Divorce Your Story Podcast

Research suggests that encountering any type of life challenge can affect an individual's mental well-being. Experiencing the loss or termination of a relationship can pose a challenge and potentially impact a person's mental health.

As a relationship dissolves, various aspects such as children, finances, families, friends, time, and memories undergo significant changes.

Neglecting and disregarding your current emotions and thoughts regarding this situation will only delay your healing process and neglect the importance of your mental well-being.

In our latest podcast episode, I invite you to join me for a discussion on the topic of "heartbreak" and its psychological effects.

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When couples split, the emotion of guilt can arise and have a significant impact on both individuals involved. It is natural for feelings of guilt to surface during such a challenging time, as people may question their actions, decisions, or the consequences of the separation. However, it is equally important to recognize that dwelling on guilt may hinder the healing process and prevent individuals from moving forward.

It is essential not to internalize what is known as "unhealthy guilt," where one becomes consumed with excessive blame and self-condemnation. Instead, it is beneficial to cultivate a healthy sense of remorse and focus on overcoming guilt.

On this week's podcast join me as we delve into the emotion of guilt. We will explore various types of guilt you may experience from the dissolution of relationships and five practical strategies to help overcome guilt and move in a better direction.

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Starting afresh after a divorce can be a time filled with emotional challenges and uncertainty. It's completely natural to experience feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, and unsure about what steps to take next. Amidst the complexities of thinking about your children, finances, co-parenting, and establishing a new sense of self, you are also navigating the emotional aftermath of the divorce.

However, within this difficulty lies an opportunity to embark on a new journey and shape a life that resonates with your values and aspirations. Embracing the process of starting over allows you to redefine your direction, rewrite the narrative of your life, and construct a future that brings you happiness, personal growth, and a profound sense of fulfillment.

On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Jenelle Tremblett, host of Ebb & Glow Podcast as we talked about starting over at 29 with two small kids, dating, forgiveness, and the importance of getting the help.

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What gets misunderstood quite often is that it's easy to leave a marriage, however it's one of the most challenging decisions to make even when it was the safest option to choose.

When marriages dissolved all kinds of questions arise. You wonder what's next, you wonder if you made the right choice, and you wonder if you could have done more to save the relationship.

It's a difficult decision to make because it often involves letting go of a significant part of your life and accepting a new reality. In addition, social and cultural norms around marriage can induce feelings of shame or guilt, further complicating the decision to leave.

There's nothing casual about making the choice to leave, if anything it takes courage.

On this weeks podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with one of my previous clients on dissolving a 14-year marriage, navigating the abuse, forgiveness, redefining motherhood and trusting yourself to love again.

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This episode is a session from my Moving On Workshop that was held this week. This episode discusses the importance of accelerating your healing. Episode will expire 5/10/23.

"No one gets married to get a divorce"...that's hardly the plan. However, what happens when those plans change? What happens when your life is disrupted in ways that doesn't seem possible to move on?

My client Wendy and I worked together back in 2021 where she was 52 at the time and dissolving a 28 year marriage. The emotional turmoil of infidelity, betrayal and debt weighed heavily on her. She had to sell her home, move out of state, and leave her job to go move in with her sister.

Through hard work, determination, and perseverance, Wendy has been able to purchase a home, pay off her debt, find a better job with higher pay, and cultivate a stronger relationship with her kids. She is now dating again and has the tools and strategies to co-parent in a complicated dynamic.

Throughout the episode, Wendy shares her valuable insights and strategies for anyone facing a similar situation. She emphasizes the importance of taking things one step at a time, focusing on the positive, and having faith that things will work out in the end.

If you're looking for inspiration and practical advice on how to rebuild your life after a major setback, this episode is a must-listen. Wendy's story is a powerful testament to the human spirit and the power of resilience.

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In many cases, we are not taught how to intentionally move forward after a breakup, even though relationships commonly come to an end.

The way the dissolution of relationships is often viewed can be problematic, as it may not be recognized as a difficulty, setback, or hardship. This can result in negative consequences, such as being left to figure things out alone, using a rebound relationship as a coping mechanism, neglecting self-care, involving children in the conflict, or seeking revenge.

This podcast episode delves into the cheat code for breaking up and moving forward, highlighting the four key components that it requires.

To join me on May 1st for my "Moving On" 5 Day Workshop, please visit ⁠http://www.movingonworkshop.com⁠ to register!

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⁠Check out episode #107 - What Does Doing The Inner Work Mean?

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When you're always living in a state of believing that something external must take place in order to have joy, then you're merely going through the motions instead of living a fulfilled life.

Overtime this leads to a life that lacks meaning and purpose, missed opportunities to create memories and connections, and your mental/emotional wellbeing gets compromised.

When you become completely "dependent" on external circumstances to dictate how you always "feel".....you'll find yourself in a constant state of chasing fulfillment from external outlets.

On this week's podcast join me as I discuss the difference between joy and happiness and why choosing joy should be your new way of living and being.

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Forgiving your ex can be a difficult but important step in moving on from the past and finding peace within yourself.

Oftentimes, forgiveness can seem pressured, forced, or even rushed where a person doesn't make the choice themselves, they suppress their emotions to even minimizing and ignoring the hurt and pain.

Studies have shown that not forgiving can prevent you from moving forward, compromise other relationships, and be harmful to your mental and emotional wellbeing.

On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss forgiveness, the perspectives that maybe holding your back as well as seven questions to challenge your thought process around forgiveness.

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Check out episode #117 - The Skill Of Self-Forgiveness Here

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Being "loyal" is often a word that many use to define an important quality that people should have however, when "loyalty" becomes the unconditional exchange at the expense of one's own detriment, has the word lost it's true meaning?

Has the expectation of this word become so misused and manipulated where "being loyal" should be at a fault regardless of treatment?

What happens when the quality of being loyal causes you to compromise your boundaries, values and self-respect?

What facts and flaws gets overlooked when blinded by being loyal to this extreme?

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about loyalty, the exchange of being loyal to an extreme and three questions that a person should ask themselves in regards to their belief and behaviors around being loyal.

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