makes it that much more difficult.

Most information on divorce where children are involved is directed to families with younger children. This program takes a look at the challenges of divorcing when your children are in their teens and twenties.

Psychologist Dr. Larry Friedberg is our guest and provides helpful insight for parents going through divorce with older children.

Topics Include:

How Custody Issues Change as Kids Grow Older, Dealing with Your Kids' Anger and Resentment, Co-Parenting, Understanding How your Kids are Feeling, Why Communicating with Your Ex is Critical, and more.

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I keep getting stuck in what was. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce. With Karen McMahon and Sheila Knopp.

It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce. We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror. Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape.

Explore a new practice of Curiosity. Consider what might happen if you didn't firmly believe you knew everything… the why and how, and the motivation or thought behind every action.

While our judgement keeps us stuck in old thought patterns that add to our suffering, curiosity opens the possibility for new learning, growth and healing. Consider how letting go of your judgement of the past enables you to embrace the possibility of the future.

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Forgiveness is a miraculous act that serves as a release valve that propels us forward into a new life after divorce. To forgive is to be truly free, to be unencumbered by the past. The problem or challenge with forgiveness is that it is very difficult and oftentimes near impossible for us to go there, especially if we are leaving an abusive relationship of some sort. How can we forgive really bad behavior? How can we forgive someone who has wronged or betrayed us?

There are two important elements of forgiveness: what it is and what it gives to us. Forgiveness is the ability to let go of blames, resentments, upsets and negative emotions we hold against a particular person. In order to achieve forgiveness, we go through a process that begins by separating the person who we are forgiving from their behavior. We do so because forgiveness does not mean that we condone someone's bad behavior. We don't.

Here is the greatest gift of all: self-forgiveness. By forgiving someone else, you also forgive yourself. You can stop beating yourself up. You can see your own inner child who desperately needs your love and compassion, not your constant judgment and criticism. You can return to state of wholeness. You can have the freedom and power to create your best life possible.

Join Shelley Stile in this episode of Divorce Recovery on Divorce Source Radio and learn how forgiveness can move you towards a healthier and happier new you.

David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.

Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual's ability to form healthy relationships.

Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful. David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.

The ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation of freedom: the ability to move unimpeded towards whatever goal you establish for yourself.

Ask yourself: what is the price I am paying in holding onto what no longer exists? What is the cost of being chained to my negative emotions and perspective? Is it costing me my health? My peace of mind? My relationship with my children? My happiness? My optimism and enthusiasm for life? I assure you that the price you pay is very, very high and it is you alone, not your ex, that pays that price.

How would you feel if you were free of all that negative stuff? Would you feel the world contains new possibilities and opportunities for you? Would you feel light? Would your body and heart stop aching? Would you be able to be happy again? Would you have renewed energy? How would freedom feel for you?

Divorce and Life Coach Shelley Stile explains the importance of acceptance and letting go during this episode of Divorce Recovery. For more information on Shelley Stile, visit her website at www.LifeAfterYourDivorce.com.

Kelly Morrisey has created a connection with people from around the world with her creation of ABetterLifeAfterDivorce.com. (www.aBetterLifeAfterDivorce.com)

Kelly provides international divorce recovery and personal growth strategies, tools and resources and has uplifted and enlightened many of those experiencing the trauma and crisis of divorce.

People from all over the world schedule private tele-sessions with Kelly Morrisey and seek her counsel. She holds tele-seminars revolving around the areas of divorce recovery, personal growth and building a strong loving relationship.

Kelly Morrisey is respected and endorsed by many of the top experts in the personal development and relationship field such as Bob Proctor (The Secret), Tony Robbins, Denis Waitley, Dr. Wayne Dyer and Marianne Williamson.

In this conversation with Kelly we discuss:

• Is it possible to have a better life after divorce
• How to recover from divorce
• Importance of keeping your kids out of your personal business related to your divorce
• The effect of divorce on your children regardless of their age
• Why individuals cheat on their spouse and how to get your needs met at home
• Loosing trust after discovering an affair
• How men process divorce differently than women
• The process of moving on, forgiving and beginning a better life
• Dating after divorce
• And Much more...

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty.

Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enough to work on your shortcoming so that, regardless of your choice, you emerge healthier in all your relationships.

For more on Karen McMahon and Journey Beyond Divorce or to book a private session, visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.