Divorcing With Sanity

You moved across the world, gave 20 years to the marriage and built a life that has now fallen apart. Every night you ask: was it all for nothing? In this episode, Yan offers a different way to read your story, and how this unlikely moment is the best raw material you have to upcycle into the best creation of your life.

It may feel like you're completely destroyed from the divorce. The secret nobody tells you is - your life is already changing for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it. In this podcast episode, Yan talks about why breaking down is not the same as being destroyed, and why the mess you're in right now might be exactly where you need to be.

When she was going through her divorce, my client R didn't tell a single person at work. It wasn't because she was coping with flying colours - it was because in her tight-knit expat community, she (felt like) she couldn't afford to. This podcast episode is about what it costs you to "be fine" every day while secretly falling apart, and how R broke through that wall to find herself again.

The marriage hurt you and your children, and you made the brave and very right decision to leave. So why does it still hurt this much? This episode talks about the pain that doesn't disappear just because you did the right thing - and offers 3 honest, practical ways to carry the pain without letting it take your life away.

When a marriage breaks down, the first thing we do is blame ourselves. We replay every flaw, every mistake, every way we weren't enough. But what if the breaking was never really about you? This episode explores why your cracks are not your failures - and how to start being kinder to yourself.

When divorce arrives, it sometimes brings a second betrayal - the family you gave everything to suddenly becomes the family that turns against you. This episode is for the nights when that bitterness won't let you rest, and you need someone to remind you: their version of you is not the truth.

When your marriage falls apart, we may cognitively fault the other party, but blame ourselves deep down inside. In this episode, Yan unpacks the quiet, 3am question most divorcing women never say out loud: "Was I enough?"

You wake up and immediately feel the weight of your emotions on your chest or stomach, day after day. It doesn't go away. But you continue to hold it together in the classroom, on the phone with your mum, at the school gates. The reality is behind closed doors, you're falling apart.

This episode is for every expat educator who is exhausted from pretending to be okay - and wondering if they ever will be.

In this heartfelt episode, Yan addresses the inner struggles of educators navigating divorce. She emphasises that strength is not in handling everything alone but in embracing vulnerability and asking for help. Join her for a compassionate exploration of support, resilience, and the path to reclaiming your life during challenging times.

A challenging perspective on divorce that questions the common advice to "fight harder" and "win at all costs." This episode explores why aggressive divorce battles create more pain than peace, how they impact children, and why true healing comes from reclaiming yourself - not from defeating your ex.