Divorce Your Story Podcast

Valentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup.  It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness.

In this week's podcast episode,  join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day after a divorce/breakup. 

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Research reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectrum.

In this week's podcast episode, I'll discuss the top four reasons why women often take the lead in initiating divorces, going beyond surface-level explanations. Join me as we explore the multifaceted dynamics influencing women's decisions to dissolve their marriages more frequently than men.

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Contrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase with self-awareness and openness to understand the path forward for personal growth and recovery.

On this week's podcast, join me as I present three questions to determine whether you need a strategy and a eye-opening exercise that can help you  gain clarity on your situation.

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2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional state, and mental health.

Once the decision is made that it's in the best interest of both parties to part ways, the key is the intentional effort to move forward. Join me on this week's podcast episode as I provide three essential questions for you to contemplate, ensuring that you navigate the path forward after a divorce or breakup this year.

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The holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety.

A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and preserving a sense of normalcy are paramount during this period of transition. Although it may seem unrealistic, it's crucial to remember that small steps can make a significant difference.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five essential tips for parents, guiding them through a smoother journey during the holiday season.

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Checkout podcast Episode #135- Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential Strategies

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The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in.

When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose.

Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you.

On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate authentic gratitude without emotional avoidance.

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Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead.

This weariness can manifest as mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and spiritual depletion. Over time, it might evolve into depression, isolation, bitterness, cynicism, a negative outlook, and even regret.

In this week's podcast episode, Join me as I share three essential steps to transition out of this period of exhaustion and uncertainty.

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Experiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook.

Persisting in this state of perceived failure can drain your motivation and result in a feeling of defeat, making it challenging to move forward. It's crucial to acknowledge that while feeling like a failure is a natural initial response, allowing it to persist can harm your self-image and set you on a downward spiral of self-criticism, shame, guilt, and a victim mindset. On this weeks podcast, join me as I discuss three important reminders to move past this feeling of failure.

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Checkout podcast Episode #117 - The Skill of Self-Forgiveness...Why It's Needed & 4 Things You Must Do To Start!

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Reentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state.

The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divorce dating, the focus should be on approaching it with intentionality rather than allowing pain to steer the course.

On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Sade Curry, host of Dating After Divorce Podcast as we discuss taking a pause on dating to discern, how your core values impact how you date, and the importance of how you internalied your singleness as it influences your dating decisions.

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There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of  a relationship.

It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types  of relationships that you should avoid entertaining!

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