Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

It is amazing that when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. Many of us have experienced adversity and perhaps trauma in our lives, and all too often we allow these cracks and chips we've acquired to define us. We can sometimes carry these stories with us like a heavy briefcase or barbell. When we learn to see the beautiful in the broken, we are able to set down this heaviness and delight in the magnificence that mends the cracks and makes us whole. We can become even more radiant than we were before.

#brokenandbeautiful #trauma #kintsugi

For some reason, many of us have a difficult time looking in the mirror and liking what we see. We glance up and down and from side to side, scanning for imperfections. Then the dialogue starts with all the ways we don't measure up and about how much farther along we thought we'd be by this time in our lives. These messages are coming from deep in the vault of the unconscious mind. Thankfully, we can develop our own malware to rid the mind of these negative mental viruses, and reprogram our hard-drive to think, feel, and live our best lives.

#selfacceptance #selflove #rewirethebrain #mindpower

Our ability to prioritize our own self-care is directly related how much we value ourselves. People will often say that what keeps them from indulging themselves is time, family responsibilities, this and that, all of which may be true. However, the umbrella over these most often involves a component that is missing which is self-value. When we are not feeling worthy underneath it is very difficult to show ourselves love and compassion, to treat ourselves well and even to pamper ourselves with treats. We are not talking about being frivolous, just thoughtful and kind to ourselves. It is our number one job to fill ourselves up, as we also cannot give what we do not have.

#selflove #worthiness #wholeness #selfcare

Many of us allow our negative thoughts to take over much like a snowball picks up momentum rolling down a hill. With every small advancement it gets heavier and faster, until it begins to take on a life of its own. As the thoughts we allow dictate how we then feel, it is of utmost importance to become aware of this "thought attack" when it begins. We must notice when we under this siege of friendly-fire so that we can nip this in the bud. It takes awareness and diligent effort to rewire the brain. The good news is that whatever we practice, we inevitably get good at. Practice. Practice. Practice.

#snowballeffect #stopnegativethinking #rewirethebrain #positivepsychology

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The pandemic has dramatically changed nearly everything about how Americans view work. What has changed--where we work, when we work, as well as how  we define a "workday." Working out of the home can also be a boundary-less existence, with our daily career related tasks bumping up against piles of dirty laundry and the demands of children. Though it is complicated, it is doubtful that our societal exhaustion and now burn-out can be disputed. This has left us in a zombie-state, fogged over and no longer aware of what it means to "take a break," or how important this much need brain-rest is for our overall well-being and productivity. Learn to rest not quit.

#thegreatresignation #takeabreak #brainrest #happiness

In an age where well-being and taking care of oneself have made their way to the forefront of conversation, it seems that generativity may have taken a backseat. In reality, happiness and well-being are about balance. It is a simple fact that we cannot give what we do not have, and it is therefore of utmost importance to keep ourselves "filled up." That said, when we are maintaining a "full bucket" of authentic energy, it is very important to embrace generativity as a super-power, to find moments to give of ourselves generously where we put others before ourselves. It is also important to differentiate between "mind-full giving" versus "mind-less giving," as one is authentic and life-giving, while the other is ego-driven and depleting.

#generativity #mindfulgiving #wellbeing

We may think that invulnerability is a superpower as it makes us look strong (at least we think it does). However, in reality people back away from those donning emotional armor and pseudo-strength, as these people are unrelatable to us. Being vulnerable means being human, and being human means to be connected. Connection is among the most basic of human needs, something we need just as much as breathing oxygen. By dropping the armor we open the door for genuine connection, and, people will like you better.

#vulnerability #dropyourarmor #genuineconnection

There seems to be much discussion out there these days about "brands." This often refers to making your mark with social media and then maintaining consistency with whatever it is that you are either doing or selling. A "brand" can also be attached to what each of us brings to the table, so to speak, as far as authenticity and purpose. We can expand our brand to bring success into everything we do.

#expandyourbrand #authenticity #findyourpurpose

Many of us get a wave of negative emotion when the bills roll in. We can feel resentful, often defeated as we work so hard, and that whoever the clown is who thinks he is funny sending us these nasty things has a very sick sense of humor. It can even feel as if we are being punished. By flipping the script on our "bill-paying mindset," we will increase our cash flow as well as lead much happier and more productive lives.

#moneyisyourfriend #abundance #prosperitymindset

We teach people how to treat us based on the our own thoughts about who we are. About 96 percent of our daily interactions are stemming from the subconscious mind, the vault. We walk around all day long largely unaware that we are seeking external approval and confirmation for these unconscious messages swirling around in the mind. This often keeps us stuck in a cycle of self-abandonment, victimhood, and engaging in a variety of unhealthy codependent behaviors preventing us from becoming the highest versions of ourselves. #codependency #peoplepleasing #rewirethebrain