What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?

Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.

When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life.

In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over.

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When it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.

Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and emotional health to your financial stability, physical wellness, relationships, spirituality, social life, and work or business endeavors.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who has developed a level of self-neglect due to an ongoing commitment to caring for others.. In this episode, I will discuss three essential insights regarding around self-care and 21 distinct perspectives on how to perceive self-care differently.

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This past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life.

Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future.

As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had a direct influence on my actions and choices.

On this week's podcast, I invite you to join me in exploring my birthday reflections and 10 strategies for celebrating life after experiencing a divorce or breakup.

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When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene."

Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed.

One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who currently is 56 and wonders if she should embrace the idea of dating. In this episode, I will address three key aspects to provide clarity to the present challenges surrounding dating that will help assist her in navigating this area of her life.

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When the priority becomes pleasing others at the expense of your own well-being and quality of life, it's likely that you've ingrained a tendency toward being a "people pleaser."

This surpasses mere kindness; it has evolved into a pattern where you modify your true self for the sake of others.

Over time, this persistent need to satisfy others transforms into a self-sacrificial inclination, leading to consequences like compromising your core identity, harboring resentment, experiencing stress, facing burnout, and undermining relationships.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and the major thing you need to do for gain clarity on where this behavior could stem from.

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When someone in a relationship decides to "step out" it violates the relationship's exclusivity as well as jeopardizes the overall well-being of the relationship.

While public conversations about infidelity often revolve around men, what unfolds when a woman finds herself entangled in such actions? Research indicates that approximately 13% to 15% of women engage in infidelity, driven by motivations distinct from those of men.

In this week podcast, I invite you for a listener's Q&A as we discuss a situation where infidelity was involved on the woman's part and how to move past the pain she cause herself and the person she was in a relationship with. Join me as I discuss 3 things that she must do to navigate the aftermath of this decision.

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There are many gray areas around entertaining "situationships" a term that is characterized around uncertainty and undefined boundaries. These types of connections can often have a significant impact on individuals both mentally and emotionally. The blurred lines and lack of clear commitment can lead to confusion and unease, potentially causing emotional turmoil.

Although there isn't one "relationship standard" for everyone, it's important to get clear on what works for you and your quality of life.

When you're someone who has difficulty around relational dynamics that lack commitment yet still find themselves entangled in such scenarios, it's important to acknowledge the potential pitfalls that comes with this territory.

On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the misconceptions around these connections, why people may choose to participate in these relationships even though it leaves them unsettled, as well as four critical questions to ask yourself to help make informed decisions about your emotional well-being and the relationships you invest in.

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Expressions like "I don't trust anyone," "No one can be trusted," "Loyalty is scarce nowadays," and "Opening up will only lead to pain" may appear straightforward, but beneath their surface lies profound implications that hinder genuine connections, vulnerability, and living authentically. When an individual has experienced betrayal in the past, it can substantially affect their current and future relationships. Although you yearn for meaningful connections, you find it challenging to embrace authenticity. The desire for profound bonding contrasts with a tendency to withdraw from vulnerability.

Now, the question arises: How can someone rebuild trust after it has been shattered? In this episode, I will delve into three essential aspects that can help you begin the journey of regaining trust again.

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If you find yourself stuck in a repetitive cycle of mentally and emotionally questioning what you could have done to "save" your marriage, it's essential to ask yourself: Were you inadvertently seeking to play the role of the savior in the relationship?

While it is natural and beneficial to reflect on your past marriage, this introspection can become detrimental if it leads to excessive self-blame and self-criticism due to being overly accountable.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss the burden of assuming the role of a savior in a relationship, three common things that saviors attempt to do to hold the marriage together, and five thought provoking questions that will help you assess your beliefs about how you approach relationships

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Contrary to popular belief, your "ex" holds minimal relevance to your journey of moving forward.

Too much credit is given to someone who no longer holds the same level of significance in your life and when that's the case, the focus needs to change. When the decision has been made to dissolve, it's important to be mindful on how much you're giving "life" to this story.

While reflection is important, it is equally essential to avoid excessive rumination on this story, which can hinder your ability to process the experience. Striking a balance between introspection and allowing yourself to move forward is key to embracing personal growth and healing.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss their unimportance in shaping your next chapter, five ways on how this could delay your growth, as well as five thought provoking questions that will help you assess how much energy you may be unintentionally directing towards your ex.

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