Many wounded people are very psychic and clairvoyant. They had to be as children so they could sense when their drunk or abusive parent was coming home and whether or not they needed to hide or not. The problem with this is as an adult with a lot of psychic talent if you haven't worked on your wounds your wounded self will be leading your intuition and you will be guided by a lot of irrational magical thinking. Listen in

If you have this even to the slightest degree it can be torturous. Underneath It All our control issues and under control issues is fear... And at the bottom of that there's a lack of faith and trust both in yourself and in spirit. It's not the worst condition to have as a little bit of perfectionism usually means that someone will do a good job but if it's ruling your choices instead of being a tool that you use it can be exhausting as well as anxiety producing

We're in the era where people learn to talk very glibly and articulately about being codependent or their attachment styles or they spew out the right words about self-care and mindfulness. Their mouths are moving but they are not internalizing or synthesizing or even practicing all the language they are learning. Some people are using all of the vocabulary and hypnos of pop psychology to create a false sense of belonging to a community. It's the howl of implementation that makes all the difference between mocking up recovery and using presentation to feel like you belong versus walking a Path.

A lot of spiritual people new age people and maybe just lazy people don't like to use their left brain. But it isn't a mistake that we have a left brain. Like yin and yang left brain and right brain, science and magic go together and learning to use both in balance is an art necessary for living a good life and implementing self-care

Cults, new age religions, lazy educators create factory learning. One fits all methodology one fits all trainings that promise you the same outcomes no matter who you are and if you don't get the outcome it's your fault. But life is not consistent like that. The weather is not consistent your food is not consistent. The one thing that is consistent about life is change. And learning how to learn while being resilient and coping with change is how one becomes a healthy balanced human being with mature skills. If you keep looking for a Teacher who is consistent, who will give you the answers without you having to work or figure things out for yourself, you are looking for a cult, you are looking for someone to do your own emotional labor.

No matter how good a teyacher you might be working with.... no matter what great books you're reading or podcast you're listening to.... without application, without practice, it's information without wisdom. Being a learner is a lifestyle....a choice. Being a learner means you are willing to make mistakes and work through all the complex feelings that come up when you feel you have made a mistake. Being a learner also means that your life is incredibly rich and complex and so much fun.

You don't have to be free of shame and remorse or free of low self-esteem or even self-hatred in order to be proud of yourself. We humans can hold more than one emotion at a time and we usually do. You can work on becoming more of the person you want to be while still processing some of the things in your past or present that make you feel bad about yourself. Both can go on at the same time and they usually do unless you get stuck in the swamp of self-hatred.

You can stop participating in people's dysfunctional patterns. Stop being the person they want you to be change the relationship to being more of your authentic self with that person. This is a complex and very personal series of choices and a lot of it is related to having the privilege of being able to show up as an authentic person. But to some degree all of us have this option.... To become the unperson and shift the relationship to a healthier dynamic

Lots of people going to healing and want to be told who they are. They want to be told what sign they are.... What attachment disorder they might have or if they're new age their gift and their talent and their purpose. By the way wanting to be told all of this makes you a perfect candidate to be a cult member. Finding out who you are and being in a relationship with yourself is one of the most rewarding purposes talent gift Journey you could ever have. But it means you have to walk the Path.

A very brief and very surface discussion about sex and sexuality. Sex is energy and talking about energy is like talking about eating a meal as compared to eating a meal. To really work on sexuality one needs to work with sexual energies and that means working with the sex therapist or your partner or partners or a tantric worker which are almost impossible to find and which most westerners can't handle. But at least this brief discussion with my perspective on it might be a little bit helpful