Do I Really Hate Men?

This week Ang is joined by Adela Manzoor, a public speaker, podcaster and family lawyer. The emotional aspect of divorce is extremely difficult for all involved, but the legal aspect can be even harder. Suddenly, you find yourself in real conflict with a person that you have spent a lifetime loving and caring for. But there is hope. As Adela explains in this interview, not all lawyers are there to bleed you dry and move onto the next client. A good lawyer will become your friend, your confidant, and in some cases, your counsellor. But how do you pick the right lawyer and what should you prepare yourself for?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Adela, who wanted to help her clients through divorce, talks about how she underestimated the emotional challenges of the job and shares how this aspect changed her perception of divorce proceedings.

• What are the main things to look for when hiring a divorce lawyer? As Adela explains, most people think it's someone that can get the job done, quickly and cheaply, but there are far more important factors to consider.
• Adela breaks down, in simple terms, the process of going through a divorce, from initial meetings with your lawyer, to first negotiations, right through to court procedure.
• Adela outlines the difference between a clean break divorce and one where you still have legal ties to your ex partner, and the advantages and disadvantages of each.

BEST MOMENTS

"You need to find a lawyer that doesn't just help you on the legal side, but on the emotional side too."

"Try to be humble, try to let go of your ego, try to go through mediation. If you don't, things can get nasty, and expensive, very fast."

"There's a lot at stake when you go to court, which in turn can stir emotions and lead to hostile behaviour."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

EPISODE LINKS

Radshaw Solicitors Instagram

Radshaw Solicitors Linkdin

Adela's Solicitors Linkdin

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

This week, Ang is joined by Farhana Hussain, a divorce doula. Farhana is one of only a handful of divorce doula's in the UK, but what exactly are they? Doula comes from the Greek term for a wise woman that traditionally helped other women through childbirth. Much the same, Farhana now helps women through the emotional and spiritual rebirth they experience as a part of divorce. Described by her clients as a real life fairy godmother, Farhana breaks down her methods, logic and how your life can be transformed when you work with a divorce doula

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• What exactly is a divorce doula? Farhana explains not only what a divorce doula does, but how she discovered, through her own divorce, that that's what she wanted to become.
• Farhana explains how the process of going through a divorce is a spiritual and emotional rebirth, and how, if approached in the correct way, can transform your life into something you never expected.
• Divorce isn't just hard on you and your partner, but is extremely hard for your children too. Recognising this, Farhana has developed a 'child centric' approach to her work, which she details here.
• Farhana explains how, in the early stages of your divorce, a doula can help you where a lawyer can't, which can save you a lot of emotional and financial stress.

BEST MOMENTS

"You have to move through your emotions, not just ignore them and hope they'll go away, because they won't."

"As a doula I am rebirthing the new version of you."

"Even though divorce is becoming more common, there is still a lot of stigma around it and guilt and shame attached to it."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

EPISODE LINKS

Farhana's Website

Farhana's Linkdin

Farhana's Instagram

Unmasked Community

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

Welcome to the first episode of 'Do I Really Hate Men'.

Ang, your host, has battled hard to overcome a traumatic divorce, which also left her as a single parent. From the difficulty of making the decision to get a divorce, to the heartbreak and trauma that came with it, the journey of recovery and the impact on her children, Ang has seen and lived it all, and came out the other side stronger. Now, she is here to share her experience, wisdom and learnings to help those going through the same process and to let you know that, one day, it'll all be ok.

In this first episode, Ang shares her heartbreaking story and addresses the big question - 'Do I Really Hate Men?'

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The public's perceptions of single mothers is drastically different to the reality of what they actually are. Ang, who became a single mum after her divorce, puts the record straight by detailing what a single mother actually does.

• Going through divorce is extremely challenging at the best of times, but when you're also a parent and have to protect your children, the process can be worse. Ang shares her experience of stepping up to be there for her children and the long term positive effects that had on their relationship.
• Deciding to divorce your spouse is not a decision that is taken quickly or lightly. Ang details how she wrestled with her feelings of unhappiness for a long time and how she finally found the courage to make such a big decision.
• As Ang discovered, divorce is not an ending, but a beginning. She shares the ups and downs of her long journey from acceptance to recovery, and the learnings, personal development and positives that eventually came from it

BEST MOMENTS

"Single mums are superheroes, we do so much that people just don't see."

"Women are like t-bags. It's not until you put them in hot water that you realise how strong they are."

"Nobody knows how long your pain will last, but ,one day, it will be gone."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

This week on the show Ang is recounting the early days of her divorce and the importance of both having a support network around you and being supportive for others. Whether it's a text message in the middle of the night, or a neighbour dropping by with a bottle of wine, friends are a crucial support system to help you get through the heartbreak. However, as Ang discovered, not all your friends will be there for you, and some of them will even hold your divorce against you. And if this wasn't enough to deal with, you now have to be the main support network for your children, whilst trying to hide the true pain you are feeling from them.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Ang talks about the difficulty of breaking the news to your children that their parents are going to divorce, how that affects their relationships and the inevitable discussion around and sharing custody.

• From having your children in the house all day every day to sharing them with your partner can be a traumatic change. Ang discusses the emptiness of the house, but also how, when her children were home, how different life suddenly became.

• When you become a single parent you are thrusted into taking up the role of two parents. And talks about the difficulties of taking on this new task whilst trying to hide the pain you are experiencing from your children.
• When there is a sudden void in your life it is important to fill it. Ang recalls the importance of having her friends around during the early days of her divorce, and how this led to stronger relationships with some, but also fractured relationships with others.

BEST MOMENTS

"When going through a divorce you have to adopt a one thing at a time approach otherwise it becomes too overwhelming."

"Make sure that your feelings of strength and love supersedes your vulnerability."

"You lose money when going through a divorce, but emotions and feelings are so much harder to repair than your bank balance."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

This week on the show Ang is welcoming her very first guest, Dawn Rishard. Dawn is a marriage counsellor with 20 years of experience and specialises in helping people heal from within after the heartbreak of divorce. However, even with all of her skills and knowledge, she was unable to save her own marriage which ended in divorce after 27 years. In this interview with Ang, Dawn shares her journey, both professional and personal, the key learning she took from her own divorce and how you can use her wisdom to help your healing process be that little bit smoother.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Dawn looks back on her 27 years of marriage and how, after seeing her parents' fairytale romance, her expectations were not met.
• Dawn talks about the importance of taking responsibility for your own actions when your relationship is in trouble, and how both parties should do this, instead of just blaming each other.
• One of the things that surprised Dawn the most when she went through her divorce was the new found wisdom she could impart on her children about relationships. She shares these learnings and the benefits that have come from them.
• Dawn recounts the steps she took after her divorce in order to heal and move forward, and shares them with you, so that your 'emotional rollercoaster' may be an easier ride than hers.

BEST MOMENTS

"Nothing is ever black and white. There are so many layers because human beings are so complex."

"The rest of your life is a long time, no matter how old you are."

"50% of marriages end in divorce and 70% of divorces are initiated by women."

EPISODE LINKS

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawn-rish

https://www.tiktok.com/@theawakeningwithdawn

https://www.facebook.com/dawn.r.webster/

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.

This week on the show Ang is addressing the huge subject of how divorce affects your children. After Ang's divorce she was left to raise her two sons. Through this experience she has first hand knowledge of the stigma single mums face, the difficulty in transitioning from being one parent to two and how to help guide your children through the pain. But, Ang has come out the other side and now sees benefits in her relationship with her children that she never expected. In this episode, she shares all her wisdom and learnings so that you, and your children, can also find your happy place.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• As Ang discovered, she didn't just have to get herself through the hardship of divorce, but she had to help her children through the process as well. She talks about the challenges that brings, such as answering tough questions with honesty.

• One of the biggest challenges Ang found was that she was now acting in the role of two parents. She talks about how she overcame this challenge and some of the difficulties in adopting tasks that are usually left to the male role model.
• Still today Ang finds herself in a constant fight with people about the perception of single mums. Ang details how she deals with this, even when she's out on a date with a prospective new partner.
• Once on the other side of the emotional pain, Ang discovered many unexpected benefits of being a single mum, which she discusses.

BEST MOMENTS

"You must give your children a place where they can feel safe and their circumstances are as normal as can be."

"Your own pain is one thing, but the torture you feel when your children's hearts are bleeding is suffering like no other."

"When you're raising children by yourself, the trials and tribulations are magnified, you don't have anyone to take over or comfort you."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://www.instagram.com/doireallyhatemen/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558725612414

www.tiktok.com/@angallanburns

www.linkedin.com/in/angallanburns

e-mail [email protected]

ABOUT THE PODCAST

Do I Really Hate Men?

Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an 'I hate men' podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.

This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.

My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.

NOTE – I need you to know that I don't hate men! It's important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.

ABOUT THE HOST

Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.

Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.

With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.