Do You F*cking Mind?

A couple of topics in this episode today Beans!

Firstly I’ve got a cool science fact about milk and hydration.

And a life update – I’m in META hell and it’s a PSA that you need to turn on 2FA on your social media accounts cause the scam artists are out in full force!

Plus for the bulk of the episode I’m talking about Intrinsic Vs Extrinsic Motivation. How understanding the difference between the two is going to help you to get things done – particularly when you keep falling off the motivation train.  

LINKS:

• Listen to episode 25. What it Takes with Stefanie AKA My Sister at https://pod.fo/e/20d311 .
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CREDITS

Host:  Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer:  Shania Magua
Managing Producer:  Sam Cavanagh 

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The 'Sleepy Girl Mocktail' was a trend going around TikTok that claimed to help you fall asleep, stay asleep and even improve the quality of your Sleep. And it’s all about Tart Cherry Juice – specifically Montmorency cherries or sour cherries.

So what exactly are the ingredients in this drink and how much validity is there to the claims that it helps you not only fall asleep but also stay asleep?

In this episode we’re going to dive deep into the science behind the ingredients, find out what the science says about them and separate the difference between falling asleep and staying asleep. And for those of you that struggle to fall asleep or stay asleep and struggle with maybe Insomnia and staying asleep, this could help you out!

RECCOMENDATIONS:

• Listen to Episode 68 on Serotonin and Tryptophan at https://rebrand.ly/dyfm-ep68 .
• Read ‘Effects of Tart Cherry Juice Beverage on the Sleep of Older Adults with Insomnia: A Pilot Study’ Pigeon, Carr, Gorman and Perlis from JMed Food 2010 https://rebrand.ly/c78aptz .
• Read ‘Pilot Study of the Tart Cherry Juice for the Treatment of Insomnia and Investigation of Mechanisms’ Am J Ther. 2018 Mar/Apr;25(2):e194-e201. doi: at https://rebrand.ly/e1f0bc .
• Listen to episode 191 with the Science/Brain Fact about Magnesium, the best types of magnesium for sleep and how the type of magnesium you take could have a laxative effect at https://pod.fo/e/169d72 .

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• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is my HEAD NOISE episode where you send in your questions and I answer them!

In this episode you’ve asked for my advice on these questions.

1. I'm in my 20s and feel unsure of my direction and purpose. Why do many of us in our 20s experience such feelings of uncertainty?
2. My relationship with my ex-husband has left my in a flight or fight mode. I can feel myself finding myself again and all I crave is peace. I have an amazing new partner who is very patient and understanding HOWEVER because of my previous relationship I learned how to THRIVE during chaos and difficulty and now that my life is settling into a normal and more calm space. You’d think life is perfect but my partner has started to point out that I start fights for no reason or say mean things for no reason whatsoever. I know I’m doing it because it was how I survived in the chaos, so how do I thrive now that I’ve found my peace?
3. What are your thoughts on dating when you STILL have feelings for your ex?

LINKS:

• Listen to my episode with Jemma Sbeg from The Psychology of Your 20s https://bit.ly/dyfm-269 .
• Send YOUR Head Noise questions to [email protected]
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when someone doesn't support your goals? The AMOUNT of times I have been asked this question! So it’s high time I dedicate an episode to it.

I go through the reasons why people might not support you, and how to manage that relationship if you find yourself in that position.

Plus I have an EXCITING announcement about the podcast for my Sydney Australia Beans!

LINKS:

• Sign up to my mailing list at the bottom of my website to purchase presale tickets to my Sydney Live Show! https://www.dyfmpod.com/
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CREDITS

Host:  Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise Cooper
Digital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer:  Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Memories are fascinating things. In this episode I’m covering how memories can be implanted, the concept of false memories, and repressed memories.

You might even find the way you view memories completely changed by the end of this episode!

RECCOS:

• Read ‘Semantic Integration of Verbal Information into Visual Memory’ by Loftus, Miller and Burns at https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1978-26704-001 .
• Watch ‘Making a Murderer’ on Netflix https://bit.ly/49FEIzp .
• Listen to S1 of Serial about Adnan Syed at https://serialpodcast.org/ .
• Read ‘What Science Tells Us About False and Repressed Memories’ by Henry Otgaar at https://bit.ly/43oM7kt .

LINKS:

• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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• Follow @listnrentertainment on IG 
  
  

CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let's get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about friendship, work, love, relationships, you name it! If you want your question answered you can email me at [email protected] . 

1. My sister-in-law and I have a complicated relationship. I believe she is abusive toward my brother and has told him that I am the one making things difficult. Is the only way forward to cut my brother, who is my best friend, out of my life completely? Is there another way forward?
2. My boyfriend has been liking provocative photos of other women online, from barely clothed photos to twerking videos. We are in a long distance relationship and I had expressed that I wasn’t comfortable doing this, and then he stopped. However I can’t get over the fact that he was doing it in the first place. What should I do?
3. Since COVID my boyfriend started smoking w33d everyday, suffered burnout 7 months ago and stopped going to work. I’m losing my patience with him, have tried to talk to him, and he wants to stop this behaviour but he doesn’t. How do I support him while not forgetting about myself. When do I know when enough is enough?

LINKS:

• Send YOUR Head Noise questions to [email protected]
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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• Follow @listnrentertainment on IG 
  
  

CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Asking someone “so what do you do for work” is such a SNOOZE. Here’s my 6 questions to ask people when you want to get to know them. If small talk drives you around the bend then this episode is going to help you improve your chat game by 100%

RECCOS:

• Buy my DYFM Card game at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop .
• Buy Flex Mami’s Conversation Cards at https://shopflexmami.com/collections/conversation-cards .

LINKS:

• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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• Follow @listnrentertainment on IG 
  
  

CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is an encore of one of my early early days episodes – all about Forgiveness! If you’re a new bean this is a great place to catch up, or you’re an OG bean it’s helpful to have a relisten!

This is for people who have apologized but even more so for those who have never sought to apologise or repair the problem. This episode will get you in a place of power and give you much more peace around situations where someone has wronged you.

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• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit.

1)   My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love?

2)    My partner has genital herpes, and has been upfront with me about this. We communicated about expectations in our physical relationship, and how I could most be comfortable and feel protected at the same time. We are now a little further into our relationship and he has started saying things like if I want this relationship to continue I need to stop making him feel so bad about having herpes, that I make him feel dirty and ruin his self confidence because of the precautions I’ve put in place during sex to keep myself at less risk of contracting HSV.

3)    My therapist says I am anxiously attached from a past trauma. I was wondering if you could talk me through limerence vs love, because my anxiety around dating

RECCOMENDATIONS:

• Listen to my episode all about retroactive jealousy – Ep 109 ‘Retroactive Jealousy and Overthinking’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f82f3 .
• Listen to Happy Hour with Lucy and Nikki ‘Opening Up The Conversation Around Herpes ft. Annaleise Easlea’ at https://spoti.fi/3STJNwP

LINKS:

• Send YOUR Head Noise questions to [email protected]
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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• Follow @listnrentertainment on IG 

CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you constantly replay scenarios in your head? What is rumination? And how can you stop these thoughts from taking over your life? In this episode we’ll find out what rumination is, why it happens to some people, and how you can turn it around so you can start living life to its full potential.

LINKS:

• Listen to my episode #48 on Attachment Theory – https://pod.fo/e/1f8308 .
• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
• Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG 
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.