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Well does reframing work? The answer which is so often the way with psychology (and perhaps shouldn't be surprising given how complex we are) is complicated. It can be incredibly helpful but differs from positive thinking. While we all know we can't just think differently at the drop of hat, we often led to believe that we can. In fact, this can be hugely damaging to your mental health. We discuss why, and how you can use cognitive reframing in a way that can work for you. 

For more on this go to my first book (specifically the end of chapter 3 and chapter 9 of the 2nd edition) Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential: 

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

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Perhaps unsurprisingly we discuss all things psychology and relationships. Well not all because there’s soooo much to cover but I try. Rosie talks about spending five years with a girlfriend who was not out to her parents and the invisibility and hurt that entailed, to taking part in an experiment at Essex University’s ‘Sex Lab’ using what she has hilariously described as a ‘techno tampon’ in order to measure her levels of sexual arousal. We also discuss the people who have influenced Rosie’s comic capabilities, her role models and how she is perhaps unintentionally a role model herself – to young gay women yes, but also to anyone who has suffered the pain of a breakup. Do take a look at her latest book, it’s well worth a read. 

Check out the book at https://linktr.ee/breakupmonologues

And you can follow Rosie on Twitter @rosiewilby or Instagram @breakupmonologues 

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While Zal was one of the first employees at DoorDash helping it grow to its value of the $50 billion in 2021, he remains modest, down to earth and incredibly easy company. We talk about life growing up as a child in the San Francisco Bay Area, being there from the beginning of a startup which grew to be a giant, his Zoroastrian heritage, what family means to him and married life in London.

There’s so much more to discuss that he may come back for a second episode.

For more from me (including info on my books) go to: 

https://fionamurden.com 

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Cody Royle is currently the head coach of AFL Team Canada, the men's national program for Australian Rules football. Cody is also an author, international keynote speaker, podcast host, football coach. He currently coaches 13 head coaches from seven team sports in five different countries. 

Cody is a standout voice on how pro sports teams create sustained success. His widely-acclaimed debut book, Where Others Won’t, is a go-to guide of easily-implementable leadership strategies that have been quality-tested by some of the world’s most iconic and successful teams. 

The sustained success of the book initiated a podcast of the same name, which has reached the top 100 in four countries and maintains a 5-star rating on iTunes.

Most recently, Cody has turned his attention to coach wellbeing and performance with his second book, The Tough Stuff, becoming a bestseller in Australia, Canada, the UK, and the United States. 

A native of Melbourne, Australia, Cody resides in Toronto, Canada with his wife.

For more from Cody go to:

https://www.codyroyle.com

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Aidan is the host and founder of the Innovation Show, broadcast globally and on national radio stations in Ireland and Finland. He is author of the bestselling book "Undisruptable: A Mindset of Permanent Reinvention for Individuals, Organisations and Life" which includes a Foreword by Visa founder Dee Hock. “Aidan’s presentation is visual, story rich and full of interesting analogies to bring concepts to life.”

Aidan is a Change Consultant, Board Director and Executive Coach. He works with organisational teams to improve how they engage and innovate. He is a champion for change and has reinvented in his own career after rugby. Aidan worked in transformation for digital, innovation and now culture and leadership.

Aidan played rugby over 100 times for Europe’s most successful teams: Leinster and Toulouse and represented Ireland.

He developed the digital eco-system for Communicorp Media Group, served as Head of Innovation for Ireland's National broadcaster and worked as an innovation consultant for Global company Katawave.

Today he sits on the board of National Broadband Ireland, rolling out connectivity to the remotest parts of Ireland.

He developed and delivers a module on Emerging Technology Trends in Trinity College Business School, ranked 1st in Ireland and in the top 100 globally.

For more from Aidan go to:

https://aidanmccullen.com

For more from me follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me at:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

For example, we discuss how psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky who wrote The How of Happiness, says that about 50% of our baseline happiness level is down to genetics, but income only accounts for 10%.  The remaining 40% is about all about the “intentional activities” we undertake, such as giving back to others. We talk about what constitutes and ‘intentional activity’ including prosocial behaviour. We even veer into a conversation about whether altruism is really about being truly good or making ourselves feel better. 

So, can money buy happiness or at least make us happy? Well, yes and no. We definitely need enough to cover our basic needs, but finding our purpose, giving back and connecting with others has a hugely powerful impact also. 

There's more about finding your purpose (which doesn’t require a penny of money but finding it will help you live a much more fulfilled life) in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

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Or for Lou

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Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

We also discuss a whole range of other areas of health and fitness including:

• What barriers do people face to getting fit and how can they overcome them?
• What’s the impact of social media on our beliefs about exercise? 

While some people are inspired by what they see, many of the exercise influencers create a persona that people are unable to live up to. This can be extremely harmful and demotivating for many and from a psychological standpoint this means we don’t have a realistic context for what we’re trying to achieve for ourselves. Sarah and Lou discuss why it’s so important to understand where we’re are at personally, where our body is at and what our purpose is and keeping these front of mind as far as possible. 

• The two types of motivation relating to exercise: intrinsic – which comes from within and extrinsic – comes from someone else motivating you. 

The trick of a trainer is to move the extrinsic to motivation to the inside so someone still has it once you’re not there. When you find someone who can do that for you you’re on to a winner. Sarah does this in more than one way but something that stands out is that her clients like her. She treats them as equals and with respect so they don’t have a need to impress or desperately clammer for approval rather are driven by a genuine desire to work with her and even to please her. 

About Sarah: 

Sarah Gorman is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. She qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

For more from Sarah go to: 

https://sarahgorman.fit

@sarahgormanblendfitwww.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

There’s a questionnaire from the Centre for Disease Control (USA) exploring what your barriers to exercise may be and how to overcome them in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

The New York Times article referred to can be found here:

https://www.nytimes.com/guides/year-of-living-better/how-to-be-more-empathetic

A full copy of the transcript will be on my website shortly:

https://fionamurden.com

Part of this episode was taken from my book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human which can be found here. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My other book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with me here:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

There is no end point or goal, it’s a process which Scott Eberle editor of the American Journal of Play describes as being somewhere in between a start and an end, an “in between [where] you find surprise, pleasure, understanding – as skill and empathy – and strength of mind, body and spirit.” 

For more from us follow these links: 

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACan

https://bit.ly/2ylrc7H

My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

https://amzn.to/2lFMwOr

Connect with us/ask us any questions on:

Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murden

Twitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurden

Facebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Or for Lou

Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78

Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com 

Sarah is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. Her career started on stage in physical theatre and dance. When she had her first child she returned to university to study for a second degree, this time in teacher training from where she taught at The Brit School in London for a number of years. 

But that’s not all – she had previously qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. 

Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” 

Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. 

Listen in to hear more about Sarah’s fascinating story and go to 

https://sarahgorman.fit

Follow Sarah on Instagram at:

@sarahgormanblendfit www.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit

To connect with me go to:

@fiona_murdenwww.instagram.com/fiona_murden

If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ 

https://bit.ly/MirrThink

Or my how about my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’ which can be found via the link below and in all good book stores:

https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd

For more on Fiona visit www.fionamurden.com