Don't Ask Me Shit

In this episode of Don’t Ask Me Sh!t, Coach Dorie sits down with relationship expert Andre Paradis to have the conversation most people avoid.

We’re talking about:

💜Why your childhood is still controlling your relationships
💜How trauma shapes your beliefs about love, trust, and self-worth
💜The subconscious programming created before age 7
💜Why you keep attracting the same type of partner
💜The truth about “I’m not lovable” beliefs

⚠️ Warning: This episode might trigger you… but that’s where the healing starts.

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This episode is not for people who want to stay comfortable.

If you’re still looking for someone to co-sign your excuses… you’re in the wrong place.

Today, I sit down with licensed therapist and author Johnzelle Anderson, who’s using storytelling as a powerful tool for healing. We dive into his debut book Mixtape: A Memoir - a raw, layered exploration of identity, trauma, race, and what it really means to take your life back.

We talk about:

• Growing up in toxic environments and navigating identity as a biracial man
• The difference between experiencing trauma and becoming it
• Why accountability is the missing piece in most people’s healing
• How music, storytelling, and self-expression can become anchors in chaos
• The moment everything shifted - and what “unapologetic freedom” actually looks like

This conversation is real, unfiltered, and necessary.

Because healing isn’t about blaming your past forever…
It’s about deciding who you’re going to be despite it.

🎧 Tune in if you’re ready to grow - not stay stuck.

Connect with Johnzelle: https://www.johnzelle.co/

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⚠️ Trigger Warning:
This episode contains discussions of suicide, suicidal ideation, mental health struggles, religious trauma, and experiences related to gender identity and marginalization. Listener discretion is advised. If these topics feel activating for you, please take care while listening or choose to come back when you feel supported.

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In this powerful and deeply human conversation, we explore identity, nervous system regulation, trauma, and what it really means to feel safe in your own body.

Our guest shares their lived experience navigating gender identity, late autism diagnosis, and growing up in a conservative religious environment that made authenticity feel dangerous. From masking and misdiagnosis to reclaiming joy and connection, this episode is both eye-opening and deeply validating.

We unpack:

☑️What it really means to be neurodivergent

☑️The truth about late autism diagnosis

☑️How trauma lives in your nervous system

☑️Why you can “do the work”… and still fall into old patterns

☑️Identity, gender, and what “assigned at birth” actually means

☑️The connection between people-pleasing, codependency, and survival

☑️What happens when you're told you’ll never make it, and prove them wrong

This conversation is honest, layered, and not sugarcoated.

If you’ve ever felt “different,” overwhelmed, or like you had to hide parts of yourself to survive, this episode is for you.
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In this powerful and real conversation, Coach Dorie sits down with Nan, also known as the “One Bite, Done” coach, to unpack the truth behind binge eating — especially for women who seem disciplined on the outside but struggle in private.

After 30 years of binge eating, Nan shares how she broke free from the cycle of restriction, guilt, and starting over, and how you can too.

This episode dives deep into:

•  Why nighttime is the danger zone for overeating 
•  The restriction → rebellion cycle (and how to break it) 
•  The emotional triggers behind binge eating 
•  Why willpower isn’t the problem 
•  The difference between permission and “giving in” 
•  How to stop feeling out of control around food 

If you’ve ever said, “I’ll do better tomorrow,” this episode is for you.

🎯 You’ll walk away understanding:
 You’re not broken. You’re stuck in a pattern — and patterns can be changed.

To work with Nan: https://www.milobingefix.com/

https://www.milobingefix.com/masterclass

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In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Sh!t, Dorie sits down with intuitive coach and psychic medium Laura Hoorweg for a deep, no-fluff conversation about what it really takes to heal, grow, and reconnect with your authentic self.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected, or like you’re just going through the motions—this episode is for you.

Laura breaks down the truth about:

• Why most people are disconnected from who they really are
• The impact of conditioning from family, culture, and society
• What “energetic baggage” actually looks like in your life
• The difference between surface-level healing and root-level transformation
• Why there is NO magic pill—and what actually works
• How meditation supports your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health
• The truth about self-care (and why bubble baths aren’t enough)

This conversation also dives into hard truths about worthiness, generational patterns, and why so many people are afraid to truly face themselves.

If you’re ready to stop running, stop masking, and start doing the real work—press play.

To work with Laura visit her website:🌐 http://www.spiritspeaks2.me

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In this powerful episode of Ask Coach Dorie, I sit down with stress management expert, speaker, and 6-time Amazon #1 bestselling author Lolita Guarin to have a real, unfiltered conversation about stress, burnout, and the truth behind why so many high-achieving women are running on empty.

Lolita shares her journey from immigrating to the U.S. and chasing the “American Dream” to working herself into a life-threatening health crisis. What she discovered will challenge everything you think you know about stress.

We’re not just talking about being “busy.”
We’re talking about generational conditioning, childhood trauma, and a society that rewards burnout.

🔥 In this episode, we cover:

✔️How childhood conditioning creates a “burned-out personality”
✔️Why hustle culture keeps women stuck in survival mode
✔️The hidden signs your stress is turning into burnout
✔️How stress shows up in your body before you realize it
✔️Why self-care feels uncomfortable (and even wrong)
✔️The power of delegation and doing less—not more

Lolita’s CALM Process to take control of your stress

This episode is your wake-up call:
👉 If you don’t slow down, your body will do it for you.

💬 Ask yourself:
Are you managing your stress… or ignoring it until it manages you?

Book a call with Lolita:

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On the call, we explore where they are feeling stuck, stressed, burned out, or unclear, and identify practical next steps that fit their situation.

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In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Shit, Coach Dorie sits down with Dr. Danielle Griffin to break down what’s really happening when your body starts shutting down—and why ignoring stress can cost you more than you think.

Dr. Danielle shares her personal journey through burnout, grief, and overwhelm during one of the most intense seasons of her life. Despite doing “all the right things”—working, staying active, eating well—her body began to deteriorate. From sleep deprivation to chronic pain and high blood pressure, the warning signs were there… but like so many of us, she kept pushing through.

Until she couldn’t.

This conversation dives deep into the truth about nervous system dysregulation—what it actually looks like in real life (not just buzzwords), how stress gets stored in the body, and why so many high achievers are silently suffering.

You’ll learn:

•  What a dysregulated nervous system really is 
•  How stress turns into chronic pain 
•  Why you feel exhausted even when you “rest” 
•  The connection between burnout, trauma, and your body 
•  How somatic practices, breathwork, and hypnotherapy help you heal 
•  Why awareness is the first step to real change 

Dr. Danielle also clears up common myths about hypnotherapy (no, nobody’s making you cluck like a chicken) and explains how these tools work alongside—not instead of—traditional medicine.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode… this episode is your wake-up call.

Because your body is always talking. The question is—are you listening?

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ADHD or Trauma? The Truth About Your Brain, Your Triggers & Your Healing

Episode Summary:

What if the symptoms you’ve been calling ADHD… are actually trauma?

In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Shit, Coach Dorie sits down with Charles Cogshell to break down one of the most confusing conversations in mental health right now:

👉 Is it trauma… or is it a neurodivergent brain?
 👉 And what happens when it’s BOTH?

They unpack how trauma can mimic ADHD symptoms like lack of focus, emotional overwhelm, impulsivity, and brain fog—and why so many people are mislabeling survival responses as personality traits or disorders.

This is the conversation people are afraid to have… but desperately need.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Neurodivergence explained simply: A brain that processes and learns differently 
•  Why ADHD exists on a spectrum (not just one “type”) 
•  How trauma rewires the brain and impacts focus, memory, and emotions 
•  The role of the amygdala (fear center) and why you feel constantly “on edge” 
•  How trauma can create: 
  •  Brain fog 
  •  Emotional dysregulation 
  •  Hypervigilance 
  •  Forgetfulness 
•  Why toxic relationships ARE real trauma (not “you being dramatic”) 
•  How being neurodivergent can make you more sensitive to trauma
•  The truth about cumulative trauma (little T vs big T)
•  Why your brain may be stuck in survival mode
•  How healing trauma can actually reduce ADHD-like symptoms

🧠 Tools Mentioned:

•  Breathwork (square breathing) 
•  Grounding techniques (5-4-3-2-1 method) 
•  Cold water reset 
•  Vagus nerve stimulation 
•  Somatic practices (body-based healing) 
•  Talk therapy & trauma processing 

💥 Real Talk Moment:

Just because someone else “went through worse” doesn’t mean your trauma isn’t real.

Your brain responds based on your sensitivity, your experiences, and your nervous system—not someone else’s.

🎯 Call to Action:

If this episode hit you, it’s time to stop labeling yourself as “broken” and start understanding what your brain has been trying to protect you from.

👉 Ready to heal for real?
 Join my coaching programs or connect with me to start your journey.

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In this powerful episode of Don’t Ask Me Sht*, Coach Dorie sits down with transformation coach and Tony Robbins trainer Holly Fair for a raw, inspiring conversation about what it really takes to go from chaos to queen energy.

Holly opens up about her deeply personal journey through trauma, including childhood abuse, abandonment, divorce, and the heartbreaking loss of a pregnancy. She shares how these experiences shaped her identity, leaving her feeling unworthy, unseen, and stuck in survival mode for years. At her lowest point, Holly describes spending nearly two years isolated in grief - until one unexpected moment sparked a life-changing shift.

After discovering a Tony Robbins event, Holly made a decision that would redefine her life. In a breakthrough moment on stage, she declared, “I am a queen,” and began the process of reclaiming her worth, her voice, and her power. What followed was not an overnight transformation, but a committed journey of healing, discipline, and identity work.

One of the most powerful symbols of her transformation was her #CrownDayEveryDay challenge - wearing a crown daily for nearly two years. What started as a simple experiment became a profound tool for rewiring her mindset, stepping out of hiding, and fully owning her presence in the world.

Together, Dorie and Holly dive into the realities of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the societal pressures women face when they choose to show up boldly. They also explore what true “queen energy” looks like - grounded in self-worth, authenticity, and lifting other women up instead of tearing them down.

This episode is a reminder that healing is messy, growth requires courage, and you don’t need permission to become the woman you were always meant to be.

Connect with Holly at https://fireuplife.com/

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Stress, Intuition, and Healing the Nervous System | Hailey Coleman

In this powerful episode of the Don’t Ask Me Shit - The Podcast, Coach Dorie sits down with Hailey Coleman, widely known as a Psychic Nervous System Coach. Haley blends trauma-informed coaching, somatic nervous system regulation, emotional clarity, and intuitive insight to help overwhelmed women move from survival mode into calm, clarity, and confidence.

Haley shares her deeply personal journey of healing after an emotionally abusive relationship that pushed her body into extreme stress and panic attacks. What started as a survival response eventually became the catalyst for her work helping others understand how trauma, chronic stress, and burnout impact the nervous system.

In this conversation, Coach Dorie and Hailey break down how many people are unknowingly living in constant survival mode. High cortisol, anxiety, brain fog, poor sleep, digestive issues, and emotional overwhelm can all be signs that the nervous system is dysregulated—even for people who appear successful and “put together” on the outside.

Hailey explains why stress can block intuition and disconnect us from our inner guidance. When the body is stuck in fight-or-flight, the brain focuses only on immediate survival, making it difficult to trust our instincts or make aligned decisions.

The discussion also dives into practical tools for calming the nervous system, including simple grounding techniques, breathwork, and somatic practices that help the body release stored stress. Hailey shares a powerful exercise that anyone can start using immediately to begin calming their body and rebuilding self-trust.

Another key part of the conversation focuses on boundaries and energy protection. Hailey explains how rebuilding self-trust often starts with small boundaries—like learning to stop apologizing unnecessarily or saying yes to everything.

This episode is an honest conversation about healing from toxic relationships, understanding trauma responses, and learning how to reconnect with yourself after stress has taken over your life.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burned out, disconnected from your intuition, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will give you insight, validation, and practical tools to begin your healing journey.

Listen now and join the conversation.

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