Divorce Your Story Podcast

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month which aims to raise awareness, support survivor's, break the silence and work towards the prevention and elimination of domestic violence in all its forms.

Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, economical, and/or spiritual.

These patterns are designed to manipulate, isolate, frighten, terrorize and hurt someone in ways that will leave lasting scars, both visible and invisible. By the time, the victim has the courage to leave, the after effects such as depression, self-esteem, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress can continue to impact their lives.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Janelle Hunt. She shares her personal journey of leaving an abusive relationship after seven years, discussing the importance of forgiveness, the cycle of generational abuse, and practical steps to break free from an abusive partnership.

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When divorces/breakups take place,  being your "Best Self" is a common objective. However, what can get overlooked is the transformative steps required to make this happen.

In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation as I discuss essential elements for becoming the best version of yourself in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup.

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Checkout podcast Episode #101 - Acknowledging Your Progress Within Your Journey - 10 minute talk w/ Tonya

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When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:‎

• The disbelief and shock of it all

• Your self-esteem gets compromised

• An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame

• Your perception on relationships and people

The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding ‎themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.‎

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal

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Your beliefs about your body can determine whether you perceive yourself as deserving or undeserving of love and acceptance.

Influences from movies, media, magazines, and our families have embedded messages that can foster an unhealthy narrative, suggesting that bodies not conforming to societal standards are inadequate and lack appeal. Consequently, individuals may develop eating disorders, consider cosmetic surgery, experience suicidal thoughts, or engage in unhealthy dieting.

The mindset that there exists a single, universal body standard compels people to believe that their bodies are either lovable or unlovable.

In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation with Jasmyne Reynolds, a former bodybuilder and the founder of Black Fitness Mommy. She will share her personal journey towards body confidence after having three children, discuss why women often feel the need to "perfect" their bodies, the unhealthy need to lose weight for their relationships and provide insights on how to cultivate a love for your body starting today.

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What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?

Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.

When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life.

In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over.

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When it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.

Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and emotional health to your financial stability, physical wellness, relationships, spirituality, social life, and work or business endeavors.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who has developed a level of self-neglect due to an ongoing commitment to caring for others.. In this episode, I will discuss three essential insights regarding around self-care and 21 distinct perspectives on how to perceive self-care differently.

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This past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life.

Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future.

As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had a direct influence on my actions and choices.

On this week's podcast, I invite you to join me in exploring my birthday reflections and 10 strategies for celebrating life after experiencing a divorce or breakup.

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When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene."

Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed.

One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who currently is 56 and wonders if she should embrace the idea of dating. In this episode, I will address three key aspects to provide clarity to the present challenges surrounding dating that will help assist her in navigating this area of her life.

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When the priority becomes pleasing others at the expense of your own well-being and quality of life, it's likely that you've ingrained a tendency toward being a "people pleaser."

This surpasses mere kindness; it has evolved into a pattern where you modify your true self for the sake of others.

Over time, this persistent need to satisfy others transforms into a self-sacrificial inclination, leading to consequences like compromising your core identity, harboring resentment, experiencing stress, facing burnout, and undermining relationships.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and the major thing you need to do for gain clarity on where this behavior could stem from.

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When someone in a relationship decides to "step out" it violates the relationship's exclusivity as well as jeopardizes the overall well-being of the relationship.

While public conversations about infidelity often revolve around men, what unfolds when a woman finds herself entangled in such actions? Research indicates that approximately 13% to 15% of women engage in infidelity, driven by motivations distinct from those of men.

In this week podcast, I invite you for a listener's Q&A as we discuss a situation where infidelity was involved on the woman's part and how to move past the pain she cause herself and the person she was in a relationship with. Join me as I discuss 3 things that she must do to navigate the aftermath of this decision.

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