Dr. UnStuck Podcast — Get Out of Your Head. Get Into Your Life.

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Without self-love, becoming the highest version of ourselves and living our best life is just not possible, as we cannot give away what we do not have. The internal dialogue we allow confirms what we already believe to be true about us and also teaches others how to treat us. #selflove #selflovedeficit #selfapproval #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

We learn about ourselves early on by the grown-ups in our lives mirroring our value and all of the wonderful things about our unique selves. When this mirroring doesn't happen or comes up short, the result is often a deficit of self-love. This self-love deficit leaks into every aspect of our lives, our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting, work and school performance, as well as the ability to be creative and to chase our passion. We must reconnect with that sense of original worthiness we came into this world with if we truly want to live the highest version of ourselves.

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No Need to Fix Me: I'm Not Broken | Kimberly Quinn | TEDxUStreetWomen

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Life is not an emergency, or even an urgency for that matter. Yet we allow the smallest of inconveniences and annoyances to pull us under on a daily basis. When we set aside "patience practice sessions" with realistic windows of time just as we would for practicing the piano, life becomes a whole lot more manageable and enjoyable.

#practicepatience #happiness #innerjoy #lifeisgood #selflove #noFOMO #resilience #calmmind #mindpower #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

,We grew up in an environment that shaped us in certain ways such as not to feel, trust, or know how be light and playful. Many of us grew up too fast and felt robbed of a care-free childhood. We learned to be our own worst critics and to question when things began to go too well for us, sometimes sabotaging ourselves to return to that comfortable baseline of chaos and intensity. We cannot do what we don't know; however, once we become aware we then become responsible. Once we know better we need to do better. It is time to break the cycle.

#ACOA #familyaddiction #codependency #innerchildhealing #resilience #breakthecycle #authenticity #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

It is so human to want and need to be actively listened to and understood, and because of this we are often driven very strongly to get other people to understand our own pain or where we are coming from. Ironically, when we seek to understand the other person's emotions or point of view first, we are most often rewarded with the attention and understanding we sought out in the beginning, only it is so much better as it was authentic and unsolicited.

#seektounderstand #activelistening #mindfulness #innerpeace #Authenticity #selfunderstanding #selfacceptance #selflove #worthiness #happiness #joy #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege 

It can be all too easy to seek out the cracks and holes in our lives and relationships and then try to "fix" them. This "weatherproofing" habit is not pleasant for those around us and can become a rather unlikeable trait if not acknowledged and redirected. Become mindful of this tendency and have way, way more inner peace.

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We have been conditioned from early on to think that something must be wrong with us if we don't want to join in on the playground dodgeball game or hopscotch. Those kids who chose to recharge their elementary school selves by picking wildflowers, reading quietly, or watching dodgeball from the sidelines were often coerced right back into the thick of grade school stimulation. As adults, many of us still wrestle with these subliminal shaming messages, even though on some level we are aware that solitude is what we need. Solitude is rejuvenating. Solitude feeds the soul.

#solitude #quiet #introversion #bestill #happiness #joy #innerpeace #selfworth #selflove #selfacceptance #mindfulness #nonjudgment #gratitude #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

It can be easy once we are on the path to authenticity, to get excited about the progress we are making and then become frustrated that it is not coming together fast enough. We can become focused on setbacks rather than realizing that these challenges are part of the whole package leading to spiritual growth.

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Those of us who grew up in an addicted and/or dysfunctional household often learned to judge ourselves without mercy. We became our own worst critics. This is because we grew up thinking and believing that we were not good enough. We then learned to turn these messages inward by seeking out evidence to confirm what we already believed to be true about ourselves.

#ACOA #familyaddiction #addictionrecovery 3selfjudement #selfcrticism #codependency #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #resilience #selfvalue #selfworth #selflove #selfacceptance #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege

Those of us who grew up in an addicted home more than likely became quite comfortable with deception. This may have been in the form of lies, cover-ups, inconsistency, or broken promises. Your family may have even instilled the importance of telling the truth as a virtue, leading to the concept of the truth losing its meaning entirely. The basic fact is that children learn from what they see and hear from their caregivers. If you grew up with deception this became normal and comfortable for you. Lying and deception became easy.

#ACOA #familyaddiction #innerchild #addictionrecovery #codependency #innerchildhealing #resilience #worthiness #selflove #selfacceptance #Champlaincollege #Stmichaelscollege