Divorced & Determined AF

Divorced & Determined AF

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Divorced & Determined AF episodes

  • 29 - How to Reverse Engineer Goals - Unveiling Your Success Roadmap

    In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I delve into the transformative power of reverse engineering goals as a female entrepreneur. This strategy was instrumental to rebuild my life from that single storage tote to now running three businesses. I discuss the importance of breaking down ultimate goals into smaller, manageable steps, and why thinking ahead has been crucial for navigating challenges and opportunities in the world of business. Embracing flexibility, I explore the concept of using a roadmap as a guide, not a constraint, and the value of reflecting on experiences to grow stronger with each step. Join me as I unlock the secrets to success and inspire you to harness the power of reverse engineering your goals, shattering glass ceilings, and making your dreams a reality.

     

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    28 min
  • 28 - How Consistency Can Help You Outpace Your Competitors
    Consistency is the true key to success, even more so than talent. Consistent effort builds habits and momentum, leads to mastery, builds trust and reliability, and helps you weather challenges. By committing to a consistent routine or approach, you are essentially training yourself to be disciplined, which spills over into other areas of your life. Consistency creates stability and growth, which brings more peace.
     
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    17 min
  • 27 - The Elements that Support Long Term Success for Your Dream with Tina Codinha (pt 2)
    This is part 2 of my interview with Tina and in this episode we're going to chat about what it really takes to run a successful business. It's not just about following your passion or working hard, it's about treating your business like a business. We'll cover some key elements you need to focus on to make sure your business is thriving.
     
    One thing we'll emphasize is that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to running a business. You need to tailor your strategies to fit your unique needs and goals. And don't forget to incorporate your personal non-negotiables into your plans, even when your external seasons change.
     
    If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure about running your own business, don't worry. With the right mindset and strategies, you can make your business dreams a reality. Just like Tina, believe in yourself and know that you are worthy of success.
     
    Grab your free Self-Awareness guide here!
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    Follow Tina on the gram @codinhachocolate or order her signature OMG Bar from her site!
     
     
    Highlights:
    **Tailoring successful business models [00:00:00]**
    Discussion on the need to customize successful business models to fit individual needs and personal aspirations.
     
    **Balancing personal life and business [00:00:56]**
    Importance of incorporating personal goals and non-negotiables into business plans and making strategic changes to run a business successfully.
     
    **Creating personal routines [00:03:17]**
    Importance of creating personal routines in business to be present in other important aspects of life and avoid burnout.
     
    **Understanding Sales [00:06:42]**
    Importance of understanding sales psychology, building genuine connections, and focusing on serving and connecting with people rather than just selling.
     
    **Treating Business Like a Business [00:10:29]**
    Importance of treating a business like an actual business, starting with personal finances, and having a reverse engineered plan to understand revenue flow and necessary sales.
     
    **External support and investments [00:13:12]**
    Discussion on seeking external support to integrate internal awareness into business strategy, making investments to support passion and direction, and hiring to justify return on investment.
     
    **Marrying internal and external strategies [00:14:06]**
    Importance of marrying internal and external strategies to achieve success and fulfillment, trusting timelines, and doing things in a sustainable and fulfilling way.
     
    **Visualizing and believing in oneself [00:16:53]**
    Advice on visualizing what you want in life, believing in oneself, and repeating positive affirmations to maintain focus and motivation.
     
    **Trusting the direction you're feeling [00:19:59]**
    Trusting the spark in the back of your mind and not feeling pressured to make all the right choices today.
    24 min
  • 26 - Trusting that Feeling Inside You to Chase Your Dream with Tina Codinha (pt1)
    In this two part episode series, I interview Tina Codinha, owner of Codinha Chocolate, about her journey of leaving a pre-med program to pursue her passion for chocolate and starting her own business. Tina shares with me how she trusted her intuition and took risks to make her dreams a reality, including moving to New York to learn from one of the best in the industry and starting her own business in Los Angeles. Throughout the episode, we discuss the importance of trusting oneself, taking calculated risks, and not letting others' opinions sway one's vision. Tina's story serves as an inspiration to others who want to pursue their passions and trust their intuition.
     
     
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    Connect with Tina on IG @codinhachocolate or on her website
     
     
    Highlights:
    **Tina's journey to chocolate [00:01:08]**
    Tina shares how she left a pre-med program to pursue her passion for chocolate and how she knew it was the right decision.
     
    **Importance of doing things for yourself [00:05:10]**
    Jamie and Tina discuss the importance of exploring things for yourself and doing what brings you fulfillment, rather than just going through the motions or doing what others expect of you.
     
    **Meeting Jacques Torres [00:08:40]**
    Tina shares her experience of meeting Jacques Torres, a renowned chocolatier, in New York, and how she continued to trust her intuition as she pursued her passion for chocolate.
     
    **Trusting intuition and having a plan [00:16:02]**
    Jamie and Tina discuss the importance of trusting your intuition while also having a plan and structure in place to achieve success.
     
    **Starting a chocolate business [00:18:03]**
    Tina talks about her journey of starting a chocolate business, including her failed side business and how she learned to trust herself fully with her current business.
     
    **Incorporating Trust Throughout Business Seasons [00:23:55]**
    How to continue checking in for the feeling of trust and alignment throughout different seasons of your business, and the importance of incorporating positive self-talk and learning.
    32 min
  • 25 - Navigating Anger: Finding Peace Through Self-Awareness

    In this episode I discuss the importance of self-awareness in navigating through anger peacefully. I reference Brene Brown's book "Atlas of the Heart" and share personal experiences to illustrate the concept. I emphasize the importance of not rushing through the initial surface feeling of anger, but instead getting curious about the underlying emotions. By identifying and acknowledging these emotions, we can validate them and avoid dismissing our own needs and emotions. My process of dealing with anger involves acknowledging my feelings, exploring the underlying triggers, identifying my needs and communicating effectively with others so I can honor my inner voice. Tune in to hear a live example of exactly what this sounds like. 

     

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    Highlights:

    **Examples of anger and underlying emotions [00:00:58]**
    The host shares personal experiences of feeling angry and identifies the underlying emotions behind the anger, such as fear, frustration, confusion, hurt, rejection, and shame.
     
    **Identifying underlying past experiences [00:09:47]**
    Importance of identifying past experiences that enhance anger and how to communicate them to others.
     
    **Self-talk process [00:12:15]**
    Demonstration of a self-talk process to navigate through anger and identify what is needed to move forward.
     
    **Slowing down and healthy communication [00:17:08]**
    The importance of slowing down to effectively communicate and how to approach communication with healthy communication skills.
     
    **Trusting Your Intuition [00:20:46]**
    Valuing the parts of you that are hurt, frustrated, or confused, seeking clarity and answers, and confidently taking steps towards peace.
    24 min
  • 24 - A Journey to Creating a Life of Peace and Alignment

    In this episode of "Determined AF" podcast, I want to highlight the significance of self-awareness in our personal and professional lives. As we navigate through the pressures of building a successful and sustainable business, it is imperative that we implement self-awareness to understand our strengths, weaknesses, and limitations.

    I share my personal experiences of relying on structured systems to build my businesses. However, I also realized the importance of flexibility and alignment with my own personality and needs. I learned that blindly following a system without considering my own needs and personality can lead to burnout and failure.

    Therefore, I encourage my listeners to join me on this journey of creating peaceful alignment in their lives. By implementing self-awareness, we can build strategies and systems that align with our unique personalities and needs.

    I also offer one-on-one assistance through strategy calls for those who need more direct and individualized help. Let's work together to build successful and sustainable businesses while prioritizing our mental and emotional well-being. 

    Book a strategy session here. 

    Download your free Self-Awareness Mastery guide!

    Let's be friends on the 'gram @msjamiemilam

     

    Highlights to the show:

    **The Importance of Structured Systems [00:01:05]**

    Jamie shares her personal experience of relying on structured systems to build her businesses.

    **The Power of Self-Awareness [00:05:08]**

    Jamie discusses the importance of self-awareness in identifying triggers and emotions, and using them as a guide to make appropriate adjustments and set boundaries to protect one's peace and priorities.

    **Setting Boundaries with Flexibility [00:07:04]**

    Jamie shares her experience of setting boundaries with clients and prioritizing time for herself and her family, and the positive impact it had on her overall well-being. Jamie discusses the importance of being flexible while maintaining boundaries in her business and personal life.

    **Self-awareness and Adjustments [00:10:37]**

    Jamie shares how therapy helped her become more self-aware and make adjustments in her business and personal life. She talks about the importance of aligning business strategies with inner desires and how her vision for her business changed after her divorce.

    **Sustainability and Integration [00:13:46]**

    Jamie emphasizes the need for integrating true selves into business systems for sustainability and success.

    **Acknowledging Both Foundations [00:15:07]**

    Jamie discusses the importance of acknowledging and valuing both self-awareness and strategic planning in building a successful business.

    **Direct assistance and strategy call [00:20:37]**

    Offering individualized help through strategy calls for those needing more direct assistance.

    **Sharing the message [00:21:43]**

    Encouraging listeners to share the episode with others to spread the message of valuing inner voice and self-awareness.

    25 min
  • 23 - Why You Need to Start Tagging Your Leads and How To Do It

    You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it. You know?

    And segmentation or tagging clients was one of those things I didn’t fully understand the power of until I learned about it. Once I began tagging clients based on common things like lead source, buying behavior, or demographics, it transformed by business.

    On this episode of the Determined AF podcast, I discuss the importance of segmentation for your business and the benefits of tagging clients in a CRM system. We also talk about:

    • Practical examples of how you can use tags
  • What the benefit of tagging is for your business
  • Ideas to get started with tagging

    • And if you are interested in all-things organization and systems for your business, make sure to check out my free resource: 6-Step System for Building a Great Strategic Plan

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    • 17 min
  • 22 - Start Creating Online Courses with Alyssa Marshall

    As a growing entrepreneur you may be considering scaling your business by offering an online course. In the beginning it can be overwhelming trying to figure it all out, how do you even know if an online course is right for your business? Should you aim for a signature course or work with mini-courses? How do you validate that people will buy the course before spending all that time, money and energy into creating it? And in such a competitive space for entrepreneurs, how do you make yourself stand out? That's exactly what we'll cover in today's episode with the co-creator of Owwlish, an online course builder that can plug into any website platform. Alyssa Marshall shares with us the deets on all this and more! PLUS she's offering you two free months to try out the builder. Just visit https://owwlish.com/determined to get started!

    Connect with Alyssa: [email protected]

    Connect with Jamie on IG: @msjamiemilam

     

    40 min
  • 21 - The Power of Automation in your Business

    Freedom and flexibility.... it's what you desire if you're in business for yourself. In order to really make that possible, you need leverage and today I'll cover with you a form of leverage that you can implement in your business, no matter what stage of your business you're in. Automating parts of your business can actually give you back 30% more time in your day... which is the direct path to that freedom and flexibility you desire! We'll cover what automations are in relation to your business, the benefits of them, different applications for automation implementation, and how to identify what can be automated in your own business right away! 

    PLUS snag your copy my free Productivity & Time Management Planner to implement some of these tips into your business today!

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    Connect with me on IG: @msjamiemilam

    28 min
  • 20 - Waking up with Awareness

    I've been practicing self-awareness so much that I don't even realize how much I reflect and how quickly I make decisions based on that reflection, it's just an engrained part of who I am and how I create peace in my day for myself.

    Today I'm sharing how this practice showed up in the very first moment I woke up and how it helped me choose to set myself and my day up for success. It's not a scheduling hack and don't worry, it's not a this is the only way kind of conversation. It's important that you find your way, so I'll share some suggestions that can help you choose how to find the action that supports your success plan and mood shifts! And how to leave room for grace and flexibility!

    To help you start practicing self-awareness to create more peace in your life, I'm offering this free e-book Self-Awareness Mastery: Your Most Powerful Tool. Its 27 pages are packed with guidance and 40+ prompts to help you reflect! Grab yours today!

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    20 min

About Divorced & Determined AF

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The show that supports women with the information they need to know before, during and beyond divorce. Your host, Jamie Milam, is a Certified Divorce Specialist® and is determined to empower you to live the life you desire -and deserve- by helping you make informed decisions & take aligned action. Bringing you professional education, personal experiences and tangible resources you can use no matter the stage of divorce you are in.