I was a the Point guard, the Quarterback, the Goalee, the Coach, the Fan, and the owner of the team. I just tried to do too much, and gave no freedom, control, or agency to anyone else, my wife, over the course of our marriage. Just because she made certain mistakes, why didn't I give her more chances? The answer is, it stung me. Human nature says, you don't want to be stung again. You then try and avoid it at all costs. I did that. Horrible strategy for a partnership...like my marriage.