Down To The White Meat

In this episode, we give you a look behind the scenes.  Listen up as co-hosts, Ce Anderson and Nickia Lowery discuss their passions and what inspired the creation of the show.  Learn some of the secrets about your favorite co-hosts and why it's so important to be your authentic self.  Get ready to laugh, may be even cry as we share some of our struggles through out the years. Now let's get down to the white meat!

In this episode, we sit down and discuss the Black experience in public school systems in America.  We are joined by the Nicholas Gant an artist, teacher, and all around dope soul.  Listen up as we discuss disparities in the system and the importance of representation in the classroom.  Now let's get down to the white meat!

Guest contact info: Instagram: @ghettofalsetto; Twitter: @ghetto_falsetto; email: Ghettofalsetto.bandcamp.com

In this episode, we  confront sexual shame, myths, internalized negative feelings, and ways to develp a healthy relationship with sex and your sexual identity. If you've ever judged yourself OR others based on sexual behaviors, listen up!  If you've felt ashamed about your sexual feelings, this is for you. If you find it difficult to talk about sex with your children or even your partner, listen twice.  Now, let's get down to the white meat!

Guest info:  Jasmine Johnson aka Jet Setting Jasmine is a licensed clinical psychotherapist with a strong emphasis on Intimacy Post Injury and Illness. She is the owner and lead therapist of full-service mental health practice, Blue Pearl Therapy. Jasmine is an international sex educator and Master Fetish Trainer.  Along with her partner King Noire Jasmine co-owns the three-time award winning, Royal Fetish Films and has over 20 years of experience in the adult industry, in front and behind the camera. Jasmine has a  Bachelor's of Sociology and a Masters of Clinical Social Work from The Florida State University.   You can follow Jasmine on instagram @Jetsettingjasmine

In a world where Black women are unprotected, disrespected, and neglected we are holding a space for you today Black woman.  In this episode, we discuss self care like you have likely never thought of.  Join us for another transparent and real discussion as we explore self love, now let's get down to the white meat!

In this episode, Dr. Jeff Menzise, PhD.  returns to help us dig deep into the dynamics in relationships where making it down the aisle feels elusive. We examine why "struggle love" is a "debt" that is often never repaid and comes with no guarantee of a ring.  It's time we take an honest look at ourselves and dispell the misconceptions that lead BOTH men and women astray. Thank you for joining us, now let's get down to the white meat!

In this episode of Down To The White Meat we examine the psychology of leadership within the  Black church as well as other toxic behaviors within the church that are in need of healing in order to move toward change.  We will take an objective look at Pastor John Gray and the dynamics of a his relationship and public opinion. Come sit and listen as we discuss and explore accountability, honesty, shame, and guilt within the church and beyond.  We will examine the cycle of abuse and the harm the church can cause when fostering a unhealthy environment for those who are hurting and need healing because 10% truth is still 100% of a lie.  Thank you for joining us, now let's get down to the white meat. 

In this episode of Down To The White Meat its time to release your grief.  We understand. We want to hold a space for you during this episode, to explore whatever sense of loss you have been feeling as a result of so many tragic events over the past few months such as changes that COVID-19 has brought. Come sit with us as we discuss recent police shootings, tragic deaths of protestors, and the untimely death of Chadwick Boseman.  The impact of grief and secondary trauma can be devastating to your life and we are hear to help you make sense of those feelings and provide some tips on how to cope.  Thank you for joining us, now let's get down to the white meat!

In this episode, Chasity Chandler joins us as our sex expert to discuss the distorted perceptions of sexuality in our community.  This episode will examine attitudes about sex and how they were shaped.  You will learn how your early sexual development shapes your relationship with sex as an adult.  How to dismantle unhealthy thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.  Parents will walk away with some basic tools on how to manage sex talk with your children and how to improve your attitudes around those talks.  Its time to develop a healthy relationship with sex so lets get down to the white meat!!!

Guest info:  Chasity Chandler, LMHC, MCAP, ICADC, CST, CDWF.  Chasity is the CEO of Center for Sexual Health & Wellness, LLC where she specializes in working with children, teenagers and adults on general mental health, trauma, sex/sexuality issues and substance abuse. She works extensively with the LGBTQ+ population on many concerns and she does a lot of work with couples in the areas of communication, conflict resolution, increasing intimacy and passion in their relationships as well as infidelity and more!  She is a three time author in her 2019 Best Selling Anthology Sex After Divorce: Been There, Done That & Had The Orgasm to Prove it! With her chapter “Sex, Love & All The Bullshit in Between!” the 2019 Best Selling book Brand New Me The Pursuit of Wholeness with her chapter “A Quest to Feel Wanted” and the 2018 Black Therapists Rock Anthology with her chapter "Sex, Sexuality & Gender: The Unspoken Connection to Mental Health”.  

Contact info: Instagram: @chasforchange : website: chasitychandler.com

In this episode, we examine the various factors that magnify the impact of domestic violence in the Black community and why its necessary to address these issues in order to decrease incidents of intimate partner and family violence in our community.  You will walk away from this episode with a better understanding of the victim and perpetrator of violence, how to support your love one experiencing abuse, and how to avoid getting trapped in an abusive relationship.  If you have been a victim of abuse, you will learn some effective ways to move beyond the abuse.  Now, let's get down to the white meat! 

**Resources**

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Love T.A.P.S by Ce Anderson, M.S., LPC ( available on Amazon and Barnes & Nobles)

12 Ways To Healing: A Guided Journal For Moving Beyond Toxic and Abusive Relationships. By Nickia Lowery, LPC, NCC, CAMS ( available on Amazon and Barnes &Nobles)

The lack of protection from childhood abuse/trauma is often a catalyst to further harm and susceptibility to predators.  In this episode, we will examine the core of why this cycle continues and give some perspective on how to support and protect our Black girls.  Joining us for this discussion is Chiquita Tillman who is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and human trafficking, now thriving as an advocate and author.  Below you will find her contact information as well as five steps to respond to sexual abuse when a child discloses. Now let's get down to the white meat!

Five steps to respond to disclosure of sexual abuse from your child:

1. Believe them and validate their disclosure: " I am so sorry this happen to you and I believe you"  will help them feel safe

2. Do not ask any details that were not readily given.  It is important that the child is not traumatized further for lack of effectively being able to process what has occurred with your child. 

3. Try not to react.  Your child is already in a very fragile state when disclosing this information.  Try not to react in a way that will cause further fear, anxiety, or worry ( such as stating you will cause harm to the perpetrator) 

4. Contact advocacy center immediately.  There are individuals trained to provide supports needed for your child to heal and criminal investigation to take place if you choose to move forward in this manner.

5. Do not immediately reach out to other family members to disclose the information or attempt to confront the perpetrator along with your child. This will cause further trauma for your child.  

**National sexual abuse hotline: 1-800-656-4673**

Guest contact information: Chiquita Tillman.  Author of " I AM A Ruby Not A Sapphire".  Website: iamarub2u.com.