I'm not fully sure my wife is IN, or invested. I'll elaborate by saying, that MY VERSION of IN, most likely doesn't match hers. It seems like she feels she's a winner, or good wife by simply being married to me. There isn't much of a sense to me that my wife would actually want to receive kudos for doing anything, but more so just being there and present. That leads me to participation trophies. I've been on some sports teams, and I've enjoyed my time there. What I learned most was that I had to do something in specific situations, and there was a list of things that I SHOULDNT DO in other situations. #adjustedexpectations that's what I needed before I decided to take on a wife. #stilllearninglessons