In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Shit, Coach Dorie sits down with Dr. Danielle Griffin to break down what’s really happening when your body starts shutting down—and why ignoring stress can cost you more than you think.

Dr. Danielle shares her personal journey through burnout, grief, and overwhelm during one of the most intense seasons of her life. Despite doing “all the right things”—working, staying active, eating well—her body began to deteriorate. From sleep deprivation to chronic pain and high blood pressure, the warning signs were there… but like so many of us, she kept pushing through.

Until she couldn’t.

This conversation dives deep into the truth about nervous system dysregulation—what it actually looks like in real life (not just buzzwords), how stress gets stored in the body, and why so many high achievers are silently suffering.

You’ll learn:

•  What a dysregulated nervous system really is 
•  How stress turns into chronic pain 
•  Why you feel exhausted even when you “rest” 
•  The connection between burnout, trauma, and your body 
•  How somatic practices, breathwork, and hypnotherapy help you heal 
•  Why awareness is the first step to real change 

Dr. Danielle also clears up common myths about hypnotherapy (no, nobody’s making you cluck like a chicken) and explains how these tools work alongside—not instead of—traditional medicine.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode… this episode is your wake-up call.

Because your body is always talking. The question is—are you listening?

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ADHD or Trauma? The Truth About Your Brain, Your Triggers & Your Healing

Episode Summary:

What if the symptoms you’ve been calling ADHD… are actually trauma?

In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Shit, Coach Dorie sits down with Charles Cogshell to break down one of the most confusing conversations in mental health right now:

👉 Is it trauma… or is it a neurodivergent brain?
 👉 And what happens when it’s BOTH?

They unpack how trauma can mimic ADHD symptoms like lack of focus, emotional overwhelm, impulsivity, and brain fog—and why so many people are mislabeling survival responses as personality traits or disorders.

This is the conversation people are afraid to have… but desperately need.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Neurodivergence explained simply: A brain that processes and learns differently 
•  Why ADHD exists on a spectrum (not just one “type”) 
•  How trauma rewires the brain and impacts focus, memory, and emotions 
•  The role of the amygdala (fear center) and why you feel constantly “on edge” 
•  How trauma can create: 
  •  Brain fog 
  •  Emotional dysregulation 
  •  Hypervigilance 
  •  Forgetfulness 
•  Why toxic relationships ARE real trauma (not “you being dramatic”) 
•  How being neurodivergent can make you more sensitive to trauma
•  The truth about cumulative trauma (little T vs big T)
•  Why your brain may be stuck in survival mode
•  How healing trauma can actually reduce ADHD-like symptoms

🧠 Tools Mentioned:

•  Breathwork (square breathing) 
•  Grounding techniques (5-4-3-2-1 method) 
•  Cold water reset 
•  Vagus nerve stimulation 
•  Somatic practices (body-based healing) 
•  Talk therapy & trauma processing 

💥 Real Talk Moment:

Just because someone else “went through worse” doesn’t mean your trauma isn’t real.

Your brain responds based on your sensitivity, your experiences, and your nervous system—not someone else’s.

🎯 Call to Action:

If this episode hit you, it’s time to stop labeling yourself as “broken” and start understanding what your brain has been trying to protect you from.

👉 Ready to heal for real?
 Join my coaching programs or connect with me to start your journey.

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In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Sht*, Coach Dorie sits down with transformation coach and Tony Robbins trainer Holly Fair for a raw, inspiring conversation about what it really takes to go from chaos to queen energy.

Holly opens up about her deeply personal journey through trauma, including childhood abuse, abandonment, divorce, and the heartbreaking loss of a pregnancy. She shares how these experiences shaped her identity, leaving her feeling unworthy, unseen, and stuck in survival mode for years. At her lowest point, Holly describes spending nearly two years isolated in grief - until one unexpected moment sparked a life-changing shift.

After discovering a Tony Robbins event, Holly made a decision that would redefine her life. In a breakthrough moment on stage, she declared, “I am a queen,” and began the process of reclaiming her worth, her voice, and her power. What followed was not an overnight transformation, but a committed journey of healing, discipline, and identity work.

One of the most powerful symbols of her transformation was her #CrownDayEveryDay challenge - wearing a crown daily for nearly two years. What started as a simple experiment became a profound tool for rewiring her mindset, stepping out of hiding, and fully owning her presence in the world.

Together, Dorie and Holly dive into the realities of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the societal pressures women face when they choose to show up boldly. They also explore what true “queen energy” looks like - grounded in self-worth, authenticity, and lifting other women up instead of tearing them down.

This episode is a reminder that healing is messy, growth requires courage, and you don’t need permission to become the woman you were always meant to be.

Connect with Holly at https://fireuplife.com/

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Stress, Intuition, and Healing the Nervous System | Hailey Coleman

In this powerful episode of the Don’t Ask Me Shit - The Podcast, Coach Dorie sits down with Hailey Coleman, widely known as a Psychic Nervous System Coach. Haley blends trauma-informed coaching, somatic nervous system regulation, emotional clarity, and intuitive insight to help overwhelmed women move from survival mode into calm, clarity, and confidence.

Haley shares her deeply personal journey of healing after an emotionally abusive relationship that pushed her body into extreme stress and panic attacks. What started as a survival response eventually became the catalyst for her work helping others understand how trauma, chronic stress, and burnout impact the nervous system.

In this conversation, Coach Dorie and Hailey break down how many people are unknowingly living in constant survival mode. High cortisol, anxiety, brain fog, poor sleep, digestive issues, and emotional overwhelm can all be signs that the nervous system is dysregulated—even for people who appear successful and “put together” on the outside.

Hailey explains why stress can block intuition and disconnect us from our inner guidance. When the body is stuck in fight-or-flight, the brain focuses only on immediate survival, making it difficult to trust our instincts or make aligned decisions.

The discussion also dives into practical tools for calming the nervous system, including simple grounding techniques, breathwork, and somatic practices that help the body release stored stress. Hailey shares a powerful exercise that anyone can start using immediately to begin calming their body and rebuilding self-trust.

Another key part of the conversation focuses on boundaries and energy protection. Hailey explains how rebuilding self-trust often starts with small boundaries—like learning to stop apologizing unnecessarily or saying yes to everything.

This episode is an honest conversation about healing from toxic relationships, understanding trauma responses, and learning how to reconnect with yourself after stress has taken over your life.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burned out, disconnected from your intuition, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will give you insight, validation, and practical tools to begin your healing journey.

Listen now and join the conversation.

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In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Sh*t, Coach Dorie sits down with special guest Dakota, a recent high school graduate and college student, to have an honest and eye-opening conversation about bullying. Together they explore something many people don’t realize: bullying is often our first experience with a toxic relationship.

Dakota shares her personal experiences with bullying and explains how harmful behaviors are often disguised as jokes, friendships, or “just how people are.” From backhanded compliments to threats framed as humor, the conversation reveals how these interactions slowly shape self-esteem and internal dialogue. Words may not leave physical bruises, but they can echo in someone’s mind long after the moment has passed.

Coach Dorie reflects on how bullying has evolved across generations. While bullying used to be limited mostly to school environments, today’s students face something very different. With social media, texting, and constant online interaction, there is often no escape from harassment or negative messages. Dakota also discusses how modern content—from viral fight videos to reality TV—can normalize toxic behavior, aggression, and unhealthy friendships among young people.

Another important part of the discussion focuses on parental involvement. Dakota emphasizes that one of the most powerful things parents can do for their children is simple: be present. Creating a safe space where kids feel comfortable sharing their experiences can make a huge difference in helping them navigate bullying, peer pressure, and social challenges.

The episode also dives into deeper issues such as generational trauma, the influence of media, toxic friendship dynamics, and the ways children learn relationship behaviors from the environments around them. Dakota offers thoughtful insight on how early experiences with bullying and conflict can shape how people handle relationships later in life.

This conversation isn’t just about bullying—it’s about awareness, accountability, and breaking cycles of harmful behavior. Dakota also shares her vision of creating a student-led podcast where young people can openly discuss issues in schools and work toward real solutions.

If you’ve ever experienced bullying, supported someone who has, or want to better understand the emotional impact it can have, this episode is a must-watch.

Listen now and join the conversation.

Key Takeaway

Bullying isn’t just schoolyard drama - it’s often the beginning of harmful relational patterns that can follow people into adulthood. Recognizing these behaviors early and providing support can help young people develop healthier boundaries, stronger self-worth, and better relationship skills for the future.

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Don't Ask Me Shit the Podcast - Episode 4

You’re doing the work.
You’re setting boundaries.
You’re more aware than you used to be.

So why are you still spiraling?

In this episode, Coach Dorie breaks down what’s really happening when your body reacts before your brain can catch up — especially after narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, or betrayal trauma.

Spiraling isn’t weakness.
It isn’t immaturity.
And it definitely isn’t you being “too sensitive.”

It’s a nervous system that learned to survive instability.

What You’ll Learn:

• What spiraling actually is (and what it isn’t)
• Why your body reacts before logic kicks in
• How trauma creates pattern detection
• The cycle of trigger → reaction → shame
• How to interrupt emotional spirals in real time

Key Takeaways

✔ Spiraling is a body response, not a personality flaw.
✔ Hypervigilance is learned survival.
✔ Shame after reacting is part of the trauma loop.
✔ Regulation — not self-criticism — breaks the cycle.

Reflection Questions

1. What situations activate me the fastest?
2. What does my body do before my thoughts catch up?
3. What would a regulated response look like instead of a reactive one?

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If this episode resonated, send it to someone who keeps asking, “Why am I still reacting like this?”

Healing isn’t linear.
And awareness is the beginning of stability.
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This show came from years of hearing the same questions asked over and over again — about relationships, healing, boundaries, self-worth, and why things keep falling apart — while people secretly hoped for answers that wouldn’t require them to change anything.

Here’s the truth:
I’m not here to coddle you. I’m here to be real with you.

Don’t Ask Me Shit is a space for honest conversations about the things people avoid talking about or only whisper about behind closed doors. We talk about patterns, accountability, emotional wounds, toxic dynamics, and the work it actually takes to heal and grow.
If you’re looking for validation without responsibility, this probably isn’t your podcast.
But if you’re ready to hear the truth, sit with it, and do something different — you’re in the right place.

Because you can ask Coach Dorie…
but if you’re not ready to do the work — don’t ask me shit.

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