Mismatched desire is one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges couples face.

One partner is in the mood… the other isn’t.

One wants connection… the other is overloaded.

And suddenly intimacy feels complicated, emotional, or even tense.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore what’s really happening when you and your partner want sex at different times and why it has nothing to do with attraction or compatibility.

We talk about the science of spontaneous vs. responsive desire, how stress and timing shape libido, and why most couples naturally fall out of sync without doing anything “wrong.”

You’ll learn:

• Why mismatched desire is normal (and expected)
• How not to take “not tonight” personally
• How to create “bridges to desire” for the lower-desire partner
• Low-pressure ways to initiate affection or intimacy
• Simple rituals that reconnect you emotionally and physically
• What to say (and what not to say) when you’re on different pages

If you’ve ever felt rejected, pressured, confused, or just out of rhythm with your partner, this episode will help you understand each other with more compassion and connection and give you tools you can use tonight.

Every couple feels it — that magnetic spark that makes everything come alive. But what happens when the energy between you goes flat?

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore masculine and feminine polarity — the energetic dance that fuels attraction, connection, and chemistry. We break down what these energies really mean (beyond gender), why balance is essential, and how to reignite that spark when life, stress, or routine dulls it.

Drawing from the work of David Deida and Esther Perel, we talk about:

• The masculine gift of presence — stillness, direction, and groundedness.
• The feminine gift of flow — movement, emotion, and aliveness.
• Why polarity fades in long-term relationships and how to rebuild it intentionally.
• Simple ways to shift the energy between you in everyday life — from tone and touch to who takes the lead.

If you’ve ever felt deeply in love but disconnected from desire, this episode will help you rediscover the charge that makes love feel alive again.

Feeling sexy has a lot less to do with how you look — and everything to do with how connected you feel to yourself.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we dive into what real confidence looks like in the context of intimacy. From body image and aging to self-talk and the energy you bring into the bedroom, we explore how true sexiness starts from the inside out.

We share personal stories about learning to feel comfortable in our own skin, how attraction changes over time, and what partners can do to build each other up without pressure or perfection.

If you’ve ever struggled to feel confident, desired, or fully present in your body, this conversation is a reminder that confidence isn’t a finish line — it’s a practice.

Intimacy doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom — it’s built in the small moments of everyday life.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we talk about what real intimacy looks like beyond sex: emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection. We share the ways we’ve learned to stay close even when we’re not being physical, and how those deeper layers of connection actually make the sexual ones stronger.

From nightly check-ins and shared laughter to moments of quiet understanding, this episode is about rediscovering the many ways to feel connected — and why nurturing them can reignite everything else.

If you’ve ever felt like intimacy only counts when it’s sexual, this conversation might change how you define closeness forever.

What if foreplay didn’t start five minutes before sex — but five hours before?

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore what foreplay really means and why it’s so much more than a quick warm-up. From small gestures and emotional connection to playful anticipation, we talk about how desire starts long before clothes come off.

You’ll hear how we each experience foreplay differently, what truly builds anticipation throughout the day, and why slowing down might be the most powerful turn-on of all.

If you’ve ever felt like foreplay is something you “don’t have time for,” this episode will change the way you think about desire — and how to keep it alive, even on busy days.

You love your partner — but sometimes, you’re just tired.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we talk about what really happens when life, work, and exhaustion get in the way of intimacy. From mental load and stress to the myth that desire should always come first, we unpack why being “too tired” isn’t a sign of disconnection — it’s an opportunity to redefine what intimacy looks like.

We share practical ways to stay close even when energy is low: from micro moments of connection to the idea of responsive desire (that spark that shows up after you start). You’ll also hear how we handle those nights when one of us wants closeness and the other wants sleep — and why sometimes the sexiest thing you can do is rest together.

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep your connection alive when you’re running on fumes, this episode will help you slow down and reconnect without pressure.

We all want to be honest about what turns us on — but saying it out loud? That can feel tricky.

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore how to communicate your desires in ways that actually build connection instead of shutting it down. From side-by-side conversations (as Dr. Charlie Glickman recommends) to asking better questions inspired by the Libido Fairy, we share how small shifts in language can completely change the energy between you and your partner.

We also open up about real moments in our relationship — like the first time Scott brought up trying sex toys (yes, while hanging Christmas ornaments) — and what made those conversations feel playful, not pressured.

If you’ve ever wanted to ask for something new, deeper, or different without killing the vibe, this one’s for you.

Is putting intimacy on the calendar the secret to keeping your connection alive — or the fastest way to kill the mood?

In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we dive into one of the biggest debates in modern relationships: whether sex should be spontaneous or scheduled. We explore why spontaneity feels so exciting, why scheduling might actually increase satisfaction, and what the research really says about both approaches.

We also share practical ways to make planning feel sexy instead of routine — plus how to find a middle ground through what we call intentional intimacy.

If you’ve ever struggled to balance busy lives with a thriving sex life, this conversation is for you.

What happens when you invite a stranger’s voice into your bedroom? In our very first episode of Do You Feel That?, we share the story of pressing play on a guided intimacy session for the very first time.

Was it sexy? Awkward? Surprisingly deep? Maybe all of the above. We talk about how it felt to set the scene, what surprised us during the experience, and the honest conversation that followed afterward.

If you’ve ever wondered whether guided intimacy can bring you closer or just make you laugh, this episode pulls back the covers on our unfiltered, real-life experience.

Show Notes & Links:

• 💜 Explore guided intimacy with our app: Coelle
• 🔑 Learn more about your Erotic Blueprint™ from Jaiya: Erotic Blueprints
• 👉 Connect with us on Instagram: @coelleapp