Steve Super runs a horticulture business in California. He knows how to grow things. He knows what dying looks like. And when his daughter was diagnosed with leukemia in the middle of his divorce — he watched his greenhouse wither at the exact same rate he did. The plants stopped thriving. The business fell into disarray. The man who knew how to make things grow could not keep himself alive. This episode is one of the most honest conversations about carrying everything at once that this podcast has ever had. Divorce. A daughter fighting leukemia. A son leaving for college. A house to sell. And a man who drove four hours to the hospital every week, walked into the chapel to fall apart, and walked back out to be strong for his daughter. Steve is not on the other side of this. He is in it. And he is still showing up.

In this episode:

• What it actually looks like to carry divorce, a child's cancer diagnosis, an empty nest, and a house sale in the same year
• Why Steve's greenhouse started dying the same week his daughter got sick — and what that mirror taught him about his own internal world
• Running on adrenaline when there is nothing left — what that looks like from the inside
• Walking into the hospital chapel to completely fall apart — then walking back into his daughter's room like nothing happened
• The reticular activating system — why your external environment is always reflecting your internal world and what to do about it
• The tape measure text from his ex — and the fifty six year pattern it exposed in sixty seconds
• Why people-pleasing is not kindness — it is passive aggressive resentment waiting to explode
• What happens to a man's social life when the marriage ends and he realizes his wife was running all of it
• The greenhouse cleanup — how fixing the physical environment started shifting the internal one
• Why silence is not the enemy of a divorced dad — it is where the epiphanies live
• The Cal Newport Deep Work research — why every task switch costs you 23 minutes and what that is doing to your emotional reserves by nightfall
• What Steve would tell the dad who feels like he cannot breathe right now
• How one small epiphany — catching a pattern you have carried for decades — becomes the proof that you are going to make it

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• Website: stevesupergardens.com
• Instagram and live selling: Palm Street

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My grandmother is in her upper 90s. She doesn't ask about my business or what I'm building. She tells me about soup. About a kid playing football in the street. She asks about my kids. And sitting with her I realized what most men spend their entire lives running from — at the end it is not the vacations or the status or the things you accumulated. It is the people. The moments. The ordinary days you were actually present for. This episode is for the divorced dad who is so focused on building his future that he is missing the only moment he actually has.

In this episode:

• What Bronnie Ware's palliative care research found about the top regrets of dying men — and why none of them are about work or achievement
• Dr. Karl Pillemer's Cornell Legacy Project — what 1,500 Americans aged 70-100 said actually mattered at the end
• The Harvard mind-wandering study — why 47% of your waking hours are spent somewhere other than the present and what it is costing you
• Why high-performing divorced dads are especially vulnerable to missing the present — and the specific trap that keeps them chasing instead of living
• Depression focuses on the past. Anxiety focuses on the future. Where peace actually lives.
• The Inner Peace Architecture — three daily decisions that create peace from the inside rather than chasing it from the outside
• Sonja Lyubomirsky's happiness research — why only 10% of your happiness is determined by circumstances and 40% is yours to build right now
• Why if something outside you can give you peace it can be taken away — and how to create peace that nobody can take
• Rick Hanson's neuroplasticity research on gratitude as a neurological intervention not a soft concept
• Terror Management Theory — why consciously sitting with mortality produces presence not despair
• Philippians 4:11 — what contentment actually means and where Paul was when he wrote it
• The bowl of soup. The football game in the street. What your grandmother is actually telling you about how to live today.

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Two in the morning outside a bar in Gilbert, waiting on a rideshare ping. A drunk stranger gets in and asks what I do for a living. Six months earlier I had a title, a team, a marriage. Now the honest answer was — this. I drive strangers home at 2am so I can afford to see my own kids on the weekend. This is the first episode of Sunday Table — a new weekly space for divorced dads to sit down, get honest with God, and get honest with themselves. No frameworks. No five-step plan. Just the table.

In this episode:

Why the gas station moment wasn't the end of my story — it was exactly where the real one had to start
John 10:10 — the thief who comes to steal, kill, and destroy, and what he was actually after in my divorce
Why the thief's real target was never the marriage — it was my joy, my identity, and my hope for the next twenty years
What "life more abundantly" actually means when you have nothing left to protect it with
Obsess Over Optimism — why anyone can be a pessimist but it's the optimists who change the world and leave a legacy
The question I want every dad to sit with this week: who does your pessimism actually protect?
A prayer for the dad who thinks his story is over — salvation, recommitment, and no more bracing

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Sean Whalen built a multimillion dollar company, flipped nearly 4,000 houses, and had 170 employees. Then the market crashed in 2008. Twelve and a half million dollars in debt. Divorce. Suicidal. A Ruger P95 and a bottle of whiskey on his nightstand. He woke up the next morning with one thought — I just don't want to die. What happened next became Lions Not Sheep and a movement that has reached millions of men. In this episode Sean gets brutally honest about the reactive war with his ex that he was losing, the moment he realized he was the one loading the gun, and what it actually took to put the bullets down and rebuild everything. This one hits different.

In this episode:

• What bankruptcy and divorce at the same time actually feels like from the inside — and why most men freeze instead of fight
• Why Sean was suicidal and what the one thought was that pulled him back from the edge
• The enabler trap — why surrounding yourself with people who validate your anger is the thing keeping you most stuck
• The mirror moment — when Garrett White told him he was lying and why that was the beginning of everything
• She's holding the gun and you're loading it — the reactive texts, the late pickups, the intentional provocations — and what happened the second Sean stopped
• Why the letter of appreciation to his ex that took three months to write was not for her — it was for him
• Using your kids as private investigators — what it costs them and when Sean stopped
• You had to make the millions to lose them — the paradigm shift that changed how Sean saw failure
• Why accountability is not something you have — it's something you are
• The stories that keep men small — snakes, six packs, and why 100% of your current reality is a story you wrote
• 75 Hard as a mental program not a fitness program — and why Sean has been in the best shape of his life for eight years straight
• Why men don't fear failing — they fear being judged for failing
• How to know when you are actually ready to date again — and the one thing most men negotiate away that costs them everything
• His second divorce at 45 after three years of marriage — and why sitting for six months without fixing anything was the most powerful thing he ever did
• What Sean would say to the dad who is in the darkest place right now at 2am

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• Website: lionsnotsheep.com
• Instagram / Facebook / Social: @SeanWhalen
• Lions Not Sheep — apparel, community, coaching

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Odysseus won the war. Proved himself on the battlefield. And then spent years lost — not because he was weak, but because the journey home is never straight and the lotus flower is always on the next island. Every divorced dad is living this story right now. The lotus flowers have different names — porn, alcohol, weed, scrolling, sex — but they all do the same thing. They keep you on the island while your kids grow up without you. This episode is the map. And the one move that changes everything is the one most men refuse to make.

In this episode:

• Why Homer's Odyssey written 3,000 years ago is the most accurate map of the divorced dad's journey
• Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey research and why you are on it whether you chose it or not
• The lotus flower — what PAWS is doing to your brain and the neuroscience of why bliss becomes a trap
• What the lost years actually cost — and the specific inventory every dad needs to take
• The Beggar's Return — why the most powerful move Odysseus makes is to arrive as nobody first
• Why public humiliation is the real fear underneath every divorced dad's avoidance
• What it looks like to build in the dark — content nobody watches, a business nobody asks about, a life nobody sees yet
• Ryan Holiday's Ego Is the Enemy research on why the beggar season builds what nothing else can
• Telemachus — who you are actually building this for and what they are inheriting right now
• The 26-year developmental study on what your kids are actually receiving from watching you recover
• Proverbs 13:22 and the inheritance that has nothing to do with money
• My ceiling is his floor — what the hero's journey means for your son

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Mike Signorelli has preached to thousands in Times Square. Built one of the fastest growing churches in America. Has a film, books, millions of followers. And behind all of it — infidelity, alcoholism, a marriage that should have ended a thousand times over, and a father wound so deep it almost took everything. In this episode Mike gets brutally honest about what the worst season of his life actually looked like, what sobriety and accountability cost him, and the sentence that changed everything — I might die like my dad, but I don't have to live like him. This one goes deep. Stay with it.

In this episode:

• Growing up in extreme poverty with abusive men cycling through the house — and what that environment taught Mike about what a man was supposed to be
• Why everyone has a father wound — and why you won't recognize yours until a season opens it
• How Mike went from ordained minister to alcoholism and multiple infidelities — and what he did to stop
• The medically supervised detox journey and why sobriety was the unlock that changed everything
• Why addiction lives most in high-functioning people — and what that means for the divorced dad who thinks he has it together
• The sentence that changed everything — I might die like my dad but I don't have to live like him
• What real accountability actually looks like — not by title but by reality
• Why Mike had to restructure his driving routes to break neural pathways associated with sin
• The pit bull analogy — whatever hurt you will heal you — and why a father wound gets healed by inviting another man in
• His daughter's story — the curses he didn't break before she was born, the bed conversation that shifted everything, and 40,000 people on the mall in Washington
• The moment without a process leaves you seven times worse — why the school community matters more than the altar call
• What Mike wants the divorced dad white-knuckling the weekend alone to know right now
• The Unoffendable Heart — Mike's new book on rebuilding a heart free of bitterness and offense

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• Website: mikesignorelli.com
• Pre-order The Unoffendable Heart: mikesignorelli.com
• Instagram / YouTube / Social: @MikeSignorelli
• Church: V1 Church — multiple campuses across New York City Metro

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If your child was drowning in a pool — would you try to save them? No. You would save them. No hesitation. No planning. No wondering if you were ready. So why are you still trying to become the man they need? The word trying sounds like progress. It feels like effort. But underneath it is something most divorced dads will never admit out loud — an exit strategy. Today Anthony breaks down why trying is secretly killing your rebuild, where the programming came from, and what it actually looks like to decide instead of try.

In this episode:

• Why trying is not a commitment — it is an exit strategy dressed up as effort
• Dr. Carol Dweck's Stanford research on why the word itself changes the neurological commitment your brain makes
• Where the trying programming came from — and why a child's language is running an adult man's decisions
• The fear underneath trying — failure, judgment, comparison, and full ownership with no exit
• The Decision Line framework — four areas where divorced dads need to stop trying and start deciding
• The British Journal of Health Psychology study showing 91% follow-through when effort becomes a specific scheduled decision
• The Harvard 30-year study on what separated men who thrived after major life disruption from men who stayed stuck
• Proverbs 16:3 and the standard God actually sets — not try, commit
• The specific exercise that turns a vague try into a decided plan before you go to sleep tonight

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Anthony showed up to his daughter's performance. He was in the building. He took work calls. He missed the second half. When he asked her how the show was she said — you were there. But you weren't. That sentence hit like a punch in the face. This episode is the confession, the repair, and the rule that came out of one of his biggest misses as a dad. It is for every divorced dad who has been physically present and emotionally absent — and every dad who needs to know it is not about falling down. It is about how fast you get back up.

In this episode:

• Why kids feel your absence before they can articulate it — and the neuroscience behind why presence is not the same as being in the room
• The Journal of Marriage and Family research showing that distracted presence is worse than less time fully present
• Why high-functioning divorced dads slip back into old patterns — and the MIT habit research that explains why it happens automatically
• The three-sentence apology that repairs faster than any explanation — please forgive me, I was wrong, I can do better
• Dr. John Gottman's repair research and why a clean apology is the single most important predictor of relationship health
• The rule Anthony made after that moment — and the UC Santa Barbara implementation intention research that proves why rules beat willpower
• James 5:16 and why confession in front of your kids is one of the most powerful things a father can model
• The specific decision you make before you walk in the door — and how to build your own presence rule starting today

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Troy Casey is 60 years old, built like a man half his age, and has been through everything a divorced dad fears most. The couch. The DUI. The savings account vaporized overnight. Starting over with nothing but a Kia and a credit card. And through all of it — camping on the floor with his kids on a mattress and calling it enough. In this episode Troy gets raw about what divorce actually does to a man's body and mind, why breath work at 4am saved his sanity, and the non-negotiables that rebuilt him from the floor up. This one goes places other episodes don't. Stay with it.

In this episode:

• What looping negative thoughts at 4am actually sound like from a man who has been there
• The breath work practice Troy started on his couch that cleared his head when everything was falling apart
• Why he chose not to be a victim when he had every reason to be — and what that decision actually looked like
• The $63,000 savings account that got vaporized — and how he rebuilt from zero
• Why camping on the floor with his kids was enough — and what that season actually built
• The nine pillars of health Troy has used for 20 years to stay physically and mentally sharp through divorce and rebuild
• Why sleep, movement, organic food, and pure water are non-negotiables — not lifestyle choices
• What porn is actually doing to divorced dads biochemically and why it compounds the pain
• The phone notification problem — why every ping is hitting your nervous system and what to do about it
• Gratitude as a daily practice — the 90-day challenge that changed Troy's trajectory post-divorce
• Proximity — the single most important parenting principle for divorced dads with teenagers
• What Troy would tell every divorced dad who is in the middle of it right now

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• Website: certifiedhealthnut.com
• Instagram / YouTube / Facebook: @CertifiedHealthNut
• Book: Ripped at 50 — A Journey to Self-Love

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Every divorced dad says his kids are everything. But when it comes to doing everything to become the man they need — the excuses show up. I'm trying. Life is hard. I don't have enough time. This episode is the one nobody wants to hear and everybody needs. Anthony breaks down the real cost of avoidance, the three excuses that keep divorced dads stuck, and the Accountability Architecture that separates the builders from the drifters. You already know what you need to do. Today you stop avoiding it.

In this episode:

• Why avoidance is not about laziness — the University of Calgary research on what procrastination is actually protecting you from
• The three excuses divorced dads use to stay stuck — and why each one is a choice disguised as a circumstance
• Why trying is not the same as deciding — and what commitment actually looks like in practice
• The Wharton School research on why "I don't have time" is never really about time
• The Accountability Architecture — three pillars that build the daily structure your rebuild actually needs
• Kelly McGonigal's Stanford research on stress and why the pressure you're feeling is your fuel not your enemy
• The 40-year developmental study on what your kids are actually learning from watching you right now
• Why you need someone who will call you out not cheer you on — and the research that proves why it works
• Galatians 6:9 and the promise that belongs to the process not the dramatic moment
• Commit and own it — or repeat the year. There is no third option.

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