DONE PLAYING BY THE RULES

Speaking of “shit we’re not supposed to talk about”, this week, Jenelle bares all aspects of her plastic surgery journey. She pre-recorded half the episode and then come back to explain the REAL truth behind surgery, recovery and the stigma around enhancement procedures. Jenna will pepper her with questions, as usual, and both hosts will discuss the benefits of lymphatic massage. Plus, all your neighbors are getting procedures, they’re just not talking about it openly, so let’s blow the lid of this “taboo topic.

Rad bra company mentioned by Jenelle at the 4 minute mark:

https://www.liviloulaine.com

Scar tape:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09C1FZY78/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Drain holder for shower (boob job or tummy tuck):

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09VYTH3ZX/ref=cm_sw_r_oth_api_i_JPJ7RV1NJ1BPDVP41JH7?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

ALSO recommended for tummy tucks:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088R55BX6/ref=cm_sw_r_oth_api_i_QC245ER6S92R5TY1KC27?th=1

Friend of the show/Digestive wizard:

IG: @whitneyc.the.rd

IG Influencer that advocated for post surgical care:

@mywholeassjourney

TW: Self-harm mentioned at 38 minutes.

In this episode, Jenna and Jenelle discuss the TikTok that went viral, about a piece posted on thecut.com entitled, “Epiphany in the Baby-Food Aisle: On a trip to the grocery store one day, I had a realization about me, my son, and the meaning of life."

By Jessi Klein

The hosts dive into the many ways motherhood “annihilates us” and how we all do our best to cope.  How every mom you meet is fighting a silent battle, and how we all are just doing our best to not run away screaming most days.  

The Article:

https://www.thecut.com/2022/04/excerpt-ill-show-myself-out-jessi-klein.html

The Book:

https://www.amazon.com/Ill-Show-Myself-Out-Motherhood/dp/0062981595/ref=asc_df_0062981595/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=564630212541&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=1506460334774740677&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9021546&hvtargid=pla-1665108995037&psc=1

Oooh hot topic alert! Bullying is very prevalent in today’s society, but is it TRULY bullying or is it teasing? Listen in to learn the difference and what to do if your child is experiencing either situation. Jenna and Jenelle cover both sides on this episode by diving in on what to do if your kid is being, bullied as well as what to do if your kid IS the bully. 

Notice of Harassment form- http://www.documatica-forms.com/bullying.php

Stopbullying.gov 

https://goop.com/wellness/parenthood/when-your-kid-is-the-bully/

TW: Eating disorders and child death imagery discussed.

Jenna and Jenelle catch you up on, surmise, their current favorite workouts, before diving into a Mental Health Month topic.  Anxiety produces intrusive and/or ruminating thoughts in people with the condition, but Jenna will explain other disorders than can produce the symptoms described in this episode.  Also they will touch on some of their lowest lows with intrusive and ruminating thoughts (perinatal and postpartum anyone?), as well as what they have found helps in their never ending quest to be the best, mentally-ill humans they can be.  

Peloton: Reminder, we can send you a free trial and you don’t need an equipment for barre classes. Go to strength, the sub-category barre. 

Free trial link:

https://www.onepeloton.com/digital/checkout/digital-gp-60d?utm_source=ios_app&utm_medium=in_app&code=e99302c8088d4e28a5a6a0d29ba2f4e8&locale=en-US

Licorice tabs - https://www.nhc.com/rhizinate-fructose-free-by-integrative-therapeutics?quantity=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=sales-new-business-pla&gclid=Cj0KCQjw1N2TBhCOARIsAGVHQc68PZ_qb9DUKPh4DNnLcfnq829nr0NcBTJUhVCp6Nya5r0Ryh-cXmMaAtbHEALw_wcB

Books on evolutionary brain wiring:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062316117?tag=goodbooks009-20&geniuslink=true

Let’s talk attachment styles! This week Jenna and Jenelle discuss the different types of attachment styles, what it means for adulthood and what can be done if a desired attachment style isn’t achieved. Listen in as the ladies work their way through the attachment styles and be sure to take the ACE quiz linked below. Enjoy!

GOOP article: 

https://goop.com/wellness/parenthood/how-to-raise-securely-attached-children/

ACE quiz: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean

https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-styles-2795344

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm

This week, Jenna and Jenelle tackle the ever changing economic landscape and whether or not that still fits with the traditional 4 year college experience.  Jenna and Jenelle are admittedly “college apathetic” but will bring some discussion points to the table for both sides of the debate.  Is college going to relevant for “Generation Alpha” and what college alternatives are currently being offered as well as what is to come.  

Sources:

https://www.inc.com/ryan-jenkins/straight-to-work-6-reasons-generation-z-will-skip-college.html

https://investedwallet.com/best-gig-economy-jobs/

It’s the one year anniversary party! This week, Jenna and Jenelle decided to shake things up a bit and asked you for some of you best, most awkward dating stories.   Enjoy all the cringe with none of the personal experience and ever-lasting trauma of having to live through these awkward dates.  All true stories.  Mostly listeners and friends of the show.  

Hot topic alert! On this episode Jenna and Jenelle discuss the cons (AND pros) of screen time. Screen time is such a popular topic in today’s world and the ladies try to cover all the bases of this topic. They also give tips for how to include more screens in a healthy way, as well as how to screen detox for anyone interested in that wild adventure (we do it all the time, so we’re basically experts… JK no parent is an expert on anything, TBH).  Jenna is much more limited with screens than Jenelle, but Jenelle is still considered a “limited screen” family.  But both your favorite hosts have had wildly different views and practices throughout their mom-ventures.  

Boy’s Adrift book- https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Adrift-Epidemic-Unmotivated-Underachieving/dp/0465040829/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=1334807681055764&hvadid=83425718989764&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=66922&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-83425828115147%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=8895_13533692&keywords=boys+adrift+book&qid=1647551330&sr=8-1

Jenelle’s Articles:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/childrens-health/in-depth/screen-time/art-20047952

https://www.forbes.com/sites/ericmack/2019/10/22/oxford-study-challenges-what-youve-been-told-about-screen-time-and-kids-for-years/?sh=5a6000ce13bd

https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Watching-TV-054.aspx

TW: Miscarriage discussed at 14:48

In this week’s installment of “the shit we’re not supposed to talk about”, Jenna and Jenelle tackle the tricky topic of why women are so quick to talk badly about each other.  Why does it feel ingrained in our DNA to put down other women for having things we want or for being more successful than us?  Is it hardwired, or is it this face-paced social media world we all live in?  Join the hosts as they discuss why YOU might be critical of someone else, what it means when someone is critical of you, and whether someone else’s opinion of you ever REALLY matters.  Yes, that includes BOSSES.  And also, the paradox of “being great at something” and what that really means?  Are you really THAT great, or do you just possess something one small fraction of society finds valuable?  Join us on another wild ride, exploring why women criticize other women, this week on Done Playing By the Rules. 

https://goop.com/wellness/career-money/why-women-criticize-each-other-plus-ways-to-play-bigger/

Have you ever been faced with the difficult situation of talking to kids about death and/or grief? In this episode, Jenna and Jenelle cover this heavy and uncomfortable (yet important) topic. While they are not certified experts (IN LITERALLY ANYTHING), they do have a ton of (unfortunate) first-hand experience in discussing death and grief with young children. The ladies give tips from personal experience, as well as from well-researched articles. While this topic is heavy and something most of us don’t like to think about, the ladies do try to keep it light. Maybe they'll even toss in some inappropriate jokes? Who knows! Tune in this week to learn how to talk with kids about death because, unfortunately, we will all have to face it, sooner or later.

Books referenced:

The Invisible String- https://theinvisiblestring.com

Waterbeds and Dragonflies:Explaining Death to Young Children- https://www.amazon.com/Water-Bugs-Dragonflies-Explaining-Children/dp/B00D82131W/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1I4L43JKQW8UG&keywords=waterbugs+and+dragonflies+book&qid=1646860219&s=books&sprefix=waterb%2Cstripbooks%2C74&sr=1-2

Why Do Things Die- https://usborne.com/us/first-questions-and-answers-why-do-things-die-9780794551025

It’s Ok that You’re Not Ok- https://www.amazon.com/Its-That-Youre-Not-Understand/dp/1622039076/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=1346902551495407&hvadid=84181633381221&hvbmt=be&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=66922&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=e&hvtargid=kwd-84181956235431%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=22592_13494530&keywords=it%27s+ok+that+you%27re+not+ok+book&qid=1646867074&sr=8-1